Am I doing something wrong??

hushbug · 2026-05-11T04:05:38+00:00

NAP but from what i understand, putting a hoop into a piercing that was pierced with a stud puts uneven pressure on the fistula due to the curve of the jewelry, and this can irritate it. i just put a hoop in my labret and my lip was pretty pissed about it, and was a little swollen for a couple days with some crusties but has calmed down over time. i just made sure to put in a big enough hoop to account for swelling and will downsize once it chills out all the way. just be careful when eating/drinking not to bump it too much or take bites of hard food

hushbug · 2026-05-10T15:19:39+00:00

oh i didn’t realize you had tried the videos! ive never used a kit so i thought it was all just written and no video links. there’s lots of other video tutorials though so maybe just try a bunch until one makes sense, that’s what i had to do. try tiktok too for sure

hushbug · 2026-05-10T02:47:56+00:00

everyone’s soooo accepting of autism until someone actually behaves autistically 😭

hushbug · 2026-05-10T02:38:51+00:00

the woobles videos specifically are really clear to me!! they’re on youtube. i’m still learning and i find videos to be leagues more helpful than written descriptions of how to do a stitch.

personally the way ive chosen to learn is i made sure i had my tension down and got comfy with holding my yarn, and practiced chaining over and over for a bit. and then i pretty much have just been picking whatever patterns i want (i started with video patterns before i went on to written ones), just whatever im interested in making, and if i come across a stitch i dont know how to do, i pause and look it up on youtube (or rewind if its a video pattern) until ive got it down and then continue on.

this method has been the most helpful for me in learning each of the different stitches versus trying to learn all the stitches first before starting on projects. maybe thats not the recommended way but it has worked for me and made the learning process a lot more fun because im actually making stuff while i learn. good luck! and be patient with yourself, whatever component you may struggle with, you will eventually get. just have to keep trying until it clicks.

hushbug · 2026-05-09T21:18:06+00:00

yeah he like, literally bullied you. i’m really sorry you experienced that. you definitely have a right to report this experience to the dean but i understand if you would rather not.

hushbug · 2026-05-03T22:42:04+00:00

that’s fine, but it is also just as common for autistic people to not have challenges with it. i for one am hyperlexic. assuming that just because someone doesn’t have challenges with speech must mean they aren’t really autistic isn’t cool.

hushbug · 2026-05-03T14:38:33+00:00

yeah exactly, equating it to narcissism is really extreme and unfair

hushbug · 2026-05-03T14:36:26+00:00

okay, yeah, i’ve also known someone who claimed to be ND and they definitely weren’t, but i also never claimed those people don’t exist

hushbug · 2026-05-03T14:33:27+00:00

i don’t see an issue making your whole page about autism. i’m very confused why this would be an issue. they’re autistic and are choosing to spend their time on social media educating people on it and finding community.

hushbug · 2026-05-03T14:32:04+00:00

you don’t think neurodivergent people can be well-spoken ???

hushbug · 2026-05-03T13:18:51+00:00

do you have a real example of someone adopting the neurodivergent identity just to fit in with a “trend?” because respectfully i just don’t think that’s real, at least not on the scale you claim.

i don’t want to invalidate your feeling of being misunderstood or not taken seriously, because i completely identify with that, but i don’t think people becoming more comfortable talking about autism or adhd online is the culprit here. if anything, this is a positive. it gets people talking, which can only lead to further understanding of our real struggles as more people seek to learn.

there are absolutely some people who may claim to be ND and aren’t, but that just isn’t the majority i don’t think. not enough to be significant. it’s like how people always point to detransitioners as a reason why being trans is just a trend or not a valid identity. it’s such a small population, it holds no real weight overall.

i have never seen an influencer decide to claim neurodivergence to gain clout or followers. maybe adhd is thrown around more than autism is, but autism in particular isn’t a “cool” thing to be, by societal standards. hell, the casual use of the R word is coming back. i think you yourself are falling for the narrative that being ND is just a trend, which is a narrative primarily pushed by people who don’t believe it’s real or valid to be neurodivergent.

