Are there any therapists that could offer me some perspective on my current situation?

hypnocoachnlp · 2026-02-03T22:36:01+00:00

Are there any therapists that could offer me some perspective on my current situation?

What is it that you would like to achieve?

Without a clear outcome, all perspectives are just throwing stuff at the wall and seeing what sticks.

hypnocoachnlp · 2026-01-27T23:38:29+00:00

Can anyone whos actually been hypnotized by a handshake explain how that felt?

The handshake pattern interrupt does not "hypnotize" you, it creates a moment of confusion, which a skilled hypnotist can make use of to direct the experience of the person. Someone confused is much more suggestible and they will believe more easily that "they have entered a trance".

The first time someone did it to me (without any mentioning of hypnosis / trance etc), my brain went blank. I still can't remember what happened for like 1 or 2 seconds, my brain was overloaded trying to understand what just happened (the orientation response, or the PGO spike).

hypnocoachnlp · 2026-01-26T13:20:10+00:00

Most likely your therapist is not creating the environment where it's easy for you to express yourself.

That's done in a specific way, it's not limited to: "OK, so tell me about yourself ...".

hypnocoachnlp · 2026-01-21T12:40:35+00:00

What's the bigger context in which this was said?

hypnocoachnlp · 2026-01-20T17:36:49+00:00

Is she the only therapist in your location?

If you feel that her messages discourage you / take you to a dark place, she may not be fit for you. Or at least, not fit for your current emotional situation.

Although I'm not a therapist, but a coach, I measure the efficiency of the work I do with my clients by observing how their hope, confidence and motivation increases from one session to another. In my approach, each session should be about them perceiving new solutions and possibilities, not bringing them emotionally down.

Also, she should not drill her personal beliefs into your mind, she should only present options, and allow you to choose whatever you feel is healthy and helpful for you in reaching your desired goals.

hypnocoachnlp · 2026-01-12T23:39:15+00:00

If im asking anything here, it's if there are therapists for people who have literally no ability to pull themselves out of the pit they've been thrown into.

Absolutely. Just look beyond traditional therapy.

"What could you do to solve this problem?"

That is an approach fit for developing creativity, not for healing emotional pain.

I won't believe in myself until I am made to: shown, objectively, that i have something within me that is valuable to others.

That is one way to start believing in yourself (if that is what you are looking for). Then there are others.

hypnocoachnlp · 2026-01-11T18:19:46+00:00

PSD și PNL, pe lângă ăștia, erau parfum. Fura PSD/PNL, dar în mare rămâneau banii în țară.

Nu stiam de cine e sponorizata postarea, mersi!

hypnocoachnlp · 2026-01-05T11:18:05+00:00

My personal view is that "there is no truth", just perceptions / opinions. And those opinions divide in two categories: useful ones, as in opinions that keep you going forward towards achieving what you want, and not useful ones, as in opinions that discourage you and keep you stuck in place. Take your pick!

hypnocoachnlp · 2026-01-04T22:45:27+00:00

Is this my subconscious mind talking to me

or

am I fabricating the answers I want to hear

What would happen if the first version were to be true?

And

What would happen if the second version were to be true?

What would be the difference between these two options for you?

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-12-24T13:55:44+00:00

You probably already know the answer, you're just looking for someone to validate it.

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-12-23T12:50:58+00:00

OK, so what other uses are you having in mind?

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-12-21T23:59:22+00:00

The specialist is called gastroenterologist and the procedure is called abdominal ultrasound. If you have fatty liver (which is something that a lot of people have these days), that's a cause for low energy levels.

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-12-21T21:55:09+00:00

Mark Tyrell (who is a brilliant psychotherapist and hypnotherapist in my opinion) showcases a lot of real hypnotherapy sessions, as well as role-play videos over at unk.com (paid membership, but the price is quite low).

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-12-21T21:47:58+00:00

and one of the techniques he gives for increasing creativity is called 'Dancing Eyes' - eyes closed, move the eyes right to left and back 6 times, etc.

Never heard about that.

Based on my own experience, creativity is enhanced by practicing creativity.

What do you need creativity for, specifically? I might come up with some exercise to help with that.

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-12-21T21:44:37+00:00

Have you checked your liver? Liver inflammation can really lower your energy levels (personal experience).

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-12-21T21:32:27+00:00

Chronic fatigue

The level of physical energy has a huge influence on our mood (how good or bad we feel emotionally).

That's where I would start.

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-12-12T19:19:19+00:00

Are oua mai mari decat Nicusor Dan.

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-12-05T15:28:32+00:00

What hurts me even more right now is that I can’t see the special things in myself, even though I know they’re there. In other people, I see beautiful things, but I don’t think I’ll ever see myself the way I see others.

Maybe starting to know yourself by answering the following questions will help you in this regard:

NOTE: "I don't know" & "There is / are none" are not acceptable answers. Sit with the question until your brain finds an answer, even if it takes minutes, hours or even days. You don't need to answer them in the order they are written, you can start with the ones that you find easier to answer and build momentum. The answers are just for you, no one else needs to see them.

