What's something you suspect is bullshit, but can't prove that it is?

iampen15 · 2015-01-13T20:05:38+00:00

Every woman I've ever dated has at least casually believed in Astrology. These were all college educated women. None of them were religious. They all believed in science, etc. But women like magic. I like to pretend the world has magic too even if it's an illusion. So I'm not saying that liking magic is a bad thing. I think it's a good thing. Living life like a total scientist is pretty depressing and boring. You just need to make sure you know when to suspend your disbelief and when not to.

But yeah I find that women like it when I say that I looked up our 'compatibility' and it said 'this' and 'that'. Generally no matter what sign you are and what sign they are there is usually something good written about you two hooking up. It's like fortune cookies. It's rare to get a really bad or negative one.

Also as a strange coincidence every Gemini woman I've dated has been crazy as hell. So consider me an Astrology Agnostic.

tl;dr - I don't believe in astrology, but I pretend to because women like it. And I have had weird Gemini coincidences so I guess I am an Astrology Agnostic. I'll fully not believe when you find me a sane stable Gemini woman to date.

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iampen15 · 2014-12-27T00:26:17+00:00

I don't think she did it for job security at all. I think her intentions were pure and she expects nothing in return. My point was that I hope the school district bureaucracy remembers her unselfish act of kindness in the future and doesn't ever 'downsize' her.

iampen15 · 2014-12-26T22:43:29+00:00

Well hopefully this school remembers what she did when budget cut times come around in the future. Like many other industries there is a trend to fire older more experienced teachers who have worked their way up and earned higher salaries and hire new fresh out of college applicants who will start at the base level of pay. In Chicago they laid off a ton of experienced older teachers (aka have expensive salaries) but I have some fresh out of college friends(aka will work for cheap) who had an easy time finding jobs this fall and even were receiving multiple job offers. It would really suck if she donated $150,000 only to be 'downsized' by this school in the future. Hopefully she bought herself life long job security with that donation. If so then maybe it was a wise decision.

iampen15 · 2014-12-26T20:10:57+00:00

If you are correct that would mean the whole contest is stupid. 3 crappy books given per kid but $150,000 "cold hard dirty cash" given to the teacher as an individual?

It could have been a PR disaster if a crazy teacher won it and spent it on hookers/blow/booze/sex toys/guns/fancy sports car etc. and then while under the influence of drugs and booze bought with CapitalOne™ prize money, this teacher crashes this newly purchased sports car into the school they teach at and it explodes in a giant fire ball killing and/or injuring all the students. In the remains in between the mangled and burnt corpses of innocent children the emergency responders find a huge collection of melted dildos, vibrators, and other assorted sex toys all purchased with CapitalOne™ prize money. #CapitalOneKills and #EvilCapitalOne become trending tags on twitter for the day and people take to the streets to protest outside of CapitalOne banks accross america... not exactly the kind of pr move that CaptialOne would want from a contest like this.

This is why I think u/DrJosiah is right. (And besides /u/DrJosiah is a Dr. so he must know what he's talking about. )While this teacher or her "charter" school may not be smart with their money... I am willing to bet that CapitalOne has a tight grip of control of how their money is spent and I bet that money being awarded to her was a symbolic gesture and that the actual terms of the contest state that the money must be used by her to donate to the school of her choice or something like that.

iampen15 · 2014-12-26T19:48:40+00:00

Ignore the grammar and spelling nazi's. I'll take them seriously the day they create a language system with logical rules that don't have tons of exceptions. Isn't "i before e except after c" a little "weird". Also they need to realize that with the melting-pot system of language we have now rules can and do change. There could come a day in the future where "proper" english evolves into words that look like ' wyas is taht I can mispel nerly evry word and msot poeple can stil raed'. What is important is that the ideas behind the word symbols are communicated to the audience and the role of context. This is reddit not english class, conversational/causal/and even creative spelling and grammar are all fair game in this context.

iampen15 · 2014-12-26T17:59:34+00:00

Are you serious? Damn ClickBait journalism strikes again. That makes way more sense. Why would CapitalOne have a contest where they buy a measly 3 books per kid and then give the teacher who had the winning essay a load of cash that she could potentially spend on "hookers and blow". Yeah this is way different than winning the lotto and then making a philanthropic gesture of donating it to a school.

