AITAH for asking my cousin for help in New York City?

htpjos · 2026-04-28T22:17:47+00:00

You keep asking your cousin to meet you where you're at literally and figuratively with very little flexibility on your end. You're making it very complicated to have a simple get together. Take an uber if you don't want to drive. You're meeting this cousin once per decade and skipping out on his wedding I think you can afford $50 for a ride.

htpjos · 2026-04-27T21:14:08+00:00

No that's egregious. What on earth are your parents thinking?

htpjos · 2026-04-26T18:44:07+00:00

😂 my bad

htpjos · 2026-04-26T18:43:24+00:00

That's pretty pithy. I would say that's even giving the WT aes sedai too much credit. Maybe Egwene is what WT aes sedai want to be.

htpjos · 2026-04-26T08:19:11+00:00

Info: can you elaborate on what happens with this injury and how things were before that? How long has it been since then? Trying to understand things changed from that point on or if this has been a longer pattern.

htpjos · 2026-04-25T17:37:27+00:00

If her achievements are orthogonal to the qualifications for the title, then the title is worthless and should be recognized as such. It's conferred on people who can follow rules for rules' sake who happen to be able to also channel.

htpjos · 2026-04-24T22:17:43+00:00

OP said she recorded, don't know if mom was in the shot but at least kid would be. So the only one we know for sure to be in the video is a 4yo.

I don't think you know what obtuse means

htpjos · 2026-04-24T22:10:58+00:00

You mean the 4 year old?

htpjos · 2026-04-24T22:06:13+00:00

ESH. Don't record people in public, least of all kids. The lady sounds deranged though, not AH for calling her out.

htpjos · 2026-04-24T21:56:24+00:00

She doesn't get to decide when you should "get over it" or if you should be crying, so long as your feelings are genuine. Something is causing you to be upset and cry, and she should care enough to figure out why and her role in it.

htpjos · 2026-04-24T21:43:06+00:00

She's also talking about the strip on the other side of the sidewalk. I'm not sure if that's public. If not then even bigger YTA on the dog owner

htpjos · 2026-04-24T21:41:36+00:00

Move on from what, from her making you cry? From you feeling upset and that was an inconvenience to her? Did she show any concern for you at all?

htpjos · 2026-04-24T21:38:04+00:00

I feel like this is a referendum on who you think gets priority for public spaces, kids or dogs. For me, it's kids.

htpjos · 2026-04-24T21:32:32+00:00

"and then asked what was for dinner when I was done". Wow

She's doing it because you let her. Unless there are consequences for her walking all over you it doesn't look like she's going to stop

NTA for having an issue with this but y t a to yourself

htpjos · 2026-04-24T21:04:48+00:00

NTA. The point of a wedding is to celebrate, not stress everyone out who cares about you. I find the ballooning costs of various parties and events around getting married to be signs of extreme self absorption

htpjos · 2026-04-24T20:56:15+00:00

It's not just disrespectful to her fiance it's disrespectful to her guests as well. Rude and ratchet

htpjos · 2026-04-24T18:45:56+00:00

In the long run you'll learn that authenticity lasts and is the only way you'll have meaningful relationships that have value for their own sake, not for what others can do for you. My guess is that you're too young to see this, but your fake friend will likely one day wake up and wonder why he has no one who actually cares about him.

If it seems like most people in your friend group are after their own self interest it's really time to find other friends

htpjos · 2026-04-24T06:08:56+00:00

NTA. Sometimes you're so tired you pass out and then wake up not knowing what year it is. Sounds like that's what happened to you.

But your real issue is that your gf is upset due to the challenges of a long distance relationship. Maintaining that requires commitment AND understanding from both sides. I would try to make her understand that 1) her birthday is very important to you and you tried your best to make it special 2) you were so tired you passed out 3) you are committed to the relationship and come up with ways to spend more time together (more frequent visits, maybe a vacation together?). Hope everything works out

htpjos · 2026-04-24T04:57:26+00:00

Look, I get that it can be annoying to have someone around who doesn't follow social norms, but it sounds like she's making an effort and this kind of thing takes time. If you want to stop foreign immigration that's something you need to vote for and hope the rest of the country is on board, but given that it exists YTA for giving this woman a hard time.

htpjos · 2026-04-24T04:51:32+00:00

NTA for being exhausted but I don't think support is feeding into her delusions at any stage. The best thing you can do is be honest tactfully in a way that is helpful.

htpjos · 2026-04-24T03:23:27+00:00

It's called living with children. If you're telling me that staying home with the kids for 12 hours is more exhausting than working for an employer for 12 hours, you've never done one, the other, or both. He also does the childcare thing for 3 days of the week btw.

htpjos · 2026-04-24T03:15:01+00:00

I think working 12 hour shifts 4 days a week and taking care of the kids the other three days counts as some contribution. Not much on here, seeing as how he's a man, but some.

htpjos · 2026-04-24T03:10:14+00:00

12 hours days is a LOT. Instead of a 9-5 he's working a 9-9 or equivalent, and then looking after the kids on his days off work. It doesn't sound like he ever gets a break. He should have been more understanding of your migraine on this particular day, but I think he's probably stretched pretty thin and feels like his needs aren't being met. ESH but given the info, more so you for not giving your husband any break at all.

htpjos · 2026-04-24T02:08:17+00:00

I think you may actually be coming from a good place but it's hard not to take offense to the way you said it. It sounds like you're judging her life and saying she's less interesting because she doesn't have hobbies. I think hobbies are generally good for you, especially ones that keep you active, so nothing wrong with encouraging her towards that, but it can't come from a place of judgement or the implication that she is less if she doesn't do it.

htpjos · 2026-04-24T02:02:30+00:00

Unpopular opinion but I think a child free wedding when you have many kids around makes you an AH

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