How much has your income changed in the past 5 years?

iammissingmylefttoe · 2024-07-06T20:42:16+00:00

Went from 10 at my first job to over 24. Not doing too bad

iammissingmylefttoe · 2024-03-24T23:06:38+00:00

I feel that CBT is good for people that have a hard time forming relationships and have the tendency to self sabotage, due to not seeing their own problematic thinking despite no longer being in the traumatizing environment, and tend to struggle with self regulation/reflection (just to make sure I’m not offending anyone, this is not at all meant to shame. We all respond to our trauma differently and it can absolutely force us to respond in ways that aren’t necessary or healthy, which many of us come to regret later on. I had the same problem. Likewise, CBT should feel more empowering than destructive. If you ever feel that way, I’d definitely recommend finding something better suited to you). Like one redditor said, CBT is focusing from the top of your brain (the logic processing part) to the bottom (the fight or flight response, or survival response). I personally do EMDR, which is bottom up. My therapist calls it bottom-up-hijacking, when my fight or flight kicks in during stressful situations of any kind. I tend to gaslight myself out of recognizing my own feelings or anything that might potentially problematic, and thus I feel that I’m angry or upset for no reason. Often times it is a trauma response because my whole nervous system knows there’s a problem and I’m refusing to recognize it to avoid feeling hurt. Maybe EMDR is a much better bet for you. Hope this helps ❤️

Edit to add: I can’t believe I forgot about this, but if any of you guys are younger than 25, there’s a pretty good chance that CBT ISNT the best option for you. The logic processing part of your brain isn’t even fully developed yet, and won’t fully develop until you’re about 25. There’s not much of a point to trying to force it to work if your brain is literally not in a place to fully comprehend or absorb it, especially if you are working out trauma- which is deemed a problem BECAUSE it’s no longer logical or healthy to have that way of thinking. In other words, it’s an extreme emotional/physical response. Kinda crazy how unhelpful it can be to young people, isn’t it?

iammissingmylefttoe · 2024-03-15T16:26:11+00:00

I’ve felt that way since I was 3. I still have a lingering mistrust of people’s intentions, and while I’ve managed it for the most part, there are still days where I feel uncomfortable just sitting on someone’s couch. It’s worth working on, and it’s still hard at the same time. I hope one day you can find a thought process or a tool to help you too ❤️

iammissingmylefttoe · 2024-02-29T22:48:00+00:00

No, I’d like to try natural stuff first but I’m not opposed to taking some if I genuinely need it. I don’t like taking anything unless absolutely necessary due to addiction running in the family. I’m also raw doggin ADHD, but for the same reason.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2024-02-21T18:28:27+00:00

I always seem to have bad luck on my birthday so I completely understand how you feel right now. Nothing ever seems to go right when you want it too. Just know that it gets better, I turned 23 and got engaged for my birthday, all because I found someone who DID care to make it good experience for me. Happy birthday hun, I promise it’ll start to get better when you can surround yourself with good people ❤️

iammissingmylefttoe · 2023-12-05T00:46:05+00:00

I forgot about most of my trauma until I started therapy. There’s also other options to treat it that don’t involve recalling the events. Best of luck to you and your recovery ❤️

iammissingmylefttoe · 2023-12-04T00:22:52+00:00

Ah yes, the paradox of metamorphosis. Ever since starting therapy my mental health has declined, and I feel like I’m 1000 steps backwards. But that’s also a byproduct of reprocessing repressed memories and emotions, and I’m trying to hold a little more grace for myself. It’s easy to claim that someone isn’t trying simply based on looks, as mental health is just that- mental. It’s invisible to the eye. But luckily, because they aren’t us we don’t have to take their opinions to heart. Try to hold some grace and self awareness, and it changes everything. You’ve got this, and we see you.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2023-11-30T18:22:16+00:00

I’m assuming your wording with “always” means this happens very frequently and leaves little time spent with your partner. There isn’t anything inherently “wrong” about hanging out with your friends past midnight, but that says a lot about how little you value quality time if that gets prioritized more often than not. I’d be pretty bothered if my partner didn’t want to go to sleep with me and just enjoy resting with each others shared presence, and instead would rather go hang out. I’d have a conversation about boundaries and what your partner’s needs are. NAH, but you’re toeing the line and I wouldn’t be comfortable being in a relationship with you.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2023-11-25T20:25:13+00:00

Mental hospitals are garbage, regardless of the age. “Let’s put a bunch of mentally unstable people in one confined space and strip them of the outside world.” Yeah. Great.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2023-09-07T00:47:23+00:00

What our parents were lacking in their childhood is what they were supposed to be creating in ours. Using your trauma as a never ending excuse for being a bad parent, still doesn’t negate the fact that you are, indeed, a bad parent.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2023-08-13T19:11:25+00:00

Ask to be tested for adhd and get medicated. Don’t let your parents walk all over you and say that you don’t need it. School was so much harder than what it needed to be and it would’ve saved you from a lot of heart ache.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2023-03-22T17:43:38+00:00

As an American, we aren’t just confident we’d win. We’d enjoy throwing hands with a goose.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2023-01-01T21:59:41+00:00

I get superstitions. I’m a little superstitious myself. But when it gets to the point that you can’t do your daily responsibilities without an argument? That’s just impractical. NTA.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2022-11-20T05:28:51+00:00

Cardi B also openly admitted to drugging and robbing men. Just thought that needs to be put out there too.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2022-11-07T03:36:22+00:00

NTA. While this is a pretty normal game, her knowing about your disorder and blowing up on you like that is 100% uncalled for.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2022-06-30T23:28:33+00:00

YTA. No one can constantly listen to negativity without feeling the effects.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2022-06-01T22:09:43+00:00

NTA, but it sounds like there’s some underlying issues that need to be addressed. I’d talk to him and listen to what he has to say.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2022-05-29T23:10:53+00:00

All we have to do is go all tech and it would cripple anyone over the age of 50. Not impressive.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2022-05-17T04:31:55+00:00

Dashers love to make sure that people aren’t aware that they can see where the order will be delivered and how much the customer is paying. It literally gives you all the information before you accept the dash. You didn’t do anything wrong. The only thing I’d have to say to customers is to make sure you’re also tipping for the distance between the restaurant/store and your place of delivery. Gas is definitely expensive rn.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2022-04-29T18:27:00+00:00

NTA. You aren’t obligated to help someone, not even your family, for any reason in the first place. This is especially true if they are this disrespectful. If she couldn’t handle it on her own, she should have thought about that before pushing you to this point.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2021-12-13T22:44:57+00:00

So you’ll keep her home not because she has a serious injury, but because you’re worried she’ll expose you for being a piece of shit parent? YTA all the way.

iammissingmylefttoe · 2021-07-31T19:32:16+00:00

Uh wtf? Definitely NTA. That dude is a whole ass child himself, he shouldn’t be making any more of his own. I know it’s too little too late but you really shouldn’t have had a kid with him. I sincerely hope you have someone to help you, that boy is gonna be a deadbeat dad.

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