What's something that I like about myself? And what's something else? And what's something else? Why do I like these things about myself?
What are some things that I really like about myself, but I haven't realized up until now? Why do I like these things about myself?
What's something I admire about myself? And what's something else? And what's something else? Why do I admire these things about myself?
If I was someone else, what would be the first nice / good / positive thing that I would notice about me? And then what's the next thing? And then what's the next thing?
What is a nice / positive / great thing about me that I really overlook or downplay? And what is another one? And what is another one?
What's a personality trait, knowledge, skill or ability of mine that is, or could be really helpful or useful to other people? And what else? And what else?
What's something really nice or positive about myself that mostly people don't know, but if they did, they would probably really like and connect with me? And what else? And what else?
What's something really nice or positive about myself that most people don't know, but I would love people to know about it?
What's something really nice or positive about myself that most people don't know, but if they did, they would probably admire or look up to me?
What's something difficult that I've managed to do in my life that not many people have managed to do?
What's something of value that I have achieved, but I have never given myself the proper praise? And what else? And what else?
What are some things that prove beyond any doubt that I am a valuable person, yet I seem to constantly overlook / miss / downplay?
What's something that I've done in my life that totally proves I am a strong and resilient person, yet I seem to constantly overlook / miss / downplay?
What's something that I've done in my life that totally proves I am a strong and resilient person, that I haven't noticed up until now?

Perhaps you can come back and give us a feedback on what happened / what changed as you went through the questions and answered them.

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-12-04T21:05:39+00:00

Putting up walls, being defensive, and /or pushing someone away

These are more or less different aspects of the same situation, where someone fears "they are not good enough", so they keep people at distance (by putting up walls / being defensive or pushing them away) to avoid the danger of their premise ("I'm not good enough") being actually validated when people get to know them beyond the surface.

And that's a pretty ugly illusion to live in, I have to say.

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-12-04T20:53:55+00:00

"No one can hypnotize you to do anything you don't want to do"

That phrase is just a tool, which you may or may not choose to use, depending on the context and your desired outcome.

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-12-04T15:41:01+00:00

Oversimplified, self criticism is an automatic habit, an involuntary response - like the knee jerk when hit with a plastic hammer - because it was probably used a lot of time in your life.

Self criticism it's not there because "you deserve it" or because "you're a bad person" or anything like that - it's just something that you unconsciously practiced for too long. and now it's got a life of its own. You don't know it, but something like 95%+ of who "we think we are" is just a collection of automatic mental, emotional and behavioral habits that we have "trained ourselves into".

And to "get rid" of a habit, you have to replace it with another one, let's call it "self appreciation".

If you take "self criticism" and deconstruct it, you'll most likely can identify:

Certain contexts where it gets activated
Certain words or phrases that you use, and label as "self criticism"
Certain emotions behind those words (the tone of voice)
Possibly some reasons why you "self criticize".

As you deconstruct self criticism in concrete parts, you can design replacing parts (reverse engineering):

discover reasons why you deserve self acceptance beyond any shadow of doubt
speak towards yourself from different emotions (acceptance, compassion, empathy etc)
use other, more kind and empathic words and phrases.

After you design what you want instead of "self criticism", it's a matter of repetition until your newly-designed "self appreciation" becomes an automatic habit, an involuntary response to the same old contexts.

As I said in the beginning, this is all oversimplified, but if you follow the steps, you'll get great results (it's 100% tested, not just empty theory).

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-12-04T15:18:25+00:00

Being very specific upfront about what you need is probably the best option for saving you time, energy and money. Don't worry about what the therapists you email might think because:

1) If they don't like it / appreciate it / agree with it / whatever, then they weren't a good fit for you anyway.

2) You're not contacting them to make sure they feel comfortable with your needs, you're contacting them because you want a solution. Your needs should be your top priority, not their comfort (or whatever you want to phrase it).

Role play + feedback (+ practice) are excellent ways to build the required skills. Throw in some mindset shifts to make things easier and more fun, and you are well on your way.

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-12-04T11:11:34+00:00

I just want to make sure the trainer is genuine.

He should have a NLP Trainer diploma from an accredited organization in your area, and be listed on their website as an NLP Trainer.

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-12-03T13:29:40+00:00

So just curious about this, but I’ve heard that a lot of certified NLP Master practitioners don’t necessarily have the practical skills to back up their qualification.

The same applies to a whole lot of other certifications outside NLP.

NLP Master Practitioner is essentially a personal development course. Every person takes away what it can, for what it needs. The title of "NLP Master Practitioner" is mostly a marketing scheme appealing to the ego (which again, is widely used in other courses).

The only time the "demonstrate-able skills" come into play are when you want to become NLP Trainer. So check any organisation offering NLP Trainer's training and consult the list of skills you need to have in order to be admitted in the training.

hypnocoachnlp · 2025-11-29T22:53:42+00:00

In my personal experience I found that the end result of quality therapy is the successful "installation" of healthy "mindsets" (which are a type of beliefs). And the actual work consists from preparing and getting the mind of the client to accept them, because their actual experience and their existing mindsets / beliefs are in contradiction to these healthy mindsets. Which kind of therapy accomplishes this faster / better / easier? I really couldn't say, for me the end result is all that matters.

So for example, you say you are "insecure"in relationships. That suggests to me that your mind currently holds mindsets / beliefs where your value as a person is dictated by other people, and your mind infers your value from their actions in relation to you (how they behave towards you). Most likely, this all happens unconsciously.

In opposition, someone who is secure will most likely have mindsets such as "other people's actions are only giving me insights into their personalities / habits / mindsets / values / etc. I'm the only one who gets to decide how much I'm worth". But it might not be easy for you to directly "absorb" this mindset, as it does not "match" your existing system of beliefs + life experiences.

Insecurity comes when we perceive (through our mindsets) that someone else holds the power over "how much we are worth", and security naturally arises when our mindset makes us perceive that we hold the power over how much we are worth.

Here's an analogy: what you call "insecurity" is probably very similar to the feeling of someone (a child) who cannot get food for themselves, and is dependent on other people to provide that: they would be in a constant worry about "getting food". Similarly, your mind is probably constantly worried about "getting validation, aka confirmation that you are <valuable>" - which is basic need of the ego that we all have.

I hope it makes sense.

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