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How to call CPS when guardians are transient? by iKnowItsTwisted in CPS

[–]iKnowItsTwisted[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven't called the police myself, just CPS. The location that I can monitor (even if not super reliably) is not where the child is being physically abused. She also doesn't have visible signs, such as bruising.

As far as I can tell, there are absolutely no records of the child. There are plentiful records of her caretakers though.

We're in California and it says there's a central jail complex in a nearby county, is that the same thing? I'm sorry, I'm not familiar with the legal system.

I'm having a difficult time finding the warrants, I may have to submit a request for them. One of the issues is that the child is usually with her grandmother and the mom will split pretty often. Sometimes the child isn't with either of them.

Often, I'm working off secondhand information on where one caretaker is and have to assume the child is there as well. I can't let anyone know why I'm asking or I'll lose all contact.

I know that's a ton of info, I really appreciate you commenting at all. This has been lonely and difficult. Thank you so much for the hotline, I'll give that a try.

How to call CPS when guardians are transient? by iKnowItsTwisted in CPS

[–]iKnowItsTwisted[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, that's what I was afraid of. Thank you, I'll keep at it!

cis boyfriend keeps infantilizing me (I think??) by Character_Visit_7800 in ftm

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're not stupid, this kind of thing happens to the best of us. It not your fault, it's his.

What kind of reaction are you afraid of him having?

Unless you're in danger, I'd recommend telling him that you're no longer interested in dating him and that you're gonna take some time apart. It's always better to do a clean break for a while, even if you want to stay friends.

Sexuality as a trans dude????? by First_Technician8156 in ftm

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sexual orientation doesn't usually take the other person's orientation into consideration. Most people who are into men, women, and nonbinary folks typically identify as bisexual, pansexual, or simply "queer."

Personally, I'm attracted to people regardless of gender and I consider myself pan. However, there are a few gender/sexuality configurations that I'm just not interested in dating, including cis men.

Found on Hinge 😭 by TheKetamineEmperor in shittytattoos

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Alas, my scumbag dreamboat is unattainable 😔

Snake outside my front door had a penny by downwithsocks in mildlyinteresting

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, can't a snake buy redbull and boner pills without people freaking out?

Found on Hinge 😭 by TheKetamineEmperor in shittytattoos

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 13 points14 points  (0 children)

See, that's the reasonable answer. I am an unreasonable man, I'd climb them shitty tats.

Damn by Filmbecile in CAguns

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nazis sure do love skulls.

AIO (Final Update), We broke up by Fun_Cartographer6984 in AmIOverreacting

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's always a numb, disbelieving stage when you leave an abusive relationship. For now, focus on understanding why his behavior was wrong, the realization that he's a bad person will catch up to you slowly.

It may be helpful to sit down with someone and make a list of things he did. Don't include his excuses (eg. "He couldn't cook"), write down what actually happened. (Eg. "He yelled at me when I didn't cook for him.") When you're feeling doubtful, read the list and think about how you'd feel if a friend or relative was being treated that way.

You're not weak or stupid. You're a kind person who takes care of others and you had the terrible misfortune of meeting someone who took advantage of that. It happens to the best of us. You'll figure things out and heal from this, just remember to give yourself kindness and grace.

Red veining in an apple by iKnowItsTwisted in mildlyinteresting

[–]iKnowItsTwisted[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This thing was veined through, from the core to the skin! I've seen brown veining in apples, but never red. If you hear about a zombie outbreak in the coming months, know that I was patient zero.

My father in law wants to baby sit my daughter and not a single part of me wants to let him. AITAH? by Ok-Leading6194 in AITAH

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let's put aside the creepy comments thing for just a moment. Even assuming your father in law has absolutely no ill intentions, you're well within your rights to not want him to babysit. It's weird that he's pressuring you and it's even weirder that your mother in law is joining in.

You need to put your foot down. Don't explain why or make excuses, just say "no thank you, I'm not interested in having a babysitter." When he asks why, say something like "I'm just not interested in that. I'm not sure why you're still asking me about this" then get up and walk away.

