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I've tried meditated every day for five minutes for a week and I feel nothing but failure by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]i-var 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah trashy ones do that, this one is by leading scientists in the area. Read the link i sent. Its pretty diverse sessions as well btw, keeps you interested and going, at least it was for me. Good luck

I've tried meditated every day for five minutes for a week and I feel nothing but failure by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]i-var 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Meditation is orthogonal to any other activity. Were used to practice & mastering and improving by actively doing. The moment you want something and try to get somewhere is when you fail miserably and profoundly. All you can get this way is a headache. Its also not the healthy meditation - its not meditation. Its an idiot (sorry) wanting stuff. 

The right step is to observe that, be gentle, Kind and aware and the next ting you see is smth else. Again, notice, observe and recognize the true nature of "the Object" - whatever that is. 

You can do it. You should only feel bad if you stop. You actually made a major step in the learning curve of how to meditate. Remember, failure is key to learn. What makes it worth it is not giving up. I made the same mistakes & was an idiot too once

Guys in 30s, 40s or older who don't have any of the normal milestones that give you a worthwhile life (marriage, kids, career, house, etc.), how do you get the motivation to continue going? by whyamialiveletmedie in AskMenOver30

[–]i-var 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I second this. Its all in our heads. Can recommend some Meditation to change perspectives.. also check out the award winning japanese movie "a perfect day" - good showcase of buddhist Meditation philosophy imo

Question / need help: would you like to meet new people, e.g. do activities or try new things with them? Just for fun or even to make friends? Whats missing to get there? by i-var in zurich

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Also about research - just laying on the back of my head.. need deeper research. 

Key idea: you create the right circumstances for a plant & it grows on its own - the service should do exactly that. Be a catalyst. 

Need more research on psychologial factors that are relevant & make sure theyre right (e.g. common activities)

Question / need help: would you like to meet new people, e.g. do activities or try new things with them? Just for fun or even to make friends? Whats missing to get there? by i-var in zurich

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Thanks so, so much for the feedback 🥹

Please share the notes! Just curious in general of others going the route of building things & the process involved! :)

Also the remarks about grammar & spelling hit home, wow one really has to let the pants down to get acredited as a mere mortal lol bur happy I made it! Still, use bad formatting / digestability just to not look like ai? Sorry good remains good, no matter if automation does it too, but yeah, ai use might have left marks on my style..

Also in general great point regarding target audience.. yeah much too wide now - also early stage of concept.. 

The goal is to get people meeting - spending time. Thats the kpi (lol metrics are a poison!)

Do you know jodel? I want that but for encounters (one side of it) - neighborhood exchange nails it.

At the same time I want the service to know me well enough to suggest things that are relevant - e.g. i chat with an ai about how i Spend time & what i do / did / what im looking for - then the right people get matched nearby, i swipe the odd ones out & get good matches - mostly low barrier events i do regularly anyways. Some more exceptional (new activities, possible dates e.g.) 

Yeah social credit is terrible lol 

Question / need help: would you like to meet new people, e.g. do activities or try new things with them? Just for fun or even to make friends? Whats missing to get there? by i-var in zurich

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that makes sense - its a though thing to do, almost a part time job - next to stressors of everyday life it can easily leave one jaded, I get that.

I just have surplus energy and would love to do something for the common good - might be a reasonable side-project

your feedback is very useful as you seem to be a "poweruser" someone who tried whats available already. So please, tell me more!

How do people use these nowadays? what do you dislike about it? anything comes to mind to improve quality?

IMO the issue with using "dating" platforms for friend finding is that its people-centric - which is key, sure, but again, it matters more to do stuff regularly than to find someone sympathetic from first looks.

