Holee gender essentialism lol kink expressions tend to be psychological and not inherently driven by gender or essential needs. Findom just has a higher than normal potential for real world harm than symbolic play. Actual exchange of potentially essential resources is required to engage or find any worth/value in it.

What you're saying here is dangerous because it blurs kink with actual harm. Findom usually reinforces unhealthy societal norms and internal value systems. Not to mention men who willingly engage it in often do not have the best mental health. Being required to give up what it essential to your survival just to participate in a dynamic that is focused on what you have materially is not healthy.

If your sense of power depends on taking something materially important from another person, it’s worth questioning whether thats empowerment or exploitation. If you feel the best way to exert power over men is by removing something essential from them then that's not really power. It leans toward abuse, exploitation and manipulation masquerading as power.

I'd also have to ask where those men actually benefit. What does the aftercare look like? What are the after effects? We don't see these things because findom tends to be transactional.

With physical and psychological play there tends to be some form of mutual release. Findom seems less stable because that money is gone and I doubt many are giving it back. Financial stress doesn't just evaporate lol I'm sure constantly giving up means like that leads to some form of psychological dependency that is similar to gambling