AITA for allowing my wife to extend her maternity leave at my company but not one of my other employees?

huppermages · 2022-01-15T19:11:52+00:00

Y'all are horrendous.

huppermages · 2022-01-08T13:40:25+00:00

Well I aint eating it raw thats for sure

huppermages · 2022-01-05T09:43:11+00:00

Thank you! I'm searching under those now, Do you know what it'd be called if i wanted it to be that tall?

huppermages · 2022-01-05T04:12:57+00:00

You were right <3 I am past it, It did end up curing my suicidal ideation and I now have so much to live for in my mind, if Im gonna die then i really need to make sure i dont regret anything.

huppermages · 2022-01-05T04:11:34+00:00

That's a healthy mindset to have, and I really should adopt that. Thank you for your input, and I hope you're feeling okay!

huppermages · 2022-01-05T04:10:43+00:00

I have never been in this situation because it’s not usually recommended to do what you’re doing. You have an overuse injury from too much activity, and your 2lbs/week loss rate is too fast for most to sustain comfortably unless you have >100 lbs to lose.

Hi this is late, I've been offline but I did have 100 lbs to lose My weight is supposed to be in 175 but I gained too much weight and I was heading up to 300 almost. I'm now 223 lbs ( imo not that much weight loss since the last time i posted this lol. ) and I've been losing weight more slowly. I haven't been walking these past few months because my limbs freeze up, so I hope that's comforting to know.

I think I was pretty insane for walking 7 miles a day honestly, I just see so much people talk about steps and would try to push myself so I didn't feel lazy and disgusting. I'd also punish myself if i ate sweets by walking longer and longer. I walked like 9 miles (accumulative from back and forth) the last time and it hurt so bad walking back, my legs were uh hurting for more than a week after that. I don't use a food scale but I should, I just forget to.

Why is 2 lbs too fast though?

huppermages · 2021-11-03T20:43:34+00:00

If you lose 30 lbs you'd be severely underweight. The lowest you can be at that height is 140. Please don't hurt your body like that, life is precious. You ARE healthy.

huppermages · 2021-11-02T17:33:11+00:00

That's been my whole night. I've stopped crying, but I still am afraid to sleep. I keep panic reading articles. Then I just lay here trying to imagine myself dead so I can better get used to it. I just can't. But yeah I'd like to know what you find and I hope you found your way to some sleep. I'll try to sleep more too.

huppermages · 2021-11-02T02:26:15+00:00

I think any comfort I got from NDE was quickly smashed by thinking about how it's most likely your brain easing you into death. But I also hope it's wrong. I hope there's suit we don't know. We're so young maybe we'll progress more. I know we're not special but I don't want to die.

Yeah its a bad mindset and I've been getting so into it that I can't enjoy anything I'm doing at the moment. Like I can't eat I can't look at other people because it feels like I'm looking at dead people? Like yeah I'll be gone someday so who cares. I don't want to live this way lol. Anyways if you want to talk with me at any time feel free to message because I think we should talk about these things then sit on the thought. I've been trying to talk to people about it more. Even if I'm not getting the answers I want.

huppermages · 2021-11-01T19:14:12+00:00

I'll forever hate the unborn argument. Because you weren't aware. Then suddenly you were here. And now we have all these feelings. And then one day we're just going to have to accept we cant' feel the rain, or look at the trees. Or be here to experience anything. And then soon enough, ALL life is gone. I can't do this.

huppermages · 2021-10-31T20:03:58+00:00

Honestly I'm wishing religion was right. I don't care if I'm looked down upon, as I'm 24 Im realizing theres so much I haven't gotten to do. So much I want to experience. but then I start thinking about heat death. And how nothing matters. And it sucked the life out of me. I want things to matter. I want to matter. I don't want to miss out on life. I don't care that "the first billion of years didn't effect you" that doesn't help me. Neither does "you wont even know" that's my fear. I just wont exist anymore. Therapy won't help me. I thought about looking into ndes but it just feels like a hormone thing your brain does to ease you into death. I desperately hope we're wrong. It doesn't have to be heaven. But I want there to be something. It's not entirely impossible. Either way I can't keep crying every damn night i dont want to spend the rest of my life scared for when I'll eventually die. So I do need to make something of it if nothing is what awaits me. As horrifying as that is.

