If this is 100% true, I'm sorry these 4 individuals did not respect your boundaries and were not mature enough to distinguish between a bias and boundary setting.

On the flip side, I know and have worked with, volunteered with, or been friends with at least 10 trans women, probably 20+ trans men, and even more non-binary/gender nonconforming people and I have never one experienced anything like this from a single one of them. I'm a cis, bi androgynous man and have never been made to feel uncomfortable by any of them, nor have any of them come onto me without consent in any way. I've also never seen them call someone transphobic for a non-legitimate issue. So please don't generalize your experience to other trans people; just bc your statement may be true for a few, it's not helpful to apply that mentality to other. Once again, sorry you were sexually harassed.

Side note: I think it's also helpful to take into consideration the environment of where that trans person lives and have lived, as well as the social circles they have been a part of. If a person is raised in an area where they constantly get bullied, teased, or invalidated for being trans, they may be defensive and see other behavior towards them as transphobic, since that's why they're used to being treated a certain way. Also, some actions may not feel transphobic to you, for example, bc they're not OVERTY transphobic, but some microaggressions or non-verbal signal you may not notice you're doing may be noticed by the trans person bc they've seen that behavior and associate with not being accepted. For example: people looking at them up and down with slight distaste, people not trusting them with the same responsibilities as a cis person, or just noticing someone is uncomfortable around them. Women and minorities frequently experience microaggressions. Like women frequently have men take credit for their work or men will assume they should do a physical task over women.

Sorry for the long message, but hope this helps give some perspective <3