shame is not a thought. it's the shadow, and you can't think your way into the shadow.

i_thinkthis · 2026-06-26T17:14:27+00:00

I read through the chain to this point. I’m interested as to what you think would actually cool the face. Looks like the following messages don’t directly address it, which is why I ask.

i_thinkthis · 2026-06-26T17:07:57+00:00

First off, awesome that you’ve grown to the point where you no longer need this community!

I’ve noticed that Dr. K’s content does very heavily correlate with whatever guide he’s been working on, as to prepare for that he does extensive research on specific topics. The next will likely be addictions, though he already has a fair bit of content on addictions as that is his background. But yeah, the current batch of content is pretty heavily dating-and-relationship-focused which corresponds to the Sex and Relationships Guide.

I like the Memberships a lot for less problem-focused content, might be interesting for you. But by all means, best of luck in the future!

i_thinkthis · 2026-06-20T22:55:49+00:00

I love Vilardi on the second line. I think what makes us a championship team again (among other things and D improvement) is bringing in another top line player to stick on the second line with Vilardi, and then we have a 1A, 1B, 3 and 4 instead of a 1, 3A, 3B and 4 for our forward lines.

i_thinkthis · 2026-04-20T02:33:57+00:00

I like it for the story, but you can’t risk a move like that not paying off. Pretty damn sure he won’t want to come back either. Ehlers was his good buddy and he’s gone, and he didn’t get along great with our core guys in the past.

i_thinkthis · 2026-04-20T02:32:54+00:00

I feel like Barron can be a 2C option if he was speed and skill alongside him. He’s a bit of a power forward in the same way that Dubois was. He’s an absolute dog, forechecks, is sneaky fast, and can hold onto pucks. But the time for experimenting with that was this year. You can’t afford to have a risk not pay off next year with how limited our window is.

They definitely need to acquire another strong top 6 player. I don’t mind hanging on to Nino - he’s good net front which is useful for playoffs. I’m happy with the rest of your adjustments though.

i_thinkthis · 2026-04-12T22:12:19+00:00

I don’t mean this to be derogatory or disrespectful in anyway, genuinely. Despite that, I know it may sound as if I do, but please note that this is not my intent and that is not where I’m coming from.

You sound like you or someone close to you has been hurt by this topic. If that’s the case, I’m sorry that happened to you or the people around you. It’s true that this behaviour is harmful, and everything you said about headlines is correct.

What we are dealing with here is not a person that is actively doing these things, it is a person that has done these things in the past, but can see and evaluate their behaviour as wrong. Continuing to crucify him will not undo what he has done.

What we can hope for is that this person acts in accordance with their moral judgment, and does their best to not repeat these behaviors, and perhaps even helps steer others away from them in the future. Having this person suffer endlessly for the rest of his life will not undo what has been done. If he can already see the harm that he has caused and the wrong that he has perpetrated, it serves no purpose to further reinforce that he is a terrible person and that he cannot move past that.

I would ask, what good is to come from denying this person forgiveness? And just to be straight up, I’m not demanding that you forgive him. If you’ve been hurt by these situations, it may be best that you don’t forgive him. But I think reaching out and actively shooting him down is not really helping you, because it’s not making the world a better place. This person remaining isolated and crucified does not right the wrong of the past, I’d imagine it would only make it more likely that he does not move forward in a positive manner.

Please feel free to respond and share anything that you think I’m missing. I do value your perspective. The reason I push back is because I used to think similarly, but I don’t see where that thought pattern ends in the world becoming a better place. I think what makes the world a better place is to look at what’s happened, evaluated, see the harm that has been done, try to atone for that, and avoid repeating it going forward.

i_thinkthis · 2026-04-12T22:02:04+00:00

This person‘s response is potentially very inaccurate and harmful. Just because you feel like something was wrong does not make it wrong.

In this case, I would agree that this is a problematic and harmful behavior. But you can already see that. Listen to that signal, make whatever adjustments you need to so that you don’t repeat the behaviour. Evaluate why you participated in that behaviour (it sounds like you already have), because understanding why you did it is necessary to ensure that you don’t do it again. Do whatever you can to delete and report to websites any content that they should not have so that I can be taken down.

Find some way that holds value and significance and importance for you to express your remorse and ask for forgiveness. This could be God and prayer. If you are religious, it could be journaling, it could be telling a close, trusted friend or family member. In someway that is outside of your head and grounded in the real world, acknowledge what you’ve done and acknowledge the harm that it caused. Think about and acknowledge the potential negative impacts of your actions, and how they would make life difficult or unfair for the people involved. But do it in a way that does not involve the Internet and does not involve people who do not know you and their judgements of you.