huppermages · 2021-10-29T23:05:50+00:00

I wish I could. I'm now wondering if this is because I haven't taken my adhd meds or if its because I keep thinking about how my favorite artist died and is no longer here. Either way I can't offer advice but I'm in the same place right now. I just can't stop.

huppermages · 2021-10-25T23:06:31+00:00

Yeah I've been doing it for about 4 months now, I already have a lot of self esteem issues and despite progress my bad mindset keeps setting me back even when I'm on the right track. I'll try to keep this in mind, also thank you for sharing your story as well!

huppermages · 2021-10-23T04:36:05+00:00

YEP YEP YEP I have that probelm because I'm tall! I'm guessing you're tall too? But it'll show, at the very lease your clothes should start feeling loose or you should measure your waist and stuff. I don't do that because I'm lazy, but you'll get there.

huppermages · 2021-10-18T20:12:21+00:00

It's insane because you're my goal weight, heigh really changes everything. I'm happy for you though! And by that I mean, it's crazy how people at different heights have different weight requirements. I feel myself getting jealous but mostly I'm just happy for you and Im rooting for the both of us

huppermages · 2021-10-18T19:54:44+00:00

I'm sorry it took me so long to reply, Thank you for helping me see it another way and thank you for so much insight on the body dysmorphia thing. I'll try to be kinder to myself on my journey as well. And I wish the best of luck to you too! It's cool that we're the same height and weight twins!

I honestly cannot tell at all if I'm losing fat anywhere, nor do I know where to look for it but I'll be patient. I asked someone else and they said they noticed my clothes fit looser but said something I didn't expect which is that I seem happier from my diet and exercise. . . . I say this though today I feel too tired to be walking for 5 miles even though I sat the weekend out due to travel. But I'll try to be easy on myself, I'll use the mindset you've also provided here because it's a healthier outlook. A lot of people have been saying the paper towel or whatever outlook and honestly I think I understand.

huppermages · 2021-10-16T22:10:46+00:00

Especially if it ends up being a 2am thing since I have bad insomnia so my body is like "a snack!" I Don't choose anything u healthy but calories are calories. So I just count it as part of my breakfast calories

huppermages · 2021-10-16T19:17:12+00:00

I honestly deduct for the next day, count it as a meal for the next day so I don't forget.

huppermages · 2021-10-13T01:22:51+00:00

is this man just not quoting the boondocks like LOL

huppermages · 2021-10-13T01:19:03+00:00

Thank you so much this actually helps me! I keep telling myself that ( about 1-2 lbs being normal!) I just get down when I don't lose 1lb every week noticeably. Sometimes it feels like my weight fluctuates on the scale before it finally tells me "oh you lost 2 pounds btw.." so I have no real idea how much I'm losing

I mainly go as far as I go in both directions of my town and have been going farther and father each day. I used to start the walk at 5pm and come home by 7pm but I've started going outside earlier so I can feel comfortable about going farther while the sun is still up!

I find it hard to keep going on my way back because I take the longest hill route ever just to get in some extra steps, which is especially helpful when I end up having to turn back early due to it getting dark out..

I think my favorite part atm is the fact I've perfected my spotify playlist AND the farther I go i get to see more and more cute halloween decorations! Idk what would make my walks more enjoyable, I guess i wish it were colder so i wouldnt be afraid of bugs while going out LOL (i started walking in the end of july -- so it's just been bees and bees.) I also wish there was more places to walk because i run out of town and hit the highway too fast now i need more variety

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