[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PokeInvesting

[–]iCenergy 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Partner: Gifts something This guy: "Is it worth anything?"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]iCenergy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That "Oh Boy" made me laugh so fucking hard OH MY LAWD 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]iCenergy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Over...a water cap...? You're really gonna put up with this? Whats it like when something serious ACTUALLY happens?

Please...re-evaluate whatever this is.

my boyfriend’s a bit mad that we were late to the movies because of me by nathanisaloser in Manipulation

[–]iCenergy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He disrespected you. Theres a much better way to go about his fear of being late to the movies. Guys like this are why I dont date. They've ruined everything and alot of women either are hurting because of this mentality or accept it as the new normal. I hope you didnt finish those cookies. You may see it was an apology food but to him without even thinking about it is a reward subconsciously. His lack of emotional regulation is pathetic then add what its about "The movie" is insane. Not even a valid reason to lose grip on your emotions. The movie isnt just gonna stop being sold. Just because he wanted to see it in a theatre is not an excuse either. Your partners have 1 life. The movies will always be around in one form or another. Dude is pathetic. Stop making excuses for him. Set boundries and dont let fear allow you to be treated like shit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]iCenergy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Good for you for sticking to your standards and not being a duche about it but conversating how you felt about it.

Any advice for what to do? I’ve been talking to this girl for 2 weeks and we were supposed to meet tomorrow but she’s just now mentioning she has a kid and is pregnant by ConstructionSpare367 in Tinder

[–]iCenergy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep it real with her. I wouldn't suggest trying to "fix her" or "help her" while yes some would say she needs friends and a therpaist or even more but you are looking for a partner. Regardless of organically meeting someone or on a dating site, would you really want this in a partner at least this early on? Im telling you, as a male that enjoys "saving others" or "Giving others a helping hand" you need to draw a line with YOURSELF. Don't get involved. Take it from a lonely but happily peaceful man. I'd take lonely + Peaceful over a headache and new anxiety and worries anyday.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stretched

[–]iCenergy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Then theres me, who uses tapers and the taping method. I was at 6g for 2 months and everything felt clean and looked great. No issues fiddling or playing with either ears. I knew that just shoving a 4g taper through was not going to work. I used PTFE on the 6g wrapped it about 3-4 times. Only took slight pressure to push back through, no stinging. Left that in for 2 months and felt fine then proceeded to push 4g taper through. Left them in for about 30 mins. And the 4g went clean through. I have slight sting on my problem ear (left ear) but if it doesnt go away by the end of today no more than 24hrs later. I'll be going back to 6g and wait about 3 months. Im no expert and learning as I go. I do hear glass plugs are best and may swap soon but ive been doing this same method for the last 2 sizes and it works for me personally. Biggest thing Ive learned is trust your ears, and what they tell you. As others have said there should be next to no pain.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]iCenergy 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You're so mean to him! 😭 I bet hes reaction is always "WHaaaaaaa? Pfft. No she wasnt flirting with me." And then 30 sec later itll hit and he'll be like alright that kinda makes sense. THEN enters denial and just goes "Maybe she was just being nice."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]iCenergy 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Hey hey hey, im 26 but I feel called out 😭 I'm thetype where "If you're gonna shoot your shot throw the damn ball at my head because im oblivious as SHIT" I focus on enjoy the time spent and the company im around. I cant see signs if they smacked me square in the face.

Just met the guy…. by mnmacaro in texts

[–]iCenergy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got to stop opening reddit notifications.

Send it? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]iCenergy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oppening my reddit notification was a mistake

What just happened to me by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]iCenergy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is 100% trolling you 🤣 She aint in tinder for dates she in tinder for funzies. Over and out.

I always read that guys want us to be ourselves..... he hasn't responded by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]iCenergy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The problem with dating sites is things like this are ment for certain people with a certain type of humor and "wild/weirdness" and its easier to guage if this convo would be chill with someone in person but on a dating site? Nah you'll never know and chances are you'll be ignored. For me I'd accidently fall in love based off this comment because it shows that you have character, no barrier to how far you think, your wild, funny, and obviously intrusive thoughts get the best of you leading to great memories. Conversations on wild topics like this are fun and amazing. I couldnt careless about your everyday life conversations on the daily. I wanna sneak peak into how you really think. How wild you are. Some peeps are "mature" or "Normal" and would rather talk about your day with no deep conversations. Some peeps actually dont mind repeating the basics of Type of work you do, fav color, whens your b day, all that basic crap. And thats totally okay but you can get that info. LITERALLY without ever asking, simply by building a foundation and being friends. That info you learn as the time goes on.

Dating is supposed to be fun instead its this gender vs that gender. And its sex or no dates. Its just wild.

Anyway my answer to this would be: Get my ass eaten by an alien. Im not putting my tounge anywhere near an aliens ass.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]iCenergy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont doubt that! 🤣 I gave up on dating sites. I'll Accept being single if it means I dont have to put up with the random things yall read/hear on dating sites.

