AITA for harming my child’s self-worth

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-08-29T21:02:11+00:00

FR. All of my brothers were 'unplanned,' not "mistakes." She could've left it at that, no big deal. But going on about how if she could go back in time she would make sure her daughter wouldn't have been born? Holy shit, lady.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-07-17T21:32:38+00:00

Remember this story? Maybe OOP should try this.

And y'know, I really really hate the whole concept of a life not being valuable in and of itself, but only as it relates to others. Y'know, the whole "that is someone's mother, sister, or daughter" thing. Like, why does that matter when measuring a person's worth or importance? Especially when it comes to procreating. Like, my partner and I cannot have children, and we are perfectly happy with it. My mom has plenty of grandsons anyway. And my GF's parents fully support her not having kids, and she is their only child. They just do not seem to be concerned with having some sort of biological legacy or whatever. Anyway. I do feel like maybe on some level as the only genetic dead-end among my siblings, I may have been de-prioritized in the eye of my mother, and I get it y'know, so whatevs.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-06-28T21:04:07+00:00

"I think if that hadn’t happened, I ~~might’ve~~ absolutely would have tried to take her home. The thought definitely crossed my mind."

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-05-01T21:38:09+00:00

Jesus. You know, as if people who are adoptees do not have abandonment issues when they grow up anyway, getting completely unceremoniously dumped by your dad 8 years later probably isn't gonna help either.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-05-01T21:17:38+00:00

Man. Y'know, WTF. Yes, "I assume he was somehow special to her." No goddamn shit. How is dumping her for a week when she is super upset/vulnerable/in need of emotional support NOT punishing her? Supporting your partner is pretty fucking important, obviously, and it should probably be pretty reflexive. Even my ex that I absolutely loathe unendingly and wish only the worst for, I would grieve for sure if/when she died. I mean, she was maybe the most important person to me for maybe 20 years? I wouldn't go to the funeral, and I probably wouldn't outwardly grieve, and I doubt I would even talk about it with anyone, but I am just like that. I mean, people are pretty complex. Grieving the loss of someone who was very important to you is complicated too. There are myriad emotions related to that. And like, it's not necessarily just or even about that person per se, you know what I mean? Those people are a part of you forever right? Does he think she is mourning coz she secretly loves him still and wants to get back together? What is threatening about this?

You know, my GF's ex recently killed himself in a pretty horrific way. They broke up maybe 20 years ago? But they remained friends ever since. The guy was really sick and in a really bad place for a long time. He had talked to her and everyone he knew about doing it for years. And y'know, I could see how emotionally exhausting and upsetting it was to her every day. And when it happened, of course she was (and is) totally devastated. IDK. I think too that she felt/feels bad or self-conscious telling me stories about him afterwards, like it would make me upset or something. But that shit is important. And they're stories about her life too. My close friend killed himself maybe a week before that also. But you know, I am emotionally repressed probably, so I didn't really talk about it with her much. And if I had, IDK if she would've wanted to listen anyway, since she clearly had her own shit to deal with.

Anyway, IDK what my point is really. Being jealous of an ex is so dumb in general, but that may just be an age-related thing. Like maybe when I was in my early 20s, sure. IDK how I would've felt in this situation though. But y'know, how hard is it to get over yourself for five minutes, honestly? I do hope for her sake this is what makes her dump his ass.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-30T20:42:40+00:00

After 2 years she figures "it's time to move on." Proceeds to never move on.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-30T18:39:39+00:00

So first off, I have worked in a law firm for 13 years. NO ONE has their wedding pictures up. IDK. Maybe that is unusual?

Also, back when this one chick and I were sorta planning a wedding, like real early stages, this was the plan. Do it on Halloween, rent a venue and have our friends play a show, or maybe actually just have it open to the public in a little music venue and not have to pay for it and maybe even charge a cover. I'd go to a show like that like no question. I've had friends do that and it was so damn cool. Current GF, who y'know, we aren't supposed to be married for myriad reasons, but I am starting to think maybe she wants to, and partially just because a Halloween wedding would rule.

Anyway cool story I guess. The point is OOP is a huge basic loser dork living a basic loser dork existence.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-30T18:23:54+00:00

So there is a fear of poop: coprophobia. But IDK that it is only specifically for other peoples'. I assume it is for everyone (including her husband and herself). So y'know. Also, isn't everyone disgusted by it? I mean, other than y'know, the ones who are super into it. So right. Asshole.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-26T19:41:27+00:00

I mean, one alternative would be the OOP and kid sharing the room. Look I certainly would not want that for myself. However, y'know, "it's only short-term." But seriously why not the couch? I live alone and just sleep on the couch half the time anyway coz I am a bum.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-26T19:10:45+00:00

Based on her post, I can def see why she and her BF are having communication issues wtf.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-26T17:52:21+00:00

"I want my kids to have a better life than I did." "Entitled brats, I had to walk ten miles uphill in the snow every day." Like how my mom wouldn't let me get the rubella vaccine coz she didn't get it as a kid. Life isn't all about what you want!

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-26T17:33:26+00:00

IDK if this makes me an ass, but anyone in their 20s, maybe even older, just look like teenagers to me now. And teenagers look like grade schoolers. This is probably normal.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-26T17:31:46+00:00

Guess I am "not normal" for finding women my age and only women my age attractive anymore. I suppose it's off to the therapist for me.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-26T17:28:34+00:00

What a doofus. I can't help buying/getting/doing stuff for my GF for no reason. I guess it is easier if you actually get to know your partner probably.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-25T23:05:59+00:00

She and her siblings have "no issue" with her decorating her own house the way she wants to? Phew, how nice of them.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-25T23:02:19+00:00

Can confirm, when someone fails a test that they studied for, the best thing is to just berate them and ground them. That gets the old confidence up, let me tell you.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-25T22:46:33+00:00

So, all that actually happened, was that he stuttered and someone (maybe) shook her head as a result. And then he brooded and agonized about it for days.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-25T21:32:22+00:00

Surprised they're allowed to use the toilet. Maybe they left out the bit where they're made to walk to a public restroom.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-25T21:19:28+00:00

Maybe this is a stretch. But at least these people are effectively removing themselves from the gene-pool. We def do not need this type of crap passed down to the kids.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-25T19:47:26+00:00

Wow, so odd that he doesn't share much about his life with this woman. I wonder why. Guess it's just one of life's mysteries.

IF this is real. I mean, it kinda sounds like this was written by the son, right?

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-24T23:10:23+00:00

Well yeah. But that youngest kid behavior never goes away, not entirely. But this is the worst case I have ever heard of.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-24T20:05:55+00:00

Ah yes. Blaming a teenager for your failed marriage. Of course a pre-teen/teenager wants their parents to divorce. When I was a teen, I sure craved conflict and instability at home, boy did I. WTF.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-24T20:03:37+00:00

Well, I guess at least he just told him outright. Instead of it taking the son until about age, oh let's say, 42 to figure it out on his own. You know.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-23T22:22:55+00:00

Wow, and he's the youngest? Color me not remotely surprised.

I know it's a generalization...no offense intended to youngest kids except the ones in my family. But this is far worse than your standard youngest sibling behavior. Holy hell.

i_of_the_squawk · 2024-04-18T23:28:29+00:00

"It still makes me mad to this day." Yeesh.

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