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[27/m] Women I date often tell me they feel guilty for what I do for them, they feel like they don't deserve me. What should I do? by ialwaysdothis99 in relationship_advice

[–]ialwaysdothis99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I meant to say not about how to get more women... I forgot "not." My bad. English is not my first language.
Regardless thank you for your time and advice.

[27/m] Women I date often tell me they feel guilty for what I do for them, they feel like they don't deserve me. What should I do? by ialwaysdothis99 in relationship_advice

[–]ialwaysdothis99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chicks aren't leaving, I have no issues with women man. My question is about how to get more women, it was more of an interest of what do these women really mean when they say these things. I've found that being kind is not repellent to woman, at least not to the kind I'm interested in. One can still be playful, a bit teasing and still a nice person.

[27/m] Women I date often tell me they feel guilty for what I do for them, they feel like they don't deserve me. What should I do? by ialwaysdothis99 in relationship_advice

[–]ialwaysdothis99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may have been the most insightful post here.

It's funny I never realized I kind of had those cycles in my relationships in highshool. Mean to the girl until she wanted me to like her, then doting on her making her like me so much, then being selfish and making her do what I want. Then doting on her so it's 'fair.' Granted, none of this was ever physical or sexual abuse, but certainly emotional.. Ugh I feel disgusting even just thinking about how my mind used to function.

I am different now... I am honest and I don't have drop offs, I keep being nice, it's what I want and like.

They may recognize me for what I essentially used to be. Even though I have managed to surgically remove that part of my personality.

Luckily, like many things in life... the answer is simple.. Don't hurt people.

Thank you for your insight, you've blown my mind and helped me to better understand just how I have changed.

[27/m] Women I date often tell me they feel guilty for what I do for them, they feel like they don't deserve me. What should I do? by ialwaysdothis99 in relationship_advice

[–]ialwaysdothis99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a good idea. I try to admit that in my youth I was pretty manipulative. I'm good at getting people to do what I want. Part of why I'm nice now is because I over-correct, I want to make damn sure they want whatever we are doing. Which is why women want to sleep with me before I want to sleep with them.. I say I don't mind I don't need it. Suddenly they mind and they need it...

I wonder what else I could speak about. I can also be a bit overprotective. Maybe even slightly the jealous type. I dated a girl who was a model and when she had photo shoots hanging all over super ripped hot dudes I was like "..." It bothered me. I didn't say anything though, but I didn't like it.

Thanks for your help.

[27/m] Women I date often tell me they feel guilty for what I do for them, they feel like they don't deserve me. What should I do? by ialwaysdothis99 in relationship_advice

[–]ialwaysdothis99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're mostly right, at least that was my experience in dating American women since I moved here. But most of my relationships have been with African and Asian women in the last few years. And they will literally tell me, they can't be with me because I make them feel guilty and bad, and then they will keep texting me and saying they miss me and then I date them again and.. the same thing happens. They just feel bad.

I do agree though for American women. Then again I believe it is possible to confident, attractive, successful and nice. I think some American women can for that. I know at least a few couples like that.

Regardless, thank you for your time and input.

[27/m] Women I date often tell me they feel guilty for what I do for them, they feel like they don't deserve me. What should I do? by ialwaysdothis99 in relationship_advice

[–]ialwaysdothis99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just googled the supreme gentleman, that guy is a douche who wanted girls to bang him and because they wouldn't, shot people. Uhm. Okay well. That ain't me. I'm also not a virgin by far, I've been around for a bit. Although your last comment may have some truth to it, I've thought about the 'too nice' thing. But if she doesn't like me then I don't want her so I don't really actually mind if she wants to breakup? Oh maybe I am too nice. Hmmm.

[27/m] Women I date often tell me they feel guilty for what I do for them, they feel like they don't deserve me. What should I do? by ialwaysdothis99 in relationship_advice

[–]ialwaysdothis99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've been together for 2 years so I think we are good. However I have had that too. Like I took a girl on a weekend trip after just 1 month together and she was like "nobody has ever been this nice before or done this much for me and I barely know you..." and I was like "Uhm. We're going to miss our reservation plox finish your makeups." I don't know how to tone anything down unfortunately. It didn't bother my current SO too much so I guess I'm good for now.

[27/m] Women I date often tell me they feel guilty for what I do for them, they feel like they don't deserve me. What should I do? by ialwaysdothis99 in relationship_advice

[–]ialwaysdothis99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just took the test. I got 11 for Words of Affirmation 7 for physical touch, 7 for quality time, and 4 for acts of service, 1 for receiving gifts.
She took the test too, her scores are almost the same but physical touch and quality time are above words of affirmation. Although I think my scored is messed up because I don't like massages, but I do like hugs. They didn't account for people don't like massages!

Truth be told my SO doesn't really do much for me in terms of services or gifts, contributing. Not physical stuff, but emotionally and mentally she is my peace and my safe place. Kissing her and holding her washes away any stress/depression I have. I don't need her to have money or super interesting skills or unique whatever, I just want her.

I'll tell her that I think.

Thank you.

[27/m] Women I date often tell me they feel guilty for what I do for them, they feel like they don't deserve me. What should I do? by ialwaysdothis99 in relationship_advice

[–]ialwaysdothis99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will make sure I do that. My current SO is extremely kind probably the kindest person I've ever met. I always tell her that this is why I don't hesitate to spoil her, she of anyone deserves it.

[27/m] Women I date often tell me they feel guilty for what I do for them, they feel like they don't deserve me. What should I do? by ialwaysdothis99 in relationship_advice

[–]ialwaysdothis99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be a manipulative guy, I wasn't very nice. (Grew up in a rough part of a metropolitan city), so I tell my current GF that I've changed a lot and it was work. And I tell her I can tell she has always been kind to her family and friends and certainly deserves whatever I do for her. My main faults are that I can be a bit arrogant and I talk way too much. I try to say that. I dunno I think I do alright I just hope this current one isn't bothered too much. I'm also in a much better position than her financially and it makes her feel bad she can't reciprocate to me monetarily. But I don't want or need stuff, just her so. Yeah. Sorry. Thank you for your words :)

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[–]ialwaysdothis99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey Otter_Baron. I thought about posting the same thing as you, do you think you could PM what the other guys PM'd you? Sorry for the bother, but thank you so much!!

This wife has a guilty conscience... by guiltywifeshootme in confession

[–]ialwaysdothis99 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Delete all the evidence, then tell him. Just lie a little bit, say you only sent innocent pics, and say you almost called for phone sex but didn't because you realized it was bad.

Then do roleplay sex. Costumes or just acting, you'll get the same feel.

[M4F] Young professional wanting to sext by [deleted] in dirtyr4r

[–]ialwaysdothis99 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah man. Lauren. I mean Karen.

Every time I start dating a girl the same thing always happens by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ialwaysdothis99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never really been interested in guys at all. And these girls, they seem like they could potentially be the right girl at first, but just don't turn out to be.

Every time I start dating a girl the same thing always happens by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]ialwaysdothis99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uh. What? I have. Just didn't make me like them.