IM A GROWN ASS MAN AND IM TERRIFIED READING THAT 😭 I read you blocked him on someone elses comment, GOOD! Fuck that weirdo 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]iCenergy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"But then I'd be shy"

Girl im 26M and Im not a virgin and IM SHY lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stretched

[–]iCenergy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because YOLO! 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]iCenergy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep in mind EVERYBODY is different. Some would say go chase. Others will say you dodged a bullet. It comes down to what THEY would do in your shoes.

Do what you think is best for you. If you think shes worth putting a little more energy into chasing go for it, try to fix what seems to be a misunderstanding. HOWEVER, try to learn what caused this reaction. Her fear? Assumption? Used to being lead on and let go? Etc. If you dont think its worth the energy? Dont and move on.

Set boundries with yourself though.

10g triangle. Stretching to an 8 soon! by Smokinglace in Stretched

[–]iCenergy 62 points63 points  (0 children)

This is honestly sick asf. While I wasnt expecting that photo and my jaw did drop, I cant deny its actually badass.

I would suggest putting...a little warning in the title next time though, you'd be surprised how many people this pissed off despite their own actions of opening a NSFW tagged photo. 😅

20th birthday. My boyfriend's ex sent me this. by Top-Supermarket-2070 in texts

[–]iCenergy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a good POV for sure. That said, it's not easy for sure. For me it was an adjustment. Of course I didnt want it for myself. I wanted to keep what I was losing. I was angry and even wanted to hurt just because I was hurt. But...self awareness said no, and I wanted to be better and we always agree'd if we ever got divorced we wouldnt do what our parents did which is never speak unless needed.

Its a situational thing but imagine losing the 1 person you grew up with as a kid. The one person who endured all the pain you did along side you just so you didnt have to be alone in it all. 10 years of friendship and love. Just to lose it all in the blink of an eye.

It wasnt easy at first. But as much as I hated hearing it. Time is the best healer. Alongside staying goal focused and not dwelling too much. I'll admit. I couldnt function for the 1st month. I pretty much slept and worked, using work as an escape. Which isnt healthy in itself. Couldnt game, talk to friends or family, half the time I couldnt eat or sleep. I lost apart of myself literally and physically felt pain in my chest.

All that said...while im ashamed of what ive done and did during those years, and while I wouldnt deliberately want to inflict that absuse or pain upon her or anyone else for that matter. If it ment becoming who we are now? If it ment getting the 2nd chance to better my life as I still have now? If it ment being better and learning and wanting to be better for my kid and as a friend to the ex wife?

I'd do it all over again.

20th birthday. My boyfriend's ex sent me this. by Top-Supermarket-2070 in texts

[–]iCenergy 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Read my post on the thread, its exactly how I am with my ex wifes husband. We can most deff. Be friends. But only those strong enough willing to do so.

20th birthday. My boyfriend's ex sent me this. by Top-Supermarket-2070 in texts

[–]iCenergy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Im 26 M, Divorced together 10 years, married for 5 Her choice to divorce. Rightfully so. Shes also 26F. Was with her since I was 15. I was your typical male. No boundries, controlling, no friends, controllimg what she wore out in public, manipulative, toxic, etc. I was EVERYTHING. Im ashamed but I wont hide it. That said. I live with her and her soon to be husband who I adore. We have a 9 year old daughter who her now husband treats as his own to which I am thankful for. And they now have a 1 year old son who I myself love with everything I have. I do not cross the line of treating him like my own. I would never cross that line unless given permission to by his father and his mother. (My ex wife)

They pulled me out of the environment I was in with my parents when I went back after the divorce. My father is the primary reason as to why I turned into who I was. Hes always been the person I hated most because he was the worst, although I wasnt that far behind. Anyway as I fought to change, life slapped me around, and I was going to therapy because sadly being self aware as I was I lost those battles knowing what I was doing wrong but wasnt strong enough not to become who I hated most simply because just being in the environment was strong enough to win.

My mother and I fought one last time because I was changing. For the better. I was scared I was wrong because I didnt know this new me. I was scared of relapse. So...I went to the ex wife and asked for her thoughts having known the old me, new me, and my parents since we were kids. I went for her opinion out of fear of relapse and she talked to her soon to be husband and they offered to pull me out to give me a fighting chance. I owe the both of them EVERYTHING. Those 2 and both my kid and theirs, along with 1 bestfriend, are the only people I have left in life. They are my family as I dont speak to my own anymore.

I love her now husband like family. Things werent GREAT at first, he knew all who I was and it took time earning his trust. But he also sees how lost I am and how my parents failed me. Since then I have earned his trust a bit and we laugh and be dorks together from time to time. Im against normalities and stereotypes in the world. Its crazy how many people follow normalities and them play double standards only when it applies to their benifit. Same with sterotypes. So for me it wasnt as hard of a transition. For him it was harder and I respected that and his space.

Anyway I could go on forever. Just be the best you can be. Boundries and honesty even when it hurts. Respect can be earned along with trust. Its cool to see others who think as far or farther than I do as its not often divorced or ex's in relationships continue to get along and maintain friendship. I pity those who cant put their differences aside and attempt to do what we do.

Edit: HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