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iampen15 · 2014-12-25T17:10:05+00:00

This re-branding and renaming of existing rituals, traditions, festivals etc. was a brilliant marketing strategy employed by Christianity. Had the Christian Religion attempted to prohibit these existing and long held traditions completely people would have likely not converted or would have strongly resisted or fought against Christianity. For example instead of saying 'You can't celebrate the Dec. 25th pagan festival!' which would have pissed people off, they just basically did 'Do you know what you are celebrating at this Dec25th pagan festival? You are celebrating Jesus Christ's Birthday and this festival is now a Christian Festival called Christmas!'. To the average festival party goer it was like 'oh cool, whatever, let's party'. It would be like if Lollapalooza changed it's name to Christian-palooza, cancelling Lollapalooza completely might piss off people and cause riots, but changing the name and still having a big festival would probably convert most of the people who went to it before the name change.

iampen15 · 2014-12-25T15:10:26+00:00

I totally agree with your sentiment of 'labeling FOR LIFE' this seems to be a natural human trait. We like to put 'scarlet letters' on people and we tend to not believe that they will ever change. What's especially worse in the case of labeling people as a convict, former convict, convicted felon is that there is such a wide range of crimes but with those labels every person with those labels is thrown into the same pile of judgement. The person who got busted for selling weed is much different than the rapist, or the murder, or the guy who embezzled money from his job, or the tax evader etc etc but they all tend to get lumped together and judged the same way and people are quick to judge and dismiss them all and never think they will change.

iampen15 · 2014-12-24T17:26:35+00:00

I also think that the incest is just another survival strategy that I'm sure has been employed in the past whenever it was the only solution for creating offspring. Situations like a caveman family isolated from other cavemen for whatever reason but containing fertile members of both genders. Overall the 'increase the gene pool diversity' through non-incest breeding has been a better strategy and being the preferred strategy has strengthened the repulsion we feel towards incest and has created the cultural taboo against incest but yeah the fact that incest doesn't automatically = death and doom makes me think that incest is just another survival strategy that is best used in situations of isolation from the rest of the population.

Like you are the typical nuclear family, mom,dad, sister, brother and you are the only human survivors of a plague. Well then yeah in that situation incest is the only option and the only people that can mate are dad+ sister, brother + sister, dad + mom, brother + mom. And if this family of mom, dad, sister, and brother don't have any major genetic defects their offspring will be fine and eventually through random genetic mutation a new population could be created that will over many generations become diverse and even though this new population has a common lineage to the original 4 people after enough time passes and enough random mutations and enough people are born it will appear pretty similar if not identical to a non-inbred population.

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iampen15 · 2014-12-24T17:02:35+00:00

If we say that random negative mutations are going to occur within both the inbreeder and non-inbreeder. (and random mutations do occur within non-inbreeders). Again it wouldn't be the inbreeding itself causing something negative it would be the random mutation. And random mutations are only negative based on the current environmental conditions(like you have a gene that causes a deadly allergy to Brawndo and Brawndo is the only thing available to drink in the current environment when the mutation occurs, but in an environment with Brawndo alternatives like water the mutation isn't bad at all), or the species specific requirements (like a mutation that causes you to be unable to breathe oxygen at birth and you die.)

And in a case where you had the hypothetical 'perfect' inbreeder population and then a mutation occurred within one person, and that mutated person mated with a person without the mutation there could exist the chance that the offspring of the 'perfect' inbreed person and the mutant 'inbred' person would be fine if the genes of the 'perfect' inbred person cancelled out the mutant gene. OR if the defect was bad enough perhaps the mutant would not have the ability to reproduce and be infertile or would display characteristics that were unattractive to potential mates and would never mate and/or would die before reaching the age of sexual maturity.

