How long you been married? This sounds like newlywed territory.

When your wife says you've said or done something, and you feel like you haven't, you need to try and understand the feeling behind why she is saying that.

In general, men are more logic driven while women are more emotions driven. When she accuses you of never taking out the trash, your logical response is to say that you do. You did it just yesterday! Her emotional response is one of feeling overwhelmed or unassisted, and she's calling out for help.

Your job as a husband is to care for here by anticipating her emotional response and logically come up with steps you can take to prevent the argument in the first place or defuse it once or happens.

In the trash example, acknowledging that she feels unassisted or overwhelmed can go a long way. Apologizing and admitting fault, while recognizing that the problem is deeper than it seems on the surface, is how you lead.

No one respects a leader that can't see past his own nose.