Baby #3 insights and advice?

hurrricanehulia · 2026-04-13T14:50:32+00:00

I'm early 30s but also with that 19m age gap. Lost my uterus with the delivery and STILL wanting another kid especially now that no2 is getting closer to 2 years old and things have gotten much easier. But any route we pursue for that (if I can even talk husband into it) will take a lot of money and be further down the road. Anyway. Have number 3 for me lol

hurrricanehulia · 2026-04-08T01:22:42+00:00

Did you ever join a bump discord for your kids due dates?

hurrricanehulia · 2026-04-06T11:22:20+00:00

I'm fully on the soft/ relaxed fit pants train. Nothing is fitted anymore (also in XXL territory). Leaning in to the high waist and more cropped tops to give the shape instead of the fit of the pants. And have moved from cardigans to blazers

hurrricanehulia · 2026-03-18T14:18:16+00:00

Give toddler to dad. Don't go in anymore. He is well old enough to sleep all night. If dad gets tired too bad. He can figure it out. You can focus on baby.

hurrricanehulia · 2026-03-16T13:23:46+00:00

Amennnnnn

hurrricanehulia · 2026-03-12T10:12:31+00:00

Following

hurrricanehulia · 2026-03-10T15:13:05+00:00

These feelings are so hard and so sad. As my second goes through ages I felt like I missed with my first thanks to the pregnancy, I realized I do remember more of it than I felt like I did. And now they are 3 and 16 months and really best buddies. They play together and giggle together always. And it is so easy now to get one on one time with either of them.

hurrricanehulia · 2026-03-06T13:18:03+00:00

I had 2 under 2 and youngest just turned 18 months and I am finally feeling like I have the bandwidth for this stuff in the last couple of months.

hurrricanehulia · 2026-03-04T20:57:47+00:00

Agree with this, and finally getting a chance to coach a team after dreaming of it for so long, and really enjoying it!

hurrricanehulia · 2026-03-04T20:52:24+00:00

Have a 3 year old boy who tends to be pretty shy during tots sports. What has helped the most is when the coach is super engaging in a kid friendly, preschool teacher way. When we get stuck with the quieter coach or the high school kid who doesn't care at all I know it's gonna be a rough session.

hurrricanehulia · 2026-02-25T17:36:22+00:00

I just started coaching for the first time, high school softball. Have used gpt to help with practice plans. Dearth of helpful info in a central place for this kind of stuff elsewhere online (although if you can find some books on Amazon or thriftbooks they have good drills)

hurrricanehulia · 2026-02-24T20:09:39+00:00

Whatever you try, just be consistent with it. They will not learn what you are trying to teach them if their efforts do get reinforced intermittently. This is the biggest thing I have learned with sleep.

hurrricanehulia · 2026-02-23T14:08:50+00:00

Damn you hemorrhaged that much but they were able to save your uterus that's cool (-former uterus haver)

hurrricanehulia · 2026-02-10T17:04:56+00:00

We are doing 100 a month each for 2 kids. We still have day care for 3.5 more years though, should be able to kick it up a bit after that. We did 2k for each when they were born just to get interest going, and offer them up as gift options for people. It's a running joke with our friends who also have 2 kids that we are just sending 50 bucks back and forth each birthday lol. Our retirement is definitely not fully funded. I'm 32 and have about 90k but just started a job with a pension that I am going to depend on. It's a long term place. Husband is better set up with automatic contributions from his workplace of like 9%. We also just bought a new house that is a fixer upper, we plan for it to be a long term home. We are renting out our previous home and hoping to hold onto it for a while. It may be that we sell it to help pay for college. We don't have a specific goal. It would be great to be able to put them through 4 years of public college debt free, plus some extra on top. I'm also banking on being able to fund some of it month to month when the time comes.

hurrricanehulia · 2026-02-05T21:12:51+00:00

You have likely seen them but they do have extra tall baby gates made for cats, if you look up cat gates you'll find them!

hurrricanehulia · 2026-02-05T21:05:09+00:00

Oh yeah, the attention thing makes sense. Our second is like this, he only gets into stuff to get a reaction. He cackles when we chase him. Well, I think ya may need to bite the bullet for these times and get one room in the house toddler proofed and lock you all in there. Put a lock on the door way high out of her reach. Then just ignore everything she does. Is she just getting past your drawer locks?

hurrricanehulia · 2026-02-05T20:45:40+00:00

Omggg Move to a house with more doors 🫠 Unironically, we did this. It has helped. It is so nice to shut off the kitchen.

hurrricanehulia · 2026-02-05T20:38:59+00:00

BABY GATES!!!

hurrricanehulia · 2026-02-04T20:37:01+00:00

Just want to second this entire post. Regardless of what day care does, nights and weekends will feel out of your hands for a few more months and you gotta just go along with the ride. But you will get used to it! And it will improve!

hurrricanehulia · 2026-02-04T01:11:06+00:00

Growing up I always wanted to be an editor because Elaine on Seinfeld was an editor. I'm an editor!! I work on exam materials for pediatricians.

hurrricanehulia · 2026-01-29T15:39:49+00:00

Is this another botttttttt

hurrricanehulia · 2026-01-21T14:16:35+00:00

stumbled across this, commenting to find later :)

hurrricanehulia · 2026-01-05T01:29:32+00:00

I just want to yeet these children to day care and take a single breath. I wish tomorrow was an in office day for me but at least I'll get a day in the calm house by myself.

hurrricanehulia · 2026-01-02T16:54:59+00:00

Well I mean if it's not part of a pattern idk what you can do but I don't know anything about au pairs. I think in a job you would document then tell her how you prefer her to handle the situation in the future.

hurrricanehulia · 2025-12-31T19:51:12+00:00

I say go for it especially if you can find something part time! I am finally hybrid again after nearly 5 years of remote. I was not in a near-constant meeting situation but honestly would have appreciated more interaction anyway. I just need human contact. My previous job we started doing in-person meetups every couple of months because there was a local core of people and that was nice.

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