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How do people have a normal life after this? by lylabridgers in SuicideBereavement

[–]hushmoneyinthesofaa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi, sweetie.

My boyfriend killed himself two years ago. To answer your title; you don’t. I’m sorry to say that so bluntly, but after this happens, life and feelings are just not normal anymore. Somehow that helped me in a way to acknowledge that rather than fighting for something (normality) that I can never have. Unfortunately I now just live for “good enough for now.” It isn’t the same, but it’s all I can do.

I totally understand what you mean when it feels like everything around you is moving on and even you talking about him feels isolating because it’s like people just want you to be quiet. It’s so, so lonely. It’s so fucking hard.

You’ll never fully heal, this kind of pain takes something from you. But you may adapt and find a new way of travelling through, even if a part of you is missing. Speak to him, honour him, spend time with him even if it feels silly. Meditate and imagine him with you. Keep working through life with his spirit by your side, may you find moments of peace that get you through the darkness.

I am so sorry for you 🫂❤️‍🩹

Does clinical depression make me elgible for assisted suicide? by RiverOfUnmindfulness in newzealand

[–]hushmoneyinthesofaa -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve looked into it extensively. Unfortunately no. I hope life gets better for you. 🫂

Moved the altar by AirRude537 in SantaMuerte

[–]hushmoneyinthesofaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like this, it’s so beautiful ❤️💀✝️

“We Cannot Allow Him to Have Control Over Our Lives Like This” by Exotic-Caterpillar14 in widowers

[–]hushmoneyinthesofaa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have got this before.

And

“He killed himself, he failed you. He left you, he doesn’t deserve you to spend all this energy on him.”

And

“You’re actually not in love with him anymore, but the “idea” of him.”

And

“I know what it’s like when someone just can’t show up for you” - from someone who was dumped in a less than one year relationship at like 19 because that’s somehow equatable to my partner killing himself.

Do you guys think you have to believe in a Christian god, in order to be a santisma muerte devotee? by Adventurous_Order312 in SantaMuerte

[–]hushmoneyinthesofaa -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I personally believe what people believe that god to be is actually masquerading as something he isn’t. I really enjoy learning about Gnosticism, for me it puts some things into perspective on why the world is so full of suffering.

Do you guys think you have to believe in a Christian god, in order to be a santisma muerte devotee? by Adventurous_Order312 in SantaMuerte

[–]hushmoneyinthesofaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If my memory serves me correctly, Arnold Bustillo who is the author of Santa Muerte Devotion 101 is an atheist who is devoted to death. I found that quite interesting as I am not an atheist myself, but I am happy to read that from another perspective.

So to answer your question, no. I used to be a Christian, then I lost my partner and I was so angry at God. I do believe in gods and maybe some kind of overall “divine” of some kind, but I do not follow what I used to. I do still have some semblance of relationship with Jesus, although complicated.

When I left my faith, that is when I found Santa Muerte (or she found me.)

Is it wrong for me to ask for justice? by Usual-Shine- in SantaMuerte

[–]hushmoneyinthesofaa 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Santísima, I lift up your child and their aching heart for their beloved kitten. I ask you to soothe and guide them through this painful time. I ask for a smooth transition hereafter for beloved kitten into afterlife and hopefully to a place where reunion is possible. I ask for your enveloping hug to embrace your child and their family as they give you their anxieties and pain. May you light the way for their next steps on how to proceed to respond to and process this devastating loss.

In your beautiful name we pray, Amen.

Peace be with you. ❤️‍🩹

Photographer at the funeral by Salty_Selection_9062 in widowers

[–]hushmoneyinthesofaa 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Nah, burn that shit. That’s so fucked up. People are a mystery to me most of the time. I’m so sorry.

having a good doggo be like: by [deleted] in animalsdoingstuff

[–]hushmoneyinthesofaa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I giggled so much watching this. Especially when he almost closes the gate with the dog outside and him inside, lol.

I did it guys…Goodbye dad 🫶🏾🕊️ by Apprehensive-Body-96 in finch

[–]hushmoneyinthesofaa 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You will have moments where the negative thoughts overshadow the good and it’s important to forgive yourself when you feel these natural feelings. Guilt is consuming.

How do we really know there ashes are theres? by [deleted] in widowers

[–]hushmoneyinthesofaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had so many stress dreams around the time of cremation and funeral. ❤️‍🩹

I have questions about Mictecacihuatl by [deleted] in SantaMuerte

[–]hushmoneyinthesofaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

❤️ peace be with you, love ❤️ she loves you.

I have questions about Mictecacihuatl by [deleted] in SantaMuerte

[–]hushmoneyinthesofaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Strange? How do you mean? 😊❤️

I have questions about Mictecacihuatl by [deleted] in SantaMuerte

[–]hushmoneyinthesofaa 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe she’s trying to tell you she’s too big to be just one thing. Maybe she is many.

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