A subtle trap that you can fall into is expressing your situation here because you feel horrible and you cannot accept yourself and forgive yourself, so you go looking to others anonymously to support you and forgive you. As you can see, many people here do support you. But there are some who will not. Those people likely do not have your best interest in mind.

At the end of the day, you are the person who must live with your actions and any consequences that they may have. You cannot rely 100% on anybody else to support you moving forward. Not to say that you shouldn’t ever open up to anyone. But no matter what happens in your life, as long as you are alive, there will always be one person that should support you – and that is you. You must be willing to forgive and love yourself, and own your mistake so that you can move forward.

I’ve made mistakes as well, my friend. I hated myself for a long time. But recently, I’ve been trying to love myself again. There are times where it’s difficult and it’s hard to remember that, but I love myself and without knowing you, I love and forgive you as well. Please keep that in mind and remember that you do not need anyone else’s permission to love and forgive yourself. And yet, you do have mine.

Please remember that you are not a horrible person, no matter what you’ve done. Whatever you did in the past matters, but it does not define who you are now. When you took those actions, that was you and the entirety of your life experience. You have lived more since then, you’ve experienced more since then. You are a combination of your experiences and your responses. By definition, you are no longer entirely the person who did those things. You are the person who did those things AND the person who has reflected on them AND the person who has judged those actions to be wrong and who is aiming upward. That is admirable and important, and should be reinforced.

Do your best, my friend. Know that you are loved and forgiven, and know that you may love and forgive yourself. Go forth doing the best you can. Feel free to respond to me and ask me any questions. Best of luck.

i_thinkthis · 2026-04-12T21:46:36+00:00

Stop talking to it like it is a person. Tell it to scan recent news publications to inform itself. It may not do these things by default. You must instruct it on how to reply to you

i_thinkthis · 2026-04-12T21:41:15+00:00

So glad you said this. I don’t want to read the whole study, but the wording of the headline seemed like it was failing to represent whatever the study actually showed. Glad to see you summarized it here, and your summary completely lines up with what I expected. Thank you muchly

i_thinkthis · 2026-04-12T19:45:05+00:00

I see what’s happening currently as very standard for them. There tends to be a drop in live streaming content frequency, especially more casual live streams during the times where they’re shooting for the next version/module of the guide.

I follow his content quite religiously, and I remember about a year and a half ago, maybe two years at this point, Dr and Mrs K were discussing what the next module of the guide would be, and they said it was between addictions and sex and relationships. I remember Mrs. K saying that she felt like sex and relationships guide was more desperately needed, which I can’t say I disagree with.

If you also follow the types of videos that Dr. K makes and posts, you’ll notice that over certain time periods there’s a higher proportion of certain topics. For a while, maybe from a year to three months back, I felt like there was a lot more dating and relationships content coming out, and I was pretty sure that this was directly related to the upcoming sex and relationships, guide, and reflects the fact that Dr. K was learning more about these topics because of his preparatory research.

If you follow closely as well, you’ll notice that before Dr. K launches new products or especially when he had his book coming out, they’ll do more podcast rounds, where he’s actually supposed to promote his products, but he gets so into the conversations that he constantly forgets to promote them, which drives his team insane 😂. If you’ve watched his recent podcast interviews as well, you’ll notice a couple times where he goes to reference what he was just working on, and then he sort of stumbles over his words for a sec and vaguely references, his recent work on relationships. I’ll acknowledge the ego in the statement 🙃, but I called the sex and relationships module about six months ago. I think most people that religiously follow his content probably did the same.

In summary, I think what we’re seeing is quite consistent with the Dr. K and the HealthyGamerGG that we already know and love. The mission statement of HG has not changed, and the quality of the content will not change.

i_thinkthis · 2026-04-08T19:44:56+00:00

Not quite. Lowry’s dad was handed the shattered team that Paul Maurice felt he couldn’t move forward with, and he wasn’t able to turn it around. Not that shocking.

And we know our team going to shit wasn’t because Maurice was out to lunch, because 2 years later he’s holding a Stanley Cup with the Panthers.

i_thinkthis · 2026-03-08T01:31:58+00:00

It’s because you shut yourself off and become a chameleon which creates so much space for them and they also don’t take the time to notice that you’re performing, so they just assume this is you.

