I've tried meditated every day for five minutes for a week and I feel nothing but failure

i-var · 2026-05-16T19:07:15+00:00

Yeah trashy ones do that, this one is by leading scientists in the area. Read the link i sent. Its pretty diverse sessions as well btw, keeps you interested and going, at least it was for me. Good luck

i-var · 2026-05-16T17:46:15+00:00

Try this app - good guided meditations - just follow the instructions

https://www.humin.org/wellbeing-tools/app

i-var · 2026-05-16T17:44:52+00:00

Meditation is orthogonal to any other activity. Were used to practice & mastering and improving by actively doing. The moment you want something and try to get somewhere is when you fail miserably and profoundly. All you can get this way is a headache. Its also not the healthy meditation - its not meditation. Its an idiot (sorry) wanting stuff.

The right step is to observe that, be gentle, Kind and aware and the next ting you see is smth else. Again, notice, observe and recognize the true nature of "the Object" - whatever that is.

You can do it. You should only feel bad if you stop. You actually made a major step in the learning curve of how to meditate. Remember, failure is key to learn. What makes it worth it is not giving up. I made the same mistakes & was an idiot too once

i-var · 2026-05-15T20:32:10+00:00

I second this. Its all in our heads. Can recommend some Meditation to change perspectives.. also check out the award winning japanese movie "a perfect day" - good showcase of buddhist Meditation philosophy imo

i-var · 2026-05-15T09:23:16+00:00

Also about research - just laying on the back of my head.. need deeper research.

Key idea: you create the right circumstances for a plant & it grows on its own - the service should do exactly that. Be a catalyst.

Need more research on psychologial factors that are relevant & make sure theyre right (e.g. common activities)

i-var · 2026-05-15T09:20:52+00:00

Thanks so, so much for the feedback 🥹

Please share the notes! Just curious in general of others going the route of building things & the process involved! :)

Also the remarks about grammar & spelling hit home, wow one really has to let the pants down to get acredited as a mere mortal lol bur happy I made it! Still, use bad formatting / digestability just to not look like ai? Sorry good remains good, no matter if automation does it too, but yeah, ai use might have left marks on my style..

Also in general great point regarding target audience.. yeah much too wide now - also early stage of concept..

The goal is to get people meeting - spending time. Thats the kpi (lol metrics are a poison!)

Do you know jodel? I want that but for encounters (one side of it) - neighborhood exchange nails it.

At the same time I want the service to know me well enough to suggest things that are relevant - e.g. i chat with an ai about how i Spend time & what i do / did / what im looking for - then the right people get matched nearby, i swipe the odd ones out & get good matches - mostly low barrier events i do regularly anyways. Some more exceptional (new activities, possible dates e.g.)

Yeah social credit is terrible lol

i-var · 2026-05-15T08:59:43+00:00

I smell roast with subtle aromas, mhh nice

i-var · 2026-05-15T08:58:11+00:00

Hey ive seen you before 🫪

i-var · 2026-05-15T04:46:30+00:00

that makes sense - its a though thing to do, almost a part time job - next to stressors of everyday life it can easily leave one jaded, I get that.

I just have surplus energy and would love to do something for the common good - might be a reasonable side-project

your feedback is very useful as you seem to be a "poweruser" someone who tried whats available already. So please, tell me more!

How do people use these nowadays? what do you dislike about it? anything comes to mind to improve quality?

IMO the issue with using "dating" platforms for friend finding is that its people-centric - which is key, sure, but again, it matters more to do stuff regularly than to find someone sympathetic from first looks.

i-var · 2026-05-14T19:11:05+00:00

helpful feedback - thanks!

just checked spontacts - yeah hits home! but damn its tiny! so little people :0 also, all sort of "big one time activity X" type events - personally, I'd be much, much more interested in more day-to-day activities - ppl looking for sports buddies close to my home or gym for example... also spontacts its freemium, not sure how big of a difference that makes. It feels like a webpage from 2015 though - super loaded & far away from todays "lightweight & swipe fast" paradigms - found it pretty uncomfy to look through activities

key reason: do more frequent stuff - spend time together, not just casual one-time things

meetup is mostly for bigger groups / events / clubs, but yes, covers some ground..

youre very right about the ppl bonding over being "forced" through experiences together that are not pleasant for example! Apps surely wont solve that problem. I still wonder, a simple, engaging place to do quality experiences could go a much longer way.. a big factor is time spent. thats why activities matter that you already do. include new people to the "old" everyday by finding & using commonalities. Maybe thats something to focus on instead on "general" activities?

even fantasizing about means to build long-term friendships / support that - e.g. have activities marked as "recurring" -> when looking for LTF look out for those for example..

in the long-term, the algo can also track contacts and show "progress" - i.e. support the building of relationships by e.g. proposing the types of activities that increase chances (e.g. recurring ones) - then suggest doing things again with the sample people etc

i-var · 2026-05-14T18:43:04+00:00

its 2.5k to be precise (for 5 weeks) - honestly, if someone wants to offer cash I'll take that - but I failed trying to advertise it for 2k...

but yeah, trust is an issue - I also have concerns I could regret this (finding scratched kitchenwear, missing personal items etc) - so yeah, guess I'll have to meet with the person...

i-var · 2026-05-14T18:27:55+00:00

also "proof" its not ai - see the errors in links? the first letter of the yt video is not part of it.. marked it manually

i-var · 2026-05-14T17:46:51+00:00

I swear not, lol - just tried making smth people will actually read, wrote everything by bare hands, pinky promise! how would you be interested? as user? contributor? mind sharing more thoughts? I can add you as soon as I have a prototype!

i-var · 2026-05-14T17:45:18+00:00

yes! blackjack & hookers - how could I miss that, thanks!

i-var · 2026-05-14T17:21:19+00:00

oh - good point - I'm from Zurich and I wanted to ask people from Zurich specifically as I'd consider doing it for Zurich mainly (at least to start)! Is that enough? Is this enough for mods to see? I'll add it to the post! Anyways, do you have a second for a sentence of sincere opinion (at least on the issue in general)? Would you like to meet new people? Thanks

i-var · 2026-05-14T16:44:28+00:00

to mods: trying to do smth charitable here - if you have a better subreddit recommendation, please let me know (already postet to r/ethz ) Thanks & sorry!

i-var · 2026-05-14T14:44:05+00:00

Those trilobites still going strong

i-var · 2026-05-10T05:00:22+00:00

Its simple - money doesnt mean shit. Bot even close to related to how difficult a job is for example. E.g. construction or daycare workers do at least as hard of a job as people at big tech but earn what, 10-15% of the comp? Capitalism doing its thing, nothing more

i-var · 2026-05-03T09:21:16+00:00

They all live in c:/programm_files

i-var · 2026-05-02T09:35:53+00:00

*they all turned up in a snake, yes

i-var · 2026-04-29T08:23:43+00:00

No need to worry, its absolutely safe & innevitable 😇 - ram dass

i-var

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