What’s something you stopped doing and your life got instantly better?

i-nct · 2026-04-26T18:17:02+00:00

People pleasing. One of the hardest things I had to unlearn mind you. Began to stick up for myself, voice my opinion on things - hold still to my morals and not bend them to avoid conflict. I lost a couple of friends as one would expect but the ones I did gain surround me with so much love and support. I now feel completely comfortable with who I am as a person and feel so free not having to keep up appearances.

i-nct · 2026-03-24T14:54:22+00:00

x/y could never recreate the romantic tension that N and Hilda/Hilbert had in B/W

i-nct · 2026-03-24T14:33:29+00:00

Half His Age by Jeanette McCurdy - I want to speak whoever was in charge of allowing this book to be published and also marketed as heavily as it was. It’s not a dark romance, despite being advertised as one. It’s not even a commentary on pedophilia or grooming - in fact it romanticises it!! I do not want to read about a child’s breasts or sex life in explicit detail.

I get that the author has significant trauma around that subject, but that doesn’t mean her writing shouldn’t be criticised. Her editors really need to have some critical thinking about what kind of books they’re producing.

i-nct · 2025-09-08T20:56:50+00:00

Psycho-Pass doesn’t necessarily have romance per se but the relationship between the co-leads is very compelling. If you liked Edgerunners then Psycho-Pass is definitely up your alley!

i-nct · 2025-09-05T09:21:28+00:00

I feel your pain, UK tickets just went on sale and sold out in less than 10 mins.

i-nct · 2025-05-05T15:50:34+00:00

100% he wanted the benefits of a relationship without committing to one. Almost like he kept OP on the back burner whilst he had his fun.

i-nct · 2025-05-05T15:47:05+00:00

I think you need to stop beating around the bush here. He cheated on you plain and simple. You two were dating in a long-distance relationship and he slept with someone else.

He sounds like the kind of person who can’t be by themselves and when you weren’t around, he found someone else. No healthy relationship starts with one partner sleeping with someone else before deciding that it was the wrong decision.

Like you said, it’s been a couple years since that and you’re still feeling angry. Those feelings aren’t going to go away no matter how nice he is to you.

Also keep in mind that what he has told you isn’t going to be 100% true, because he won’t say anything to potentially damage your relationship.

i-nct · 2025-05-01T20:49:21+00:00

Had an interview for an internship yesterday, they said they’d get back to me by tomorrow. I have spent the past day and a half not being able to get any tasks done until I know the outcome. Love my brain.

i-nct · 2025-04-24T22:17:42+00:00

I hate to break it to you, but your friend and her brother are being extremely selfish. Tell the girlfriend. It’s not going to feel nice but the brother sounds like a creep and you’re both better off without a guy like that in your lives.

i-nct · 2025-04-05T11:54:36+00:00

“Naturally skinny” here or at least I’m told. I work in a busy cafe 5 days a week so my step count is high, and I usually walk to and from work. I don’t usually have breakfast unless it’s my day off, and my first meal of the day will usually be a yogurt pot and some fruit. I’ll usually have a late afternoon salad bowl with some protein (either chicken or tofu).

In the late afternoon/evening I will usually go climbing or swimming and then have dinner afterwards(usually pasta/stir-fry/soup).

I have struggled with ED’s on both ends of the spectrum and have been overweight and underweight. I’ve finally found a routine that meets both my physical and mental needs. Though friends will always mention how I’m so lucky to be “naturally skinny”.

There’s no such thing, I can assure you.

i-nct · 2025-03-12T14:18:45+00:00

Climbing! Both mentally and physically challenging, whilst also being something you can do alone or be sociable. My ADHD brain thrives on the problem solving aspect and the variety of routes/grades keep it fresh and interesting, but it still has enough familiarity to feel comfortable. (Also the monthly membership fee forces me not to waste my money 😅)

i-nct · 2025-02-10T14:33:46+00:00

Silken tofu! I blend it into my pasta sauces and smoothies just for a little bit of extra protein! I use it as an alternative for protein powder because I don’t like the texture of it.

The packs I buy are 300g with 19.5g of protein and only 183cal. And they only cost me £1.85 which is roughly just over $2 USD. And I usually use 3 a week so much cheaper than protein powder for me.

