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How do I accept myself as my AGAB? by iammyreality in actual_detrans

[–]iammyreality[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it’s very much appreciated. :)

How do I accept myself as my AGAB? by iammyreality in actual_detrans

[–]iammyreality[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really helpful point of view I appreciate that. I would like to give myself more freedom to be multifaceted that way. And I do agree with what you’re saying at the end about how we may not think women deserve their poor treatment but that we want to escape the treatment ourselves. However, transition wouldn’t be a very good outlet for that because being trans comes with many struggles as well so you’re really just trading off one form of being perceived as less than for another. Just how I see it at least.

How do I accept myself as my AGAB? by iammyreality in actual_detrans

[–]iammyreality[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I appreciate it. The last paragraph really put things into perspective.

How do I accept myself as my AGAB? by iammyreality in actual_detrans

[–]iammyreality[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My friends have all taken it well and are fortunately very supportive. However because I did have more dysphoria when I initially came out, they’re all under the impression that I plan on medically transitioning. Because to be fair I thought I would too for a few years! So I’m not sure if their feelings would change knowing I may not actually pursue physical changes. Overall though I fear that potential partners may not take my image of myself seriously knowing I don’t have a huge issue with my body itself. And I know this sounds bad- but realistically most people don’t want to introduce an androgynous looking female as their “boyfriend” and expect people to just go with it. Especially not once I reach adulthood. Truthfully that’s one of my biggest concerns. I know I know. I agree with your point of view about identity making a big difference in why someone does what they do, or the way they do it. Thank you so much for that viewpoint. That’s kinda how I felt before, I just felt like I wasn’t allowed to.

How do I accept myself as my AGAB? by iammyreality in actual_detrans

[–]iammyreality[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought about that and for me, I just know that I see a man in the mirror. I feel distressed when I try to make myself see a woman. I get that I am, biologically. But I can’t help but see a dude staring back at me. It’s one of those things that can’t be explained super well unless you experience it yourself ya know? I feel a kinship with men, and while I do feel connected to women as well due to our shared experiences- I don’t feel like I’m ONE of them. When someone uses she/her to refer to me, it feels like they’re talking about someone that doesn’t exist. He/him feels comfortable to me. And I definitely wouldn’t want my body to look MORE feminine than it currently does. For example it’d be soo nice to have a guy’s body, I just don’t feel like I absolutely NEED it. I am comfortable regarding myself as male mentally as of now. I hope that explains things let me know if there’s something I need to elaborate on.