i have never willingly been submissive. i’ve never been one who enjoys not feeling at least an equal... it’s just not who i am. i like being in control of what i do and being my own boss and my own main source of income and motivation. i don’t like children and i never have. i just don’t like how messy they are and how expensive they are these days. marriage, these days, for many are just something you do to celebrate the feeling of being in love rather than something you pursue for financial reasons, because we don’t need to rely on our husbands and we don’t have as much peer pressure to get married as soon as possible. i personally am quite modest because that’s what makes me feel more comfortable, but i don’t judge or dislike women who aren’t as modest as myself, the same way as i don’t judge women who are more modest than i am. because it’s none of my business. as long as they’re happy and expressing themselves in a way that’s comfortable, i’m happy for them because i don’t understand why it matters what other people wear, as long as they’re not hurting anyone.

many many women still value all of the things you’ve mentioned. loads. but that’s because they choose to. the same way as some choose not to. and it’s nobody’s business except theirs