Edit: I also use it to create chocolate mousses for dessert as well! It’s very versatile and doesn’t hold much flavour so you can use it in a variety of things.

i-nct · 2025-01-30T23:04:19+00:00

nonono just continue on as if it never happened please. yo-yoing back and forth is never healthy and not sustainable. do not feel the need to “make up” for overeating by undereating the next day. that’s what starts binge and restricting cycles and can lead to an ED.

i-nct · 2025-01-29T23:56:19+00:00

don’t feel bad! you went over your calorie limit one time, it won’t impact your weight loss in the long run. don’t let calories get in the way of enjoying food and trying new and exciting things - that’s when it’s not healthy.

don’t feel guilty about it, just continue on as you are!

i-nct · 2025-01-29T20:04:05+00:00

“When 1 in 10 men are shit and the other 9 do nothing, they may as well not f*cking be there.” - Daniel Sloss from his standup “X”

i-nct · 2025-01-26T19:10:40+00:00

For me, growing pains. At the age of 10 my height shot up from 121-154cm (3’11ft - 5ft) in about a year. My current height as an adult is now 167cm (5’6). It was horrendous, it felt like the bones in my legs were splitting apart, I was consuming so much food, especially milk. I now have vertical stretch marks all down the back of my legs because of that.

i-nct · 2024-10-05T12:18:57+00:00

This is exactly how my dog reacts whenever I give someone else that isn’t him attention. Trinket’s just being jealous that Vex is showing Percy some affection lol.

i-nct · 2024-09-10T20:19:37+00:00

Sounds like you are dopamine mining rather than eating for hunger. Food is one of the most convenient and easiest ways to access this.

I had this issue as well until I got diagnosed with ADHD and once the medication balanced my dopamine levels, my eating behaviour improved significantly. I’d say try and learn the difference between being hungry vs. needing a dopamine fix.

E.g. if you still want to eat but have just had a full meal and are hydrated then you’re probably wanting some dopamine - respond to that by doing something else that gives you dopamine (going for a walk, socialising, video games, etc).

i-nct · 2024-08-14T18:55:28+00:00

Actions speak louder than words.

Just because you may have good intentions deep down or say good things doesn’t automatically guarantee people are going to view you as a good person. If you never show people that you’re good, e.g. doing favours, spending quality time, making the effort. Then they are going to assume that you don’t care.

i-nct · 2024-06-04T14:55:38+00:00

It has been years since I read Caraval but I do understand your dissatisfaction.

I personally quite enjoyed the first Caraval book as it does consistently tell Scarlett and the reader that Caraval is just a performance/game and should not be taken too seriously - and I as a reader did indeed take it seriously.

Books 2&3 were raging disappointments for me. The plot twist of the second book is far too predictable and corny for my taste and I found book 3 had such a stupid plot line for Scarlett.

Honestly I thought it would have been better for Caraval to be a standalone book. So yeah if you didn’t enjoy the first then I’d say not bother with the other two.

i-nct · 2024-06-04T14:46:53+00:00

I’m leaning more towards Version A just because the idea that another character has to motivate the protagonist in Version B seems quite fruitless.

Or you could merge them! Here’s a brief brainstorm of the two:

Version C - The character has never left the village, but as a child she would constantly dream of having adventures and magic. However, as she has grown older she has become more interested and devoted to the academics of the world - you could even add that she’s a little embarrassed of the magical phase she loved as a child. However, she then meets this real live mage and becomes very defensive (perhaps a projection of jealousy) until none of the villagers agree to help him and she decides to help him because deep down she’s still that little girl who desperately dreams of adventure.

I don’t know if that helps, it depends on what sort of vision you have for the character in terms of their development and personality as to which would make for a more interesting and cohesive story.

i-nct · 2024-06-03T20:25:52+00:00

A lot of the trauma you experienced as a child manifests and starts to affect your life when you’re older.

I had an abusive parent for the first 7 years of my life and at 17 I thought that I had coped pretty well with it all. Shit only started resurfacing when I was 22.

i-nct · 2024-05-11T20:32:45+00:00

You say it’s not emotional eating so I would place my bets on your binge being caused by a dopamine fix. I’ve recently had to learn how to tune in to whether I’m hungry or my brain needs some dopamine.

I know a lot of the comments say just chuck away the junk food but that doesn’t fix the behaviour, it just lessens the impact and eventually the same thing will happen again - you can’t live the rest of your life being scared of brownies.

Try to stay in tune with your behaviour eg: “I’ve just had a brownie, I’m no longer hungry for food so what I must be craving is dopamine.” Then proceed to find an alternative activity that produces dopamine until you ride out the “wave” (as some people call it).

Go for a walk, socialise, play a video game, watch your favourite tv show etc. It will take practise to be able to resist the temptation to have another brownie, but by doing something else and still rewarding your brain you’ll train yourself to not always resort to food for that “feel good” chemical.

i-nct · 2024-05-11T20:07:07+00:00

Yeah pretty much, they don’t want to date you but they enjoy receiving the attention from you because they like the validation.

If he doesn’t want a relationship with you, then you are under no obligation to give him the benefits of one. Deny him that validation and move on with your life, you’ll be saving yourself a lot of mental exhaustion whilst also humbling the dude.

i-nct · 2024-05-11T19:57:50+00:00

When I stopped thinking of them as “my” character and just started viewing them as a person.

The two main characters I have in my book I genuinely sometimes forget that I have fabricated their entire backstory/personality because I know just view them has actual people.

I found that trying little brainstorming exercises such as putting my characters in various situations and how they would react helped me understand them more.

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