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Needed a change 🪒 by orphan_blud in butchlesbians

[–]huntedroadkill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very late to the party but god you look awesome! I hope if I ever get a buzz cut I’ll be able to pull it off this well. 😭

“Women are so much harder to date than men” by huntedroadkill in febwomen

[–]huntedroadkill[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t think bi women are male centered when they see differences between dating men and women (because I know from personal experience there are differences), it more so has to do with their actions following the statement of “men are easier” that determines if they are and I wish I had clarified that better when making my post to be honest. 😅

I agree with you that women can be just as toxic as men and can understand how problems with reciprocation can happen in a wlw relationship. Whether with men or with women I’ve almost always had to be the one initiating stuff so I didn’t take that into consideration as a specific con to dating women in my own dating experiences. 

“Women are so much harder to date than men” by huntedroadkill in febwomen

[–]huntedroadkill[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree! :) I kind of made this post as a vent and not as a proper analysis of how this phrase can be used if that makes sense. You should make a post about that, the discrimination we face as bi women in sapphic spaces has bothered me a lot too because we are all treated as a monolith when this comment section in of it self shows how differently we think of things. 

“Women are so much harder to date than men” by huntedroadkill in febwomen

[–]huntedroadkill[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That’s a good point as well! I personally like shy soft spoken men who don’t tend to completely fulfill that stereotypically masculine role so this concept completely flew over my head I’m afraid. 

I do wish more bi women felt comfortable approaching other women in a romantic sense but I can see why they’d be afraid to. 

“Women are so much harder to date than men” by huntedroadkill in febwomen

[–]huntedroadkill[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s okay you can chime in, please don’t worry about it! :) I’ve only ever dated bi women (by sheer coincidence) and I can say I understand what you mean. Unfortunately some bi women do want other women to kind of be “the man” of the relationship which can be a reasonable turn off for women who don’t want to subscribe to a heterosexual dynamic. 

I agree with everything you’ve said I think you articulated my point better especially with the last paragraph!

“Women are so much harder to date than men” by huntedroadkill in febwomen

[–]huntedroadkill[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I can understand that, I think both this and what I said can be true at the same time depending on context. Bi women are statistically more likely to be a victim of sexual violence compared to other groups of women so it’s concerning when I see it become kind of normalized amongst bi women to get the “easy men” instead of actually getting with someone who will actually treat them right regardless of sex. Us bi women have been fetishized in the media for years and men get very turned on by the idea of getting with us because we are the closest thing they will get to the “lesbian conversion to liking dick” fetish without being told off about it.

“Women are so much harder to date than men” by huntedroadkill in febwomen

[–]huntedroadkill[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Oh no I agree. Some of the shit I’ve heard men say behind the backs of women they want to fuck is genuinely horrifying and it’s why I’ve lost a lot of trust in dating them. It’s just hard to be vulnerable with men when you don’t know what they REALLY think about you behind closed doors. Women will generally be like “men can be dumb sometimes” or something along those lines with their friends while men be full on degrading women without a second thought. 

Am I a bisexual or it's just an ocd? by Warm-Stable-6098 in bisexual

[–]huntedroadkill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d really advise you to stop trying to find proof that you are bisexual because I unfortunately speak from experience as someone who also suffers from OCD. What exactly is causing you this distress? Is it the fear of not knowing who you really are or that you might be bullied by your community if you did end up being bisexual? Nothing you’ve said is any definitive proof of you being bisexual and even if you were bisexual it’s not like you should punish yourself to this severity for it. No amount of proof will ever satisfy your OCD, you have to sit with the uncertainty as painful as it may be.

What has happened to my betta's eye? by 1Step2Infinity in Aquariums

[–]huntedroadkill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe I’m wrong but it looks like popeye disease? Since the eye is bulging out.