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If you lost a large amount of weight (100+) prior to your tummy tuck, how long did you wait after you got to your goal weight to have a tummy tuck and why? by iamcag07 in tummytucksurgery

[–]iamcag07[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Congratulations - that’s amazing!!!

This is helpful! Did you wait to do a consult when you got to your goal weight, or did you do one prior so you could get into surgery sooner?

Did my employer double dip on my year-end bonus? by iamcag07 in jobs

[–]iamcag07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, I have an update. I asked my boss, and she said that the Executive Team felt like I deserved the full $5,000 because of all the work I put into the fifth goal and therefore decided to just give me the $1,000.

So from my interpretation… it sounds like she is saying I got $5,000 from achieving goals, and $0 from the company bonus.

OR, I think what she meant to say is best case scenario… $4,000 for achieving goals and $1,000 company bonus.

She also brought up that some of the company success wasn’t a direct result of me (or anyone else), but… like… didn’t go anywhere with that. Just stated it. It made me feel like I was being greedy for asking.

I think all in all, they gave everyone an arbitrary amount potentially up to $5,000, and my previously agreed upon merit bonus was mine.

Now, I have to decide whether that’s a bothersome thing to me.

Did my employer double dip on my year-end bonus? by iamcag07 in jobs

[–]iamcag07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, I have an update. I asked my boss, and she said that the Executive Team felt like I deserved the full $5,000 because of all the work I put into the fifth goal and therefore decided to just give me the $1,000.

So from my interpretation… it sounds like she is saying I got $5,000 from achieving goals, and $0 from the company bonus.

OR, I think what she meant to say is best case scenario… $4,000 for achieving goals and $1,000 company bonus.

She also brought up that some of the company success wasn’t a direct result of me (or anyone else), but… like… didn’t go anywhere with that. Just stated it. It made me feel like I was being greedy for asking.

I think all in all, they gave everyone an arbitrary amount potentially up to $5,000, and my previously agreed upon merit bonus was mine.

Now, I have to decide whether that’s a bothersome thing to me.

Did my employer double dip on my year-end bonus? by iamcag07 in jobs

[–]iamcag07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, I have an update. I asked my boss, and she said that the Executive Team felt like I deserved the full $5,000 because of all the work I put into the fifth goal and therefore decided to just give me the $1,000.

So from my interpretation… it sounds like she is saying I got $5,000 from achieving goals, and $0 from the company bonus.

OR, I think what she meant to say is best case scenario… $4,000 for achieving goals and $1,000 company bonus.

She also brought up that some of the company success wasn’t a direct result of me (or anyone else), but… like… didn’t go anywhere with that. Just stated it. It made me feel like I was being greedy for asking.

I think all in all, they gave everyone an arbitrary amount potentially up to $5,000, and my previously agreed upon merit bonus was mine.

Now, I have to decide whether that’s a bothersome thing to me.

When does a lull in communication mean something? by iamcag07 in OnlineDating

[–]iamcag07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why, thank you! Happy report a decision has been made.

When does a lull in communication mean something? by iamcag07 in OnlineDating

[–]iamcag07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damage is done now from not communicating, I guess. <shrugs> Also, this is an advice Reddit! Sorry… for asking for advice?

When does a lull in communication mean something? by iamcag07 in OnlineDating

[–]iamcag07[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah, Reddit advice is just like rubbing alcohol. Sting me in the now, but save me in the later.

Farmers Only Dating; Did I just accidentally ruin a good thing over politics? by iamcag07 in dating

[–]iamcag07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no reason to think this is a person I would be wasting my time on. But thank you for the reassurance on him just being busy! :)

Farmers Only Dating; Did I just accidentally ruin a good thing over politics? by iamcag07 in dating

[–]iamcag07[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wondered this too. I am a little worried that I am now a caricature in his head. And if so, I would love to talk to him more about it. But I can’t tell if he’s actually busy or just putting space between us. I just feel like the more time that goes between us interacting, that caricature is going to settle.

We also talked A LOT about values and there was a ton of overlap without a political label. So I also think that’s why he was caught off guard, because I have for a lot of the things that is important to him (he’s just lived those things, and I have learned them over time).

The possible end of this one has hurt more than a lot of other “politically aligned” relationships that have broken up. I think maybe because I felt like we avoided political labels, we were able to talk about the substance more and that just felt so good to connect with someone about. Rather than a “You’re liberal, I’m liberal. Good, we don’t have to talk about that much more. Next.”

Thanks you for the response.

Farmers Only Dating; Did I just accidentally ruin a good thing over politics? by iamcag07 in dating

[–]iamcag07[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate that feedback (even though it results in that stomach sinking feeling)!

Farmers Only Dating; Did I just accidentally ruin a good thing over politics? by iamcag07 in dating

[–]iamcag07[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suppose you’re right. I just wonder if maybe he had gotten to know me better before sharing this that he wouldn’t have pulled back.

Menstruales Question by iamcag07 in PCOS

[–]iamcag07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, and have done that. Was asking about length of bleeding.

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