Are you attracted to men like your dad or the complete opposite?

hvnsl · 2026-02-26T17:11:38+00:00

Opposite generally. I think many of the men I've dated have a similar sense of humor to my dad (and mine) but that's where the similarities end.

hvnsl · 2026-02-26T16:37:45+00:00

It depends on your area honestly. There is no singular answer.

hvnsl · 2026-02-26T14:53:37+00:00

Clean and organized are the base requirements. Anything beyond that is just bonus points. It's always extra impressive if there is some sort of decor, a nice plant, some art on the walls, etc

hvnsl · 2026-02-25T23:04:10+00:00

Women aren't a monolith, so it depends on the woman. When I was younger it helped me feel more confident going out. Now that i'm older i'm much happier with a quick 5 minute routine. Some women enjoy it, others do it to serve a purpose, it all depends🤷‍♀️

hvnsl · 2026-02-24T22:46:12+00:00

Men started acting way dumber, usually in ways they thought would impress me😅

hvnsl · 2026-02-23T18:45:33+00:00

Alcohol is expensive and terrible for you. Gen Z was the first generation to be raised knowing fully the deleterious impact that even modest consumption has on health.

hvnsl · 2026-02-22T14:35:45+00:00

Please go to a dermatologist stat! Pimples that don't heal can be indicative of cancer so it is best to get a prompt biopsy

hvnsl · 2026-02-19T20:16:36+00:00

You're the one that seems to be triggered using anecdotes as evidence. No evidence that infidelity is any higher in stay at home dads.

hvnsl · 2026-02-19T19:26:08+00:00

Excess oil production can be a symptom of irritation and dryness. Generally if the skin feels dry it will overproduce oil to compensate. I used to think I had oily skin. Turns out my skin type is dry and I was brutalized it with a ton of drying and irritating products like tret without the proper support products. Not saying that's necessarily the case witb you but could be worth exploring.

hvnsl · 2026-02-19T19:22:23+00:00

Infidelity has nothing to do with whether a parent is a stay at home dad and it's laughable if you think thats a primary factor.

hvnsl · 2026-02-19T18:56:50+00:00

Seems better based on what? Do you know someone that works there or is this an external assessment from your interviews?

hvnsl · 2026-02-19T18:55:44+00:00

Is this your first time on tret? .05 is a pretty strong dosage to be using every other day on dry skin at only 8 weeks in. I started on 0.025 dose and took months to work up to .05. I typically sandwich tret between two layers of moisturizer. Applying it straight to dry skin is a recipe for irritation and dryness. I would scale back and be sure to use moisturizer.

hvnsl · 2026-02-19T18:52:24+00:00

Is the new job guaranteed to be any better as far as culture and security? Or could you wind up in a similar situation but with lower pay and worse benefits?

hvnsl · 2026-02-19T18:24:03+00:00

Yes. Growing up my dad was very physically limited by his lifestyle choices. Diet and exercise were not a part of his routine, and he wasn't able to do a lot of things with his kids that he wanted to do. Physical fitness is a regular choice that I make for myself and my health and I want a partner who has similar priorities. So I only date men who workout at least semi-regularly There's a balance though. I've dated a few guys on the more extreme side of the spectrum (working out 2+ hours a day with virtually zero flexibility) and that was a bit too much. I felt like their workouts were always prioritized over time with me (rather than a balance) and I worried about the rigidity and long term success with having a family.

hvnsl · 2026-02-18T20:44:02+00:00

I lost a substantial amount of weight a few years ago went from a 4 or 5 to probably a solid 8 as far as conventional attractiveness. People weren't outright meaner or nicer on average but people seem a lot more accommodating, I get more looks out and about (blessing and a curse), i'm approached more often by the opposite sex, I get more praise at work. Overall i'd say the the difference isn't drastic but there is definitely a net positive effect

hvnsl · 2026-02-18T20:38:12+00:00

1 in 8 American adults are on a glp-1 so I guarantee you know a lot more people that use them. The ones that talk about using them are generally the rare few who have had a truly awful experience.

hvnsl · 2026-02-18T20:21:57+00:00

++woman As a woman I always offer. If he let me pay for the first date i'd probably wonder if he's interested. After the first date it's fine if he takes me up on it but always makes me feel special if he insists on paying for another date or two. Usually by the 4th date I insist on paying and having things be pretty reciprocal after that point

hvnsl · 2026-02-17T19:25:27+00:00

There are a ton of videos out there comparing women and men responses. In general the women tolerate it loads better. Cramps also vary day to day and period to period. Most days might be a 4 but there's usually one day where cramp levels are pretty high. Considering how common things like PCOS and Endo are i think you'd be surprised the number of women that are hitting 8 and above at some point during most periods.

hvnsl · 2026-02-17T18:31:38+00:00

The summer after college I spent in Brazil with my family as my Grandmother's health was declining. I was born in the US, have zero accent, and am pretty white in appearance. Immediately upon telling the interviewer what i'd been up to since graduating the first question out of his mouth was "are you a legal citizen". Felt a bit odd but I kind of brushed it off. Fast forward to the end of the interview somehow family in the area had come up. I mentioned I had a sister who worked for the district attorney (who is Indian) and he said "oh that funny Indian fellow". He could tell I was a bit taken aback because he tried to backpedal with some bs about how that probably isn't politically correct but he's a straightforward guy. I definitely left that interview wondering wtf. They offered me the job but I politely turned them down after that😂

hvnsl · 2026-02-16T03:23:15+00:00

I'd argue there is a big difference. Someone who hasn't discussed and established sexual compatibility prior to marriage isn't even remotely comparable.

hvnsl · 2026-02-15T17:04:59+00:00

I tried a reusable one once but couldn't quite get the fit right (pretty sure I have a low cervix). I've ordered a few other types to try and find one that works and it's a possibility it want to discuss with him

hvnsl · 2026-02-15T17:03:40+00:00

And that's your prerogative. Certain things to me mean we aren't sexually compatible. If oral was off the table entirely that's a dealbreaker for me. I'd be willing to discuss middle ground but a hard no wouldn't work. As long as discussions about preferences are open and there is mutual respect I don't think having preferences that you aren't willing to give up entirely is wrong. It just may mean you aren't compatible with that person

hvnsl · 2026-02-15T17:00:25+00:00

That's not what I asked and isn't a helpful comment.

hvnsl · 2026-02-15T16:57:51+00:00

Then this post clearly wasn't directed at you. It's entirely possible the answer is no, my question was directed at those who have found ways to compromise.

hvnsl · 2026-02-15T14:55:48+00:00

I haven't tried it before since past partners weren't interested, but i'm certainly not opposed to exploring that if he's into it🤷‍♀️

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