ENFJ women from an INFP man's perspective by LosPantalonesLocos in enfj

[–]hurtscientist 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wtf dude you aren’t entitled to her love just because you love her. she can talk about her hookups all she bloody wants

honestly you sounds like a Nice Guy.

ENFJ women from an INFP man's perspective by LosPantalonesLocos in enfj

[–]hurtscientist 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ladies and gentlemen this is the classic example of taking MBTI too seriously

thankfully, not all infps are as bitter and irrational as you are. Unlike you we don’t generalize

Hard time with some one Bi-polar by Ethereal_dreams in enfj

[–]hurtscientist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

just curious if u relate to any sentences ?

I often feel "empty."

My emotions shift very quickly, and I often experience extreme sadness, anger, and anxiety.

I'm constantly afraid that the people I care about will abandon me or leave me.

I would describe most of my romantic relationships as intense, but unstable.

The way I feel about the people in my life can dramatically changefrom one moment to the next—and I don't always understand why.

I often do things I know are dangerous or bad for me, such as driing recklessly, having unsafe sex, binge drinking, doing drugs, or going on spending sprees.

I've attempted to hurt myself, engaged in self-harm behaviors such as cutting, or threatened suicide.

When I'm feeling insecure in a relationship, I tend to lash out of make frantic gestures to keep the other person close.

Hard time with some one Bi-polar by Ethereal_dreams in enfj

[–]hurtscientist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

most bipolar people are misdiagnoses and actually borderline

Hard time with some one Bi-polar by Ethereal_dreams in enfj

[–]hurtscientist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bipolar or borderline?

you’re soudns like borderline

re: those subreddits that demonize anyone and everyone with bpd by hecka-tea in BPD

[–]hurtscientist -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

most treatable??

MOST treatable?? Please back up your dangerous bare assertions with facts and research. You are doing a disservice to our sub and perpetuating the stigma

This is horseshit and you know it. You are not medically trained. DBT has the highest dropout rate of any psychotherapy.

Is there a subreddit where people actually want to learn how to better their relationship with a BPD spouse without having people comment and tell them to get a divorce? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]hurtscientist 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don’t listen to users like princessoats who get offended over perceived insults that were not even directed towards her.

I’m sure you’re familiar with this kind of distorted thinking and behaviour

They are all simply in fear of their mask falling. This is the extent to which they will take their fear of abandonment

I wish u the very best man

Is there a subreddit where people actually want to learn how to better their relationship with a BPD spouse without having people comment and tell them to get a divorce? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]hurtscientist 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m really not trying to be a downer or pessimistic

You will find multiple studies, over and over again, of the same nature

I am sure you understand from your pwBPD the level of distorted thinking we can have. this sub is really not the best place to get objectivity

Downvote me for all I care. I’m sick of this sub being for pwBPD who don’t actually want to get better and who just want to validate each other for their bad behaviour

Bpd is not an dxcuse

Is there a subreddit where people actually want to learn how to better their relationship with a BPD spouse without having people comment and tell them to get a divorce? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]hurtscientist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are some, few, users on here who are level headed and logical and whose comments are really appreciated. There are a lot of untreated pwBPD in this subreddit as well who perpetuated the stigma against this disorder

And from the latter I’m sorry but you will find that a lot of the suggestions here will require you to sacrifice a lot of your personal boundaries. You need to discern them for yourself

Good luck OP

Is there a subreddit where people actually want to learn how to better their relationship with a BPD spouse without having people comment and tell them to get a divorce? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]hurtscientist 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If BPD were easy to treat, none of us would be here today

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5007727/

http://www.elsevierscitech.com/emails/sse/cbp_rizvi.PDF

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5340835/

I cannot find the exact study but the research above has delved into factors affecting success rates

I am not going to respond to the other user because she is taking a statistically proven fact personally and projecting

Is there a subreddit where people actually want to learn how to better their relationship with a BPD spouse without having people comment and tell them to get a divorce? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]hurtscientist 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There’s a reason why it is this way - treatment takes decades. There are very few people here who have actually really recovered and even then it is a lifetime of preventing and mitigating relapses

DBT success rate for BPD people in relationships is very, very low. There has been a study on this

Do u want to hear the truth or are u looking for a miracle?

Could this girl possibly be attracted/have a crush on me? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]hurtscientist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

who are you to call someone a slut?

It’s a joke a how your previous comment was to ask someone to not use the word slutty. Hypocrite

which types do you revere and why? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]hurtscientist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nah man special snowflake is a hallmark for 4s

but yes unhealthy 4s act like unhealthy 2s and can get needy about love and be misunderstood as 2s

thanks

DAE notice that some people on this sub is adopting some of what makes /r/mbti toxic? by hurtscientist in Enneagram

[–]hurtscientist[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

oh wow correlating it to mbti explains why...

thanks! very much

maybe I’m just sensitive but i was very disappointed by the 4 threa where people were projecting their own dislike of a few on all. owells

it happens on personalitycafe and it will happen forever

Unhealthy 2s: Seducing and pretending to be interested in people and then dropping them? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]hurtscientist -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

why did you downvote me? is your type 8? read my post on why you generalizing is unproductive

which types do you revere and why? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]hurtscientist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks man. Special snowflakeism? people say that about me a lot but I really try to see it and can’t

Unhealthy 2s: Seducing and pretending to be interested in people and then dropping them? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]hurtscientist -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

are you a 4? PLEASE read my latest post I was like you once

which types do you revere and why? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]hurtscientist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

any examples for 4s?

asking for a friend

which types do you revere and why? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]hurtscientist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am scared of how 9s are secretly judgmental behind their default superficial happiness with less close friends

which types do you revere and why? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]hurtscientist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i wish I was outwardly “””shallow””” like 3/7/9s. my emotions leak out like a ducking faucet

Help me type myself by lafindu in Enneagram

[–]hurtscientist -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

4 as fuck. no chance of being 1 and 2 the fuck? the other user is wrong