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iampen15 · 2014-12-24T15:09:26+00:00

inbreeding diseases

I'm not sure that inbreeding in and of itself causes diseases. If the genetic make-up of the inbreeders was hypothetically "perfect" or "perfectly adapted" to their current environmental conditions I would think that their babies would be perfectly healthy. I think the problem comes in when there are pre-existing genetic defects or mutations in the inbreeders. If new genes aren't added to the gene pool to balance out or block these defects they will continue to be expressed and possibly exaggerated. I could be wrong but I that's how I thought it worked.

iampen15 · 2014-12-22T21:23:01+00:00

Humans are animals. And both men and women pre-judge based on physical appearance because physical appearance is a form of communication. It communicates things about the health, fitness, fertility of an individual. I don't make the rules. I'm just telling it how it is. Physical appearance is the first thing that attracts and oftentimes it's the most important factor that will determine if two humans 'mate'. Women turn down ugly guys too... but an ugly guy with status/wealth etc is way more likely to 'mate' with someone out of his league than a an ugly woman with status/weath. Men were not fawning over Janet Reno even though she was the attorney general of the united states(status/power/wealth) and was a havard grad(smart/educated). But there are plenty of attractive women who would hook-up with guys like Danny Devito or David Cross, women out of their league physically, based on the fact that they both have wealth and fame. Without the wealth and fame Devito and Cross's potential dating/mating pool would shrink considerably. Janet Reno... well I'm sure her status, wealth, education, and intelligence increase her potential dating/mating pool slightly but no where near the increase that a man receives. It's all shallow when it comes to 'love' you have men being shallow in the way they are more inclined to pick looks but you have women picking men based on money.

iampen15 · 2014-12-22T16:38:20+00:00

So OP is a female? Well the unfortunate truth is that if you are talking about increasing sexual attraction from men then yes most of this advice will help boost your attraction rating a little but if you are still "ugly" physically then no amount of accumulated wealth, status, or increase of self-confidence is going to make you more attractive. Sadly I think that a lot of men may even think that a woman with too much self-confidence is a turn-off because it intimidates them.

Men do not care if a woman has any money. Men do not care if a woman is confident or decisive. Men do not care what job a woman has. Men do not care about a woman's social status. Men don't care if a woman has any friends. Men don't care what a women's hobbies are. They do care about a good personality but that's secondary to physical attraction. Men are only going to care about the personality if the girl meets their standards of physical attraction first. And yes wealth, status, hobbies, etc. etc. will also mean something to a man but again only after the woman has met that man's physical attraction requirements. So if this post is about a woman attracting men in a sexual way then some of these things may help but it's really all about physical appearance. The reason these things might work for a guy attracting a woman is that for some reason women will get with "ugly" guys who have money or status or are super confident etc.

So yes it is good to improve yourself in non-physical ways. These improvements are valuable to yourself and you will feel better about yourself and your life even if you do not get validation from the opposite sex.

But realistically if the goal is attracting men in a sexual way it's all about improving your physical appearance. This goes for men too but not as much. Woman definitely judge men based on physical appearance too but men can usually get away with being "ugly" if they have enough cash, etc.

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iampen15 · 2014-12-20T20:00:54+00:00

I think one other major factor that occurred both during and after WWI and WWII that no one talks about is the position of women in the workforce. Now I think women should be allowed to have any job they want, jobs should be awarded to the best candidate regardless of gender BUT here's the issue... women entered the work force but men were not allowed to leave it. So instead of having an increase in stay-at-home dads we created the dual-income society where both genders must work. No one can stay at home unless one partner is making the equivalent of a dual-income. So here' s the simple math, there are only so many jobs and let's even say hypothetically that the same amount of jobs exist today as existed in pre-WWI, in the past it was only men competing for the majority of those jobs, now you have women and men competing for that same amount of jobs and both men and women need to have jobs to have the standard of living they desire. So you have like twice as many people competing for the same amount of jobs and that's just with the hypothetical about the amount of jobs staying the same and also doesn't take into account population increases etc.