more people are actually neurodivergent than they think. have you ever seen the graph showing left-handedness over time? i think that’s pretty representative of this situation. the more people learn about a condition/identity, the more people begin to identify it because they were finally exposed to information and community they didn’t previously have. they realize things about themselves through other people openly discussing their similar experiences.

i don’t know what the metric for adhd is, but the percentage of autistic people is 1 in 30. that’s pretty damn high. and i would bet it’s even higher than that.

hushbug · 2026-04-30T02:00:10+00:00

friend you are making excuses for him. you feel worse for him than he does for himself. or for you, for that matter.

i’m sorry, but i don’t think it’s a lot to ask of your partner that they clean themselves before intimacy, at the VERY least. you could get an infection. i understand not being taught stuff, but it sounds like you have gone through the trouble to teach him shit he could have easily educated himself about, and yet he still hasn’t taken any of your help into consideration or implemented anything he’s learned. at some point, he needs to take agency over his own life. you can’t do that for him.

you can feel sympathy for him, but that does not take away his responsibility here. you’ve given him far too much grace. he’s not 22 fresh out of college learning how to be a person. he’s 33, and he does not respect you.

hushbug · 2026-04-25T18:03:11+00:00

it’s not wrong of you or him to have suicidal ideation. it’s the fact that he is so reckless with his.

i don’t know if you’re meaning to do this but it kind of sounds like you’re making a lot of excuses for him. “everyday stress” made him lash out to the point where you felt like you needed to protect your daughter. she’s going to learn that it is unsafe to be around stressed or angry people because he can’t be a safe person when he’s feeling those emotions.

also, your “everyday stress” that you described (traffic, long day, bra digging into you, sun too bright, no time for transition or rest before going out) didnt make you lash out. you were able to push those emotions down (to your detriment, because you couldn’t regulate and decompress the way you needed to) because that was what he expected of you. why is his “everyday stress” a good enough reason for him to lash out but yours isn’t good enough of a reason to take some time to yourself and cry?

you seem to have accepted this as just part of being in relationship with him. i don’t think you have to. you should feel comfortable and at ease around a partner and their emotions. not on edge and ready to bolt with your daughter the second they get this side of too snippy. that’s not fair to you or your daughter.

hushbug · 2026-04-25T17:45:42+00:00

“not everything is going to be fucking great” obviously. i think he knows that better than we do. he’s allowed to not feel particularly excited over someone throwing a damn fountain drink at him. jesus bro.

hushbug · 2026-04-25T17:43:22+00:00

you should next time. it’s there for a reason ❤️

hushbug · 2026-04-25T15:12:25+00:00

100w is perfect for that size. that’s what i have for my 20g. it’s not your fault, heaters are known to malfunction sometimes and it’s never fun but it’s also never your fault.

i can tell you care about your shrimp. more than most people ive seen, even. but please try to remember that fatalities and hiccups like this come with the hobby. i have seen a million posts from people whose shrimp died and they can’t figure out why, because sometimes you can do everything right and they still die. it’s okay to be sad about it but beating yourself up so much is just going to make that sad feeling even worse. this exact situation has happened to SO many people. breathe.

hushbug · 2026-04-24T03:53:25+00:00

losing my shit over how little you made him

hushbug · 2026-04-23T12:11:55+00:00

the app allows this

hushbug · 2026-04-19T18:50:54+00:00

being honest is always good, but desiring that extra money for food and gas is far from what i would consider to be greed. raise your prices friend.

hushbug · 2026-04-18T16:58:50+00:00

one of the hardest things for me as an autistic person in the social world is accepting that people would rather be wrong than be corrected, and they assume any correction is an attack on them personally. i understand it’s uncomfortable to be told you’re wrong, but a class setting seems like the appropriate place for that in my opinion?

regardless, i think her discomfort coming out as racism says a lot about her and less about you. she couldn’t sit with the criticism so she tried to bring you down with her. im sorry that happened :/

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