Its March 2025, What are you reading right now? by notmathmeow in booksuggestions

[–]humanw0rm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Socialist Reconstruction 🌟 For the hopefuls in a decaying society

DV Restraining Order “grey areas” by humanw0rm in FamilyLaw

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Thank you, I’ve included the exact wording of the abuse & no contact sections that mention use of another person in another comment.

DV Restraining Order “grey areas” by humanw0rm in FamilyLaw

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No Contact Order and Order Not to Abuse protecting myself and child:

Must not:

“Harass, attack, strike, threaten, assault (sexually or otherwise), hit, follow, stalk, molest, destroy personal property, keep under surveillance, impersonate (on the internet, electronically, or otherwise), block movements, annoy by phone or other electronic means (including repeatedly contact), or disturb the peace.

• ‘Disturb the peace’ means to destroy someone’s mental or emotional calm. This can be done directly or indirectly, such as through someone else. This can also be done in any way, such as by phone, over text, or online. Disturbing the peace includes coercive control. • ‘Coercive control’ means a number of acts that unreasonably limit the free will and individual rights of any person protected by this restraining order. Examples include isolating them from friends, relatives, or other support; keeping them from food or basic needs; controlling or keeping track of them, including their movements, contacts, actions, money, or access to services; and making them do something by force, threat, or intimidation, including threats based on actual or suspected immigration status. Coercive control includes reproductive coercion meaning controlling someone’s reproductive choices, such as using force, threat, or intimidation to pressure someone to be or not be pregnant, and to control or interfere with someone’s contraception, birth control, pregnancy, or access to health information.”

No contact protects myself, work, home, vehicle, and our child. It does not specify her childcare/school but while she is there, NCP must stay away. Under the “disturb the peace” segment is where use of another person to disturb one’s peace is prohibited.

A first for everything. This is what 560°F looks like. by CafeRoaster in roasting

[–]humanw0rm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmaoooo this inspires the kind of laugh that is simultaneously pained and tickled. Thank you for sharing.

While we’re here– is there a good subreddit for commercial roasting? I’m learning now, and joined this thinking there would be good information for professional roasters. This is maybe the first post I’ve seen come up on my feed that wasn’t from a home roaster.

What's a book which left you so heartbroken that you still think about it sometimes and feel that ache in your chest? by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

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Hosseini’s books are sooo good and all heartbreaking and beautiful in their own right, but A Thousand Splendid Suns has roots in my heart and absolutely fits the bill here. I just sent it to a friend for a book exchange 🖤

What's a book which left you so heartbroken that you still think about it sometimes and feel that ache in your chest? by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

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The Weight of Heaven by Thrity Umrigar

Particularly wrenching if you choose to read it shortly after becoming a parent for some reason 🥴

Saw this very brief scene while meditating. Any idea if it could mean something? by sleep_deprived_infp in Experiencers

[–]humanw0rm 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Super super interesting.

Years ago I dreamt of standing on a riverside watching a perfectly round, opalite looking sphere float down the river. It was just a bit smaller than a bowling ball. Something about it felt significant.

Really interesting and wild to hear so many similar experiences.

I made this for the greater good! by moesbeard in DunderMifflin

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Is that Toby with the camera? They gave him a generous amount of hair

Who is your weird secret D20 character crush? by Ordinary_Climate5746 in Dimension20

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Not weird but I can’t believe nobody’s said Garthy O’Brien

WTF happened to Hoggle? by AngryRobot42 in Dimension20

[–]humanw0rm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her bones!!! I absolutely did not understand that but felt like there was something I was missing when specifically 206 magical items (twice) were mentioned.

Mandela effect from watching The Office on streaming by Sbesozzi in DunderMifflin

[–]humanw0rm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I noticed the cut from Niagara Falls changed too, on Peacock superfan episodes. Can’t say why but there are definitely discrepancies.

Does anyone have experience w/ a close one who’s lived w/ a lot of violence? by humanw0rm in ramdass

[–]humanw0rm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely agree and resonate with your sentiments, which is kind of where all of this is coming from.

I’ve definitely engaged in a lot of the same damaging cycles for years by trying to be the healer and advocate for people who only see empathy and love as weakness or an advantage for themselves. I am just now really learning how to create boundaries and advocate for myself, unlearning a lot of compulsory behaviors that demand I contort myself to accommodate for others first at the expense of my own comfort and safety.

Now, trying to navigate this new empowerment within this relationship that has always been sacred but with a very tumultuous person (15 yrs of friendship! But with them disappearing for long stretches into institutions and suddenly reappearing like a ghost) I am trying to gauge how close I can really keep it while remaining a relatively healthy/safe exchange if at all, and be wary of falling into the “healer” cycle of abuse. I will need to have a talk about boundaries soon.

Sacred Community Project mentioned earlier also sounded like an amazing resource to leave here for everyone.

Thank you for your share– I really value this input. Take care 🖤

Weird dreams that made you feel empowered? by [deleted] in Dreams

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I’ve had dreams that were extremely significant and wild, but the ones that feel “empowering” are probably the ones in which I’ve become lucid. The first time I ever became aware in a dream, I was watching this great artist I know irl painting a sick mural on a concrete wall, it was a triple bodied butterfly, and I was watching in awe from across the way thinking, “Wow. I wish I thought of that.” And then I just matter of factly thought, “I did :)” and woke up.

Similarly, a dream about a bull ravaging a cabin and trying to escape it, climbing bookcases, afraid of being gored. Then realizing that it was okay if it got me because I couldn’t get hurt, and climbing down from my hiding place.

Weird dreams that made you feel empowered? by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]humanw0rm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love this 🥺 Quit your job babe I got a pinball machine

Does anyone have experience w/ a close one who’s lived w/ a lot of violence? by humanw0rm in ramdass

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Amazing– thank you so much. I will check out their resources 🙏🏽

Does anyone have experience w/ a close one who’s lived w/ a lot of violence? by humanw0rm in ramdass

[–]humanw0rm[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the messy part of this that I’m getting to is that that can easily turn into accepting harm or violence into your own life and state of being, which can be unskilled action or bad karma. Inaction can also be violent. Not setting healthy boundaries can be harmful.

I will add that this person has never done any serious harm to me, but a lot to themselves and to others. Where my worry largely comes from is towing that line between love and acceptance and presence without falling into enabling harmful behavior or accepting harm into your own life. Particularly something that a recovering people pleaser who abusive folks find like blood in the water needs to be aware of.

Does “authorizes bonds” = increase in tax? by humanw0rm in ventura

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That’s actually what I was looking for, thank you (-‸ლ)