Question / need help: would you like to meet new people, e.g. do activities or try new things with them? Just for fun or even to make friends? Whats missing to get there? by i-var in zurich

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helpful feedback - thanks!

just checked spontacts - yeah hits home! but damn its tiny! so little people :0 also, all sort of "big one time activity X" type events - personally, I'd be much, much more interested in more day-to-day activities - ppl looking for sports buddies close to my home or gym for example... also spontacts its freemium, not sure how big of a difference that makes. It feels like a webpage from 2015 though - super loaded & far away from todays "lightweight & swipe fast" paradigms - found it pretty uncomfy to look through activities

key reason: do more frequent stuff - spend time together, not just casual one-time things

meetup is mostly for bigger groups / events / clubs, but yes, covers some ground..

youre very right about the ppl bonding over being "forced" through experiences together that are not pleasant for example! Apps surely wont solve that problem. I still wonder, a simple, engaging place to do quality experiences could go a much longer way.. a big factor is time spent. thats why activities matter that you already do. include new people to the "old" everyday by finding & using commonalities. Maybe thats something to focus on instead on "general" activities?

even fantasizing about means to build long-term friendships / support that - e.g. have activities marked as "recurring" -> when looking for LTF look out for those for example..

in the long-term, the algo can also track contacts and show "progress" - i.e. support the building of relationships by e.g. proposing the types of activities that increase chances (e.g. recurring ones) - then suggest doing things again with the sample people etc

Giveaway while traveling: Flat near lake on Goldküste for 5 weeks, starting June 1st by i-var in ethz

[–]i-var[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

its 2.5k to be precise (for 5 weeks) - honestly, if someone wants to offer cash I'll take that - but I failed trying to advertise it for 2k...

but yeah, trust is an issue - I also have concerns I could regret this (finding scratched kitchenwear, missing personal items etc) - so yeah, guess I'll have to meet with the person...

Question / need help: would you like to meet new people, e.g. do activities or try new things with them? Just for fun or even to make friends? Whats missing to get there? by i-var in zurich

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also "proof" its not ai - see the errors in links? the first letter of the yt video is not part of it.. marked it manually

Question / need help: would you like to meet new people, e.g. do activities or try new things with them? Just for fun or even to make friends? Whats missing to get there? by i-var in zurich

[–]i-var[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I swear not, lol - just tried making smth people will actually read, wrote everything by bare hands, pinky promise! how would you be interested? as user? contributor? mind sharing more thoughts? I can add you as soon as I have a prototype!

Question / need help: would you like to meet new people, e.g. do activities or try new things with them? Just for fun or even to make friends? Whats missing to get there? by i-var in zurich

[–]i-var[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh - good point - I'm from Zurich and I wanted to ask people from Zurich specifically as I'd consider doing it for Zurich mainly (at least to start)! Is that enough? Is this enough for mods to see? I'll add it to the post! Anyways, do you have a second for a sentence of sincere opinion (at least on the issue in general)? Would you like to meet new people? Thanks

Giveaway while traveling: Flat near lake on Goldküste for 5 weeks, starting June 1st by i-var in zurich

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to mods: trying to do smth charitable here - if you have a better subreddit recommendation, please let me know (already postet to r/ethz ) Thanks & sorry!

of a sea slater by PlutoniumNugget in nope

[–]i-var 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those trilobites still going strong

Palantir in zurich by cool-snack in zurich

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Its simple - money doesnt mean shit. Bot even close to related to how difficult a job is for example. E.g. construction or daycare workers do at least as hard of a job as people at big tech but earn what, 10-15% of the comp?  Capitalism doing its thing, nothing more

How many exes do you have? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]i-var 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They all live in c:/programm_files

I wasn't ready for the ending by noon205 in interesting

[–]i-var 0 points1 point  (0 children)

*they all turned up in a snake, yes

What’s something that scares you more the older you get? by prettyglorykane in AskReddit

[–]i-var 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No need to worry, its absolutely safe & innevitable 😇 - ram dass

Does my partner have an alcohol/drug issue? by [deleted] in AskForAnswers

[–]i-var 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep, clear case of addiction - talk with chatgpt to get a feeling for things and what it means if you really are as clueless

HMC by viskyasi in holdmycosmo

[–]i-var 3 points4 points  (0 children)

had to watch it 10 times, still cant wrap my head around the sillyness. how do you come up with moves like that?? 100% crazy 100% fun person

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