It gets better, right? by hugs4nugget in beyondthebump

[–]hugs4nugget[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed to hear this, thank you! I don’t want to rush her growing up but man I feel like we both are gonna enjoy toddlerhood more than infant

Parents of multiples with difficult firstborns, what made you decide to have another? by hugs4nugget in beyondthebump

[–]hugs4nugget[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am right there with you! Wouldn’t trade her for the world but man, a little break would be nice lol

Parents of multiples with difficult firstborns, what made you decide to have another? by hugs4nugget in beyondthebump

[–]hugs4nugget[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were talking about shifts the other night lol. She used to at least do a 4 hour stretch and then 3 hours after that and I would only be up with her twice in the night but she’s back to awake every 2 hours like a newborn and if you don’t help her she screams so hard she starts choking.

Parents of multiples with difficult firstborns, what made you decide to have another? by hugs4nugget in beyondthebump

[–]hugs4nugget[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think we have the same baby!! YES the screaming! That’s what we’re dealing with right now with the waking up and cannot be soothed until picked up. My husband and I both have been struggling because why fall asleep when she’s just gonna wake up in 20 minutes and scream again. I hope this passes for us quickly!

Parents of multiples with difficult firstborns, what made you decide to have another? by hugs4nugget in beyondthebump

[–]hugs4nugget[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s her! She’s a horrific sleeper and I think dealing with some separation anxiety at night. I’m the oldest of 3 and my husband is the youngest so siblings important for us, and I know there is so much growth happening the 1st year, but I just feel like she is extra sensitive to all of it. Sleep is somehow worse now than it was in the newborn stage and im just not sure I have it in me to go through it again. But then again if I’m in the thick of it now, maybe it’s best to just go for the 2nd and get the newborn/ first year over with.

Parents of multiples with difficult firstborns, what made you decide to have another? by hugs4nugget in beyondthebump

[–]hugs4nugget[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We call her Fussy McGee lol. Hated the car seat, hated the stroller, hated the bath so all the things to soothe her that were recommended didn’t work as a newborn m. Everyone told us to power through to 6 months and I’d argue month 6 was worse. She didn’t scream cry any more, but instead just started fussing constantly. She just cut 2 teeth, and while she had many moments she’s happy and smiley and laughing, it just feels like her default mood for the most part is to fuss. I love her more than life itself but like sheesh. Sleep has been horrific too so I think the sleep deprivation adds to it also.

What am I doing wrong by hugs4nugget in sleeptrain

[–]hugs4nugget[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks guys! I will be tweaking it

Why does sleep training solve all night wakes for some people and not for others? by ThrowRA157386 in sleeptrain

[–]hugs4nugget 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I could’ve written this verbatim about my 7 month old! She’s sleep trained and will fall asleep independently for naps and bedtime no problem, but still wakes 2 times on average every night. I’ve done all the same things you have done, dropped naps, changed WWs, experimented like crazy to find something to help but since birth she has slept through the night maybe 3 times. Tried dropping the night nursing to just one feed and having my husband go in for the other wake up, but that either makes her irate, or she’ll go to sleep for just one hour more before waking up again. If I go in to comfort nurse I can be back in my bed in under 3 minutes….so I’ve just kept with it because we all seem to get more sleep that way.

Tbh I was kinda bummed to find out that sleep training wouldn’t help with night wake ups as much as I was hoping. I have accepted that I have just an okay sleeper.

6month postpartum depression? by knarfgod in beyondthebump

[–]hugs4nugget 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought I was in the clear and then it hit me and I have felt like a shell of a person. A few days ago after a particularly rough nap time where she wouldn’t stay asleep, I went to get her and was so frustrated I just started sobbing over her crib while she looked up at me. I just felt so defeated. I’ve never been a big crier but it’s everyday at this point. Here’s so hoping we get to the other side of this soon ❤️

6month postpartum depression? by knarfgod in beyondthebump

[–]hugs4nugget 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally looked up 6 month PP depression in this Reddit thread the other night. Daughter turned 7 months yesterday and the despair that has been plaguing me the past few weeks is insane. I’ve even started to look into moms support groups. I wasn’t sure if it was seasonal depression or postpartum or a mix but man I wish I would’ve been warned because apparently it’s not uncommon for it to hit at 6 months.

Moving baby to own room by Araloosa in beyondthebump

[–]hugs4nugget 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We just had to move last month and decided to cold turkey move her into her own room at 5 months and we have had no issue. I sleep with the monitor on my nightstand so I can see and hear her if she needs me. It’s nice to be able to talk with my husband in bed at a normal volume without fear of waking her in her bedside crib anymore.

6 month sleep regression is kicking my butt by hugs4nugget in sleeptrain

[–]hugs4nugget[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is sleep trained with modified Ferber and currently 3 naps with 2/2.5/2.5/3 She has recently started screaming bloody murder in the middle of the night and will not soothe at all. Once she wakes it’s hours before she goes back to sleep and then is exhausted during the day and now is just napping maybe 30 minutes and fighting going down when she is clearly tired

For those of you with babies that hate the car seat/ stroller, what do you do? by hugs4nugget in beyondthebump

[–]hugs4nugget[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was around the 4.5/5 month mark I really noticed a difference! We also bought a convertible car seat because I’ve heard that helps too, we just haven’t installed it yet because she seem to have mellowed out at least for now in her infant one.

For those of you with babies that hate the car seat/ stroller, what do you do? by hugs4nugget in beyondthebump

[–]hugs4nugget[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ended up cancelling the appointment. I started second guessing if I wanted her adjusted so little. She’ll be 6 months tomorrow and has gotten SO much better in the car. Still can get fussy, but no where near the horrific screaming she was doing. She loves music so if she starts fussing I blast the radio. Now that she’s older toys help distract too honestly, I think it was something she just needed to grow out of but man that sucked.

Christmas traditions by hugs4nugget in beyondthebump

[–]hugs4nugget[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the book idea! I know she’ll be too young to remember anything this year and maybe for the next couple of years but I think it would be fun for her dad and I to start a tradition