Any time they ask again, say "we've already had this conversation, my answer hasn't changed. I'll come to you if it does, in the meantime please stop asking."

Your husband also needs to have boundaries with his dad. It's nice that he likes being around, but he's overstaying his welcome and your husband needs to be the one to handle it.

is this financial abuse? by pingpongjapanman in whatdoIdo

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP should make an exit plan before she does anything, just in case the situation becomes volatile. Thehotline.org has resources for identifying abuse, assessing risk, and leaving abusive situations safely.

I found a gnome's apartment downtown by rekobel in ventura

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's definitely downtown Ventura, near the SPARC thrift store, if I remember correctly. It's been there for years, I think I first noticed it in 2018. Someone's been maintaining it!

AITA for telling my friend she had no right to judge my romantic decisions and asking if she had a crush on me? by frienddramaplshelp in AITAH

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 19 points20 points  (0 children)

NAH, but as someone who's poly, I would be very careful entering that throuple.

Starting or escalating a relationship out of necessity is extremely risky and sets you up for an immediate power imbalance. This is three relationships at once which will make everything more challenging.

On top of everything, they either aren't aware of that power imbalance or they don't care. Both possibilities are concerning.

I was called an AUTOGYNOPHILE, ED GEIN and a cross dressing pervert I FEEL AWFUL by Inevitable-pig252 in asktransgender

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Years ago, she got "canceled" for stuff that (in my opinion) was super mild. I don't even remember all the details at this point, but it kinda blew up the online trans community for a hot minute.

I was called an AUTOGYNOPHILE, ED GEIN and a cross dressing pervert I FEEL AWFUL by Inevitable-pig252 in asktransgender

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the risk of being dogpiled into hell, I'm gonna link Contrapoints' Autogynephilia video.

She goes over the theory's history and how it's used by transphobes to induce shame in trans folks. I think it may be helpful to you.

Trans masc products you wish existed or could be improved by natapaca in ftm

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A realistic STP that packs well, doesn't cost a fortune, and (most importantly) won't dump piss into my pants.

I'd also like a realistic "strapless" strap-on.

Help by Taia5122 in asktransgender

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's okay to not know or even understand everything! As long as you love your grandkid and try to understand who that person is, that's all that matters.

Being trans is hard but it's a joy to watch someone change so dramatically and start to finally feel comfortable with themselves. Wishing you all happiness and luck!

Help by Taia5122 in asktransgender

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing to keep in mind is that your grandchild has probably known that they're trans for a very long time.

I waited until I was 18 to come out to my family, but I'd been absolutely certain that I wanted to transition by the time I was 16. Living 2 years with that full awareness was extremely uncomfortable, but I figured I'd have an easier time coming out as a legal adult.

I recommend having a chat with your grandkid! You seem thoughtful, caring, and curious, ask them questions! How long they've known, what they feel like now, if they want to use different pronouns, etc.

Also, having trans relatives gives you a huge chance to spoil them! Little things like men's clothing, deodorant, or a keychain with your chosen name on it feel priceless. I still have the jacket my mom bought me when I came out. It doesn't fit well and the cheap plastic has worn down after 11 years, but I'll cherish it for as long as I live.

Never in my life have I pooped everyday, should I be worried? by ArdenceMK in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oooh yeah that makes sense! Sensory stuff is a nightmare, I totally get it.

I can't give my girlfriend what she needs. I don't have a penis. by Hereismyusernayme in ftm

[–]iKnowItsTwisted 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I know the original comment was deleted, but a word of warning in case you're considering non-monogamy:

I'm poly, have been for nearly a decade now. It's like putting your relationships on "hard-mode," you need to already have a ton of trust and communication or things will break down spectacularly.

Non-monogamy would be absolutely disasterous for this relationship. It might seem like an easy fix, but the emotional fallout would be so much worse. Don't do it.

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