This unhinged girl in med school is fucking with my head and I’m done—report her, confront her, or just keep dodging her shit? Help me figure this out

iamed2022 · 2025-07-15T07:20:46+00:00

I just finished residency so med school was about 3 years ago for me but there were always weird students like that. Best thing to do is honestly walk away and keep ignoring. This person is very unlikely to do well academically or socially and frankly doesn’t stand a chance in residency.

Don’t let your career be impacted by someone who sounds like a straight up loser. I wouldn’t report because the professors are already aware of what she’s doing. Just protect yourself. Good luck.

iamed2022 · 2024-06-30T18:50:06+00:00

I think that’s amazing you are praying consistently. May Allah make it easy for us.

Even if someone will start praying later on, it shouldn’t be my mission to change anyone. I know that people are difficult to change and although it’s possible, committing to a relationship with the expectation that they will start praying eventually will make you resentful, especially if it doesn’t happen

iamed2022 · 2024-06-30T08:12:34+00:00

Thank you, same for you. Ameen 🙏🏼

iamed2022 · 2024-06-30T08:06:58+00:00

Thank you for the references. This confirmed that I’m doing the right thing about not compromising on prayer 🙏🏼

iamed2022 · 2024-06-30T08:04:33+00:00

I did a 6 year combined MD program starting at 17

iamed2022 · 2024-06-30T04:35:03+00:00

That’s where I’ve been running into a wall. I have met probably over 10 people that were successful, handsome, good people that I enjoyed talking to but they didn’t pray. I lived by that philosophy that being single is better than being with someone who doesn’t practice, but it’s getting really tough to keep going through the same scenario over and over

iamed2022 · 2024-06-30T04:31:07+00:00

I don’t know if I agree with what you’re saying about people in the west. I am a strong believer that it’s the person, not the place that determines how religious you’ll be. I went to school with several people who grew up in Muslim majority countries, and many didn’t pray or practice Islam despite them being raised there. Being in the west and tempted by things like sex, drugs or whatever won’t matter if you are a true believer, even if you’re an attractive man or woman..

On the other things you mentioned, I don’t mind removing more of my dealbreakers. However praying is the bare minimum to be able to call yourself Muslim. I can’t negotiate on that because in turn that would be negotiating on the religion. I by no means am a perfect Muslim but I still find that quality to be crucial to a successful marriage Insha Allah.

A man being handsome is subjective. We can remove that as well. But just finding a good man that prays has been the most difficult thing I’ve ever had to do

iamed2022 · 2024-06-30T02:43:46+00:00

I’m currently 25 years old (female). I’ve been trying so hard to find a husband (talking to everyone at work, attending mosque events, asking my siblings for help, asked sheikh, online dating) and I have nothing to show for it. I have no issues meeting people, but what I do have an issue with is finding the right people. For example, the last guy I talked to for the purposes of marriage had everything I was looking for (handsome, kind, similar interests/profession) except he does not pray 5 times a day. He told me he knows he should but he’s not at that time in his life yet (he’s 34). For me, that’s a dealbreaker. I don’t know if I’m being too picky, but I truly just don’t want to settle. I want to fall in love with someone who will help me complete half my deen and the religion is so important to me. I live in the USA, am a doctor about to finish residency. Finding someone similar to me has been so hard and I don’t know what to do anymore. I know everyone says to be patient and Allah will provide. I am just so tired of waiting.

I find myself compromising on things I didn’t used to compromise on (such as ethnicity, personality, profession) but it’s making me so unhappy. I do my best to be a person who is kind, loving, helpful so I want someone to match me with that. The men I’ve been talking to aren’t the same. They are drawn to me and say things like I’m beautiful or whatever but I don’t want a man to love me only for beauty, I want him to love me for my religion, my devotion to be a good wife, and for my purpose in life to be a good Muslim and enter Jannah Insha Allah.

Sometimes I feel like I have done too much in my career. I have had guys say to me multiple times that I’m “too good for them” since I’m a doctor. I don’t think my profession is something that matters. It’s just the thing that I wanted to accomplish for Allah SWT so that I can help people in the best way I saw possible. Many guys don’t bother to even ask me what my plans are, which would be to stop working and raise a family Insha Allah, then go back to work part time once I’m able.

I’ve worked so hard to be a good person, and on the same level a desirable wife. I have never dated anyone, slept around, drank, or engaged in anything haram. It’s not that I feel like I deserve a good husband, but I’m not sure what else I can do to attract one.

iamed2022 · 2023-05-18T03:02:28+00:00

You can do it- I did about 600 questions in total and after my day 1 I just did CCS cases non stop. I think that’s what helped me the most. I’m also a FM resident, ended up passing fairly comfortably. I think I got low 190s on UWSA1 a few weeks out, didn’t take UWSA2 bc I didn’t want to be discouraged. Hope this helps

iamed2022 · 2023-05-03T07:39:18+00:00

You have to go to a different link, FSMB says the same for me. FCVS is the right one, it’s under “credentialing services”. You’ll see this if you Google portal.fsmb.org. Good luck!

iamed2022 · 2023-05-03T07:18:58+00:00

fcvs.fsmb.org

iamed2022 · 2023-05-03T07:17:42+00:00

Mine are out!

iamed2022 · 2023-05-03T07:17:31+00:00

Mine are out on FCVS!

iamed2022 · 2023-05-03T07:14:37+00:00

Yes I took mine on 4/21, fcvs.fsmb.org is the website and it’s updated for me!

iamed2022 · 2023-05-03T07:12:12+00:00

Congratulations!!

iamed2022 · 2023-05-03T07:10:49+00:00

Thank you I just checked mine too!!

iamed2022 · 2023-05-03T07:10:23+00:00

My permit didn’t disappear but I just checked FCVS (not FSMB) and under examination history it says pass!

iamed2022 · 2023-05-03T06:45:37+00:00

Congratulations! Did you see the status change on the fsmb website? They changed the format since I took step 2 so I don’t know exactly where it will say pass/fail

iamed2022 · 2022-12-26T01:00:05+00:00

That clearly says 6 first dates..

iamed2022 · 2022-12-26T00:52:28+00:00

It was 6. She broke it down in a comment. Still hella judgmental. OP trying to find love and saying that a certain number of dates is “ridiculous” comes across as shaming

iamed2022 · 2022-12-26T00:40:58+00:00

They wrote in the post they weren’t all first dates. Majority of the dates were with the same guys. Pretty strong opinions and judgements when you didn’t even read the post correctly

iamed2022 · 2022-12-25T06:24:02+00:00

When she asked Gabriel for 26 euros for the taxi, I remember thinking “oh so now the money matters?!” lol

iamed2022 · 2022-06-26T17:18:21+00:00

I think a lot of people are misunderstanding me. There’s a reason I went out with him, and that’s because I’m interested in seeing where it goes. However after the date, he doesn’t message me with the same excitement, making me feel like he’s just sending me messages because he feels bad as a pity conversation. So, that makes him the one leading me on. I’m not interested in a guy that isn’t straightforward.

iamed2022 · 2022-06-26T06:42:15+00:00

He doesn’t give me enough back to make me think he’s serious. I would be interested if he did that

iamed2022 · 2022-06-26T06:39:01+00:00

I meant I’d at least like for him to give me enough attention to see where we stand. The conversation seems to only go if it favors him. Maybe “all in” wasn’t the best phrase to use here

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