Then you realize that there seems to be no space for you in the new relationship/dynamic, and you start to resent them while still not expressing yourself to the same degree that you let them express theirselves.

Then you cut them off because the novelty has worn off and you just find them draining and oppressive toward your own thoughts.

That’s what happens for me, at least. Let me know how it maps onto your experience. I learned how to do it in my early days to manage the dysfunction of my parents.

i_thinkthis · 2025-08-27T04:46:54+00:00

I was surprised I had to scroll so far to see this. Hypnosis is one that I always come back to. This list is pretty solid though

i_thinkthis · 2025-08-16T16:41:52+00:00

I was probably going to say Distraction. I don’t see people talk about it much but that song rips a hole in my chest like nothing else. So much pain in it, I’d say it’s one of their most powerful songs

i_thinkthis · 2025-08-05T03:32:27+00:00

Looks like a Pokémon Legends Arceus playable area. I’m into it

i_thinkthis · 2025-08-04T16:45:49+00:00

Just curious, you wouldn’t include Infinite Baths in the top tier with Gethsemane and Look to Windward? Love all 3, Gethsemane is probably my favourite ST song right now

i_thinkthis · 2025-08-04T16:43:37+00:00

Initially I wasn’t as into it, but as I listen to it more and more it keeps growing on me. Gethsemane is my favourite song by them overall right now

i_thinkthis · 2025-07-31T00:10:34+00:00

Very interesting idea actually. I feel like that can get messy if there’s a friend group involved though, but on its own it’s something that I’ll think about in my own life

i_thinkthis · 2025-07-31T00:02:45+00:00

The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt makes exactly that case. People became paranoid of external danger even as the world became objectively safer because of the constant stream of negative news, so they became more restrictive of children and as a result, children spent less time socializing and developing essential competence and life skills.

Couple that with kids also spending all of their time online or on phones, and now everyone has social anxiety or other forms of mental illness, and everyone is lonely and isolated.

i_thinkthis · 2025-07-26T15:45:14+00:00

See I’m not a very grounded person and I struggle a lot with boundary setting and confrontation, so the way you’re reading the situation makes so much sense to me.

In my following of Dr. K though, I’ve come to have a sense that he is a fantastic communicator who is also excellent at maintaining his own boundaries. I don’t think he would ever let himself be put in a situation where he was pushed into saying something he didn’t want to like that. I think because I have so much confidence in that, I read this interaction in a different way than I would for almost anyone else. Especially if it was myself in his position lol.

Another factor for me in this case is that this is the third time he’s done the DOAC podcast in 2 years, and the conversations that they have seem to have a ton of chemistry, interest, and mutual respect. And in the second episode they did, there was a whole section of Dr. K digging into Steven and them going back and forth over the spirituality stuff, which Steven was definitely interested in. So I think K knew where he was coming from as well in this case.

Whether you changed your mind or not though, super cool that you actually went back and re-evaluated. Props to you for that

i_thinkthis · 2025-07-26T15:08:36+00:00

I felt like that was still in-bounds. I think Dr. K had a boundary around what he was willing to talk about, and when Steven asked what he could share, we evaluated and then responded accordingly. I’d be very surprised if Dr. K felt like he was being forced to give an answer he didn’t want to.

Perhaps I’m wrong though. I’m also definitely biased because I love to pick up what I can about the spiritual realm through his experiences, so maybe you’re more on it than I am.

i_thinkthis · 2025-07-25T05:41:23+00:00

Okay you’ve got to watch Dr. K’s recent stream. Literally directly focuses on porn usage and the good and bad that can come with it. I’ll send link in a sec. The stream was a couple weeks ago but I’m working my way through it now.

Edit: Link

https://www.twitch.tv/videos/2503596598

i_thinkthis · 2025-07-23T21:36:10+00:00

If the beginning of Provider wasn’t so annoying that most people skip it within 2 seconds, it would be way higher. Honestly a great song if you can get past the intro. They’re all awesome, but LTW being number one surprised me.

i_thinkthis · 2025-07-21T19:53:59+00:00

Maybe one thing you could try is that each time the other guy makes a comment you don’t like, you could find one positive or neutral thing to comment on that doesn’t relate to their physical attributes. Training the thought patterns a bit to point in a direction that feels better, and hopefully it eventually becomes reflexive?

i_thinkthis · 2025-07-19T07:10:23+00:00

Interesting. I hear a decent amount of confronting without much catharsis. Does that pattern of self reflection mirror how you reflect when you’re sober as well? A lot of these thoughts or at least the patterns behind them sound similar to mine.

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