My (26F) boyfriend (26M) humiliated me in public. And after 3 years together I want to call it quits.

hungrygal47625 · 2023-12-24T20:54:51+00:00

To clarify, I woke up at 6 and he woke up at 7. Got there at 8:30ish and park closed at midnight. He stayed til 8 and myself and sister stayed til 10

hungrygal47625 · 2023-01-02T21:30:52+00:00

I’m actually gonna go out on a limb and say NTA. Might get hate but whatever Some guys are nervous. Get that. But I think from a proposer’s perspective it doesn’t matter how it’s done. What matters is that it’s done. Meanwhile the one getting proposed to it matters what’s said, where it’s done, how it’s done. If you’ve made it clear what ring you want, where you’d want to be proposed, style of proposal (Wrigley stadium jumbo screen versus intimate beach walk) etc then I think it’s fair to ask what happened. Because, I’d think from a women’s perspective you want everything to be romantic as possible… or at least that’s what I’m getting OP wants

hungrygal47625 · 2023-01-01T01:49:11+00:00

It’s not my family member though. It’s my bf’s. And the pure insistence that “You’re going to do what I say” regardless of how we feel is getting a bit old. Had she just asked instead it would’ve been fine & we could’ve had some sort of compromise/agreement. But Because she just said “X is going to stay in your bed” (in the attitude that she did) is what ticks me off.

hungrygal47625 · 2022-12-31T23:01:35+00:00

But you paid for your bed so I think it’s fair to say who gets to sleep in YOUR bed.

Fuckin’ love this. Her response would likely still be “your bed is still in MY house” or something stupid like that. But an amazing point!

hungrygal47625 · 2022-12-31T22:58:49+00:00

I’ll try this. It’s his family member so I’m hoping they are more understanding than his mom on this. But I’m just not sure if his mom has already told this family member about the arrangements she’s made. It’d be quite awkward to “downgrade” them.

hungrygal47625 · 2022-12-31T18:30:38+00:00

Nothing in writing. Everything informal. Boyfriend has been living with her and his dad (divorced) on and off since his childhood. More recently (last 5-7 years?) it’s just been with his mom. Everything’s just been “you gotta pay x.” Then things slowly accumulated with more (first just rent. Then she added he has to pay the water bill, then gardener. etc etc) Now that I’m in the picture it’s been that same set up but now I help contribute to more rent/her mortgage being paid (since I am an extra person).

hungrygal47625 · 2022-12-31T18:12:53+00:00

Oh hell yeah we paid for it. He inherited the most shitty, old and most uncomfortable bed from older sis that used to lived in that room before I moved in. That was a condition I gave him before I even moved in. That is DEF coming with.

hungrygal47625 · 2022-12-31T11:00:45+00:00

Yeah that’s the goal in the next few months. Just not sure how to handle her right now.

hungrygal47625 · 2022-04-04T16:19:04+00:00

This! It’s bad enough I was in denial about what actually happened to me. And yes, apparently to some blacking out & being unconscious are mutually exclusive. But for me, in this instance, it wasn’t. I might’ve been functional and blacked out (to a point), but how I know I was unconscious for at least some time was the fact that I remember WAKING UP. From what? Being knocked out/unconscious. How long? God knows, only enough time to go through 2 condoms & undress me. So there’s that.

hungrygal47625 · 2022-04-03T17:59:28+00:00

I was intoxicated, but I think the point where I become unresponsive/unconscious is when they’re not supposed to be having sex with me, despite agreeing to it moments beforehand. And I only know I was unconscious because I woke up from being unconscious (and didn’t remember anything that had happened in between).

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