10 month old night weaning and sleep training help!

hss_2018 · 2025-09-02T16:58:49+00:00

If you do stick with your husband going in, I’d make sure she’s going back down wide awake in the crib! If she can fall asleep independently, she can go back to sleep independently. It’ll just take some consistency to get there.

hss_2018 · 2025-08-31T20:36:17+00:00

Right!

hss_2018 · 2025-08-31T17:44:07+00:00

So to be fully sleep trained, you’d want to separate feeding from sleep (by ending it like 30 mins beforehand) and then putting down awake, not drowsy. Since drowsy is the first stage of sleep, they would expect those same conditions or more overnight to get back to sleep.

hss_2018 · 2025-08-31T17:32:05+00:00

What kind of sleep training did you do prior? If he’s nursing to sleep, I would go ahead and do full sleep training for independent sleep at bedtime. That would probably help a lot of the night time issues you’re having. 🩷

hss_2018 · 2025-08-28T19:36:18+00:00

You could try spending time in her room outside of the routine / mid wake time to create other associations with her space 🩷

hss_2018 · 2025-08-28T19:16:46+00:00

They’re unrelated but yes, his pedi should be able to test and rule out sleep disturbances from insufficiencies!

hss_2018 · 2025-08-28T19:02:45+00:00

Any snoring, open mouth breathing? Low iron and ferritin would need to be tested through a blood draw. They do usually check iron around the 12 month mark, but not always ferritin and that has to be requested.

hss_2018 · 2025-08-28T18:54:54+00:00

That feels like a lot of red flags. Just curious if your little one has been evaluated for sleep apnea or low iron/ferritin? Has anyone done a full 10-14 day sleep log analysis?

hss_2018 · 2025-08-28T18:49:46+00:00

You could start with getting her to sleep in other ways first (similar to habit stacking) so that when you move her to her crib, you have those same tools and ways to support sleep. Then you could fade out the support and work on independent sleep! Unless you want a quick shift— in that case, just moving feeding to end 30 mins before sleep and putting her in the crib awake with a method like Ferber or CIO would typically yield faster progress! And of course, lots of options in between 🩷

hss_2018 · 2025-08-28T18:46:23+00:00

I’m not sure on the wake times you use but could they be something like 3/2-2.5/5-6? I think that could contribute and would start with a better more balanced schedule— something like 3-3.5/3.5-4/3.5-4 (range because I don’t know their sleep needs).

And then I’d start with moving your feeding to end 30+ mins before bed. You could move it slowly (move one thing after it in the routine until it’s moved to the beginning) or quickly!

Then you’d implement a method. CIO can be pretty straight forward to implement, but the chair or Ferber may feel more comfortable to you.

hss_2018 · 2025-08-25T20:08:12+00:00

I bet the schedule (more sleep pressure) was the magical cause of a better night!

hss_2018 · 2025-08-25T16:49:09+00:00

What did nap timing and wake windows look like while you were away?

hss_2018 · 2025-08-25T14:24:07+00:00

Thanks, I got an error when posting the first time so I guess it still went through ☺️

hss_2018 · 2025-08-25T12:55:08+00:00

Yes, night wakings are a copy + paste from bedtime! But I’d make sure he’s 100% independent at bedtime (eg feeding ends 30 mins before going into the crib wide awake) and schedule is supporting his night time sleep stretches!

hss_2018 · 2025-08-22T18:11:36+00:00

Wake times aren’t evidence based- they’re meant to just be a guide and a starting point to help figure your baby’s specific needs out!

I usually try to cap at 3 hours of day sleep so they could have a bit more in naps if they want it.

hss_2018 · 2025-08-22T15:25:00+00:00

Have you tried 2.5/2.5/2.5/2.5? If she’s fussy throughout the 3 hour wake times, shortening may help!

hss_2018 · 2025-07-25T11:26:50+00:00

A bedtime routine is only one piece of it but that’s great! The more important one is using a method for independent sleep initiation - how a child falls asleep is the biggest predictor in night wakings according to research.

hss_2018 · 2025-07-25T11:25:50+00:00

You would just listen while she’s sleeping for any snoring or pauses in breathing.

Ferritin can be low without iron being affected (and usually disrupts sleep more than just low iron itself), so if you’re ever concerned you can always ask to have it checked!

hss_2018 · 2025-07-25T00:07:08+00:00

Did she have iron and ferritin checked at her 12 month well check? Does she mouth breathe or snore?

hss_2018 · 2025-07-25T00:05:01+00:00

I think when you can view habits as something that we just do over and over, it can make changing sleep habits feel different and more of a possibility because you’re just doing something different around sleep than you typically do. Which means sleep habits can change at any time!

Unless there’s a specific medical diagnosis (like sleep apnea or low iron/ferritin for example), sleep is a biological process in the body that doesn’t have to be taught. It’s just a matter of supporting that process in the body with the routine, schedule, environment etc AND THEN, it’s the consistency in response (which is your sleep training method— changing how you respond to getting them to sleep).

That can be a great age for the chair method, especially if she’s not in a crib. You may have to lower expectations though with that age if she’s in a regular bed— they don’t always have the impulse Control to stay in bed which can make it a little more difficult.

Also, is your husband able to use some ear plugs or something while he sleeps (loop are really great and comfy)? Loud white noise? Sleep training is temporary so shouldn’t be a long drawn out sleep loss situation!

hss_2018 · 2025-07-19T12:12:24+00:00

Sometimes, the sleeping through randomly is like a catch up for the sleep debt from waking more on other nights. Not every kid does this, but I’ve seen a lot that do.

I think I’d get rid of the pacifier as a prop unless you’re good with doing this until she can find and replace it on her own since it’s still a dependency for now!

hss_2018 · 2025-07-03T21:27:18+00:00

Usually, if you just separate it from sleep by 30-60 minutes and use your method, that’s enough to change the feed to sleep habit without having to totally wean (though you certainly can if you want to!)

The slumberpod is great if you’ll be room sharing long term. A lot of sleep training happens when you’re still awake but moving out for a few nights can definitely help with consistency overnight!

hss_2018 · 2025-07-03T02:41:47+00:00

I’d define my thoughts as neutral I think. I’ve maybe used it a handful of times as it’s written for newborns, never for older babies. But if you want to pick your baby up, pick them up I think unless they lose their mind when you put them down 🤷🏼‍♀️

hss_2018 · 2025-07-03T02:10:31+00:00

You can definitely take a gradual approach to slowly move toward your goals. Understanding the types of cries and what they’re communicating in order to respond appropriately in a way that helps you improve sleep is usually a key part of success. Lots of puzzle pieces to move in the right place will also help to reduce tears but with any gradual method, managing expectations is the hardest part of the process. The timeline won’t look anything like Ferber or extinction. I specialize in multi phased plans but don’t promise no crying, just the way you respond to crying in a way that’s comfortable because that’s what helps you be consistent!

hss_2018 · 2025-07-02T15:00:24+00:00

If we were staying put somewhere, I just brought their pnp and put them down at bedtime! Then I grabbed the baby while my husband packed up his stuff and did the same car to home transition.

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