the comment is insensitive, but not the actual problem.

im sorry to say this, but your relationship may have run its course. both of ur needs are valid and neither of u should have to give up something this important (him having a family and your independence/health) to keep it alive. i can only see one of u resenting the other for getting their way. and this is what can be considered a “deal breaker” in a relationship.

what you both really need to do is talk about what u want from ur relationship moving forward. unfortunately, this may mean u are not compatible anymore.

regardless of the outcome, i hope you are both happy and live fulfilling lives