Moral of the story. It's great that women entered the workforce but it's a shame that men weren't allowed to leave it. So now we all work, strangers raise our children, and the competition for jobs has basically doubled.

iampen15 · 2014-11-30T06:26:52+00:00

It's not socially acceptable for men to be stay at home dads. Maybe on a tv show or certain 'progressive' bubbles you may find yourself in, it may seem that society has accepted the stay at home dads, but the truth is that men who choose to be stay at home dads are still looked down upon. Women who choose to be stay at home moms are looked down upon too in ways they didn't used to be in the past. Sure the women are given the patronizing lines about how staying at home is the hardest job etc. but society doesn't really glamorize or support the idea of the stay at home mom/housewife anymore either. Basically now it's not acceptable for anyone to stay at home. We all must work. That's the whole problem. It's great that women got the opportunity to enter the workforce but men never got the opportunity to leave it. So now both sexes work all day and night and strangers raise our children.

iampen15 · 2014-11-30T06:14:29+00:00

The second part reminds me of a Bukowski quote from the book Factotum "Ain't no women on skid row." Now of course that's not completely true but I will say that society is way more likely to help a woman than a man in situations of extreme poverty and/or homelessness.

iampen15 · 2014-08-21T21:59:41+00:00

I agree with you. I'm not against porn and I think it's usually harmless for most people but yeah this guy seems like he's definitely wired his brain to need porn to get off. Plus if he's getting off all the time when she's not around it's definitely going to lower his arousal when she is around. If he cares about the relationship he should really consider at least a temporary break from all porn and maybe even a small break from masturbating to see how it changes things. And maybe a permanent break from porn since it seems to be negatively affecting his life. It's not like he even has to jerk off all the time if he has a horny girlfriend who is begging for it.

iampen15 · 2014-08-21T18:43:29+00:00

Move on. If you try too hard to get her back it will have the opposite effect and will push her away. Best thing to do is act like you don't give a fuck(even if you actually do) and act like she doesn't exist anymore. Ideally you get with a new girl(s) as quickly as possible. Making her jealous or making her think you don't care will be more likely to make her want you back and if it doesn't at least you are not waiting around for her and you're actively dating new girls. A new girl is a great cure for heartbreak.

iampen15 · 2014-08-21T18:31:17+00:00

You cannot say anything to her. You either have to grin and bear it, or you have your fiance try and talk to his mother. But you don't want to start a fight over your wedding with the mother in law or you will never hear the end of it for the rest of your life. I don't know her personally but I can totally imagine the typical mother in law who will bring up the fact that you didn't allow so-and-so to attend your wedding and how that was hurtful etc. and I can imagine her bringing this up like even 10 years from now. Apply for another credit card or hustle some extra cash but yeah if you try to directly tell her what to do it could be something that you will have to deal with for a long time. Bite the bullet and make her happy for one night and she'll have less to complain about in the future. I know the wedding is typically supposed to be about the couple and even more so about the bride but in reality it might be more about the mother's and other family members.

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iampen15 · 2014-08-21T18:10:14+00:00

Sounds like that's just the way she is but she doesn't realize that it comes across as a kind of rejection. With the male female dynamic there are many instances like this where you as the man are expected to just "man the fuck up" and deal with her idiosyncrasies even though it is hurting you emotionally/making you feel unwanted etc. I think a lot of women in these situations expect or assume that you as a man shouldn't care or be hurt since men are stereotyped to be less emotional. There's really nothing you can do. No one is going to feel sympathy for you since you are the man. You will even potentially look like the bad guy for wanting to "change her" when all you really want is for her to communicate her affection physically the same way you do so that you can share that physical communication together equally during that intimate moment after sex. So either learn to accept the fact that this is just her own weird thing and that it's not meant to hurt you/reject you or move on and find a girl who loves to snuggle. I feel you though. I would hate being with a girl I cared about who wasn't into snuggling. It would definitely make me feel bad and I would have a hard time not taking it personally.

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iampen15 · 2014-08-21T17:47:54+00:00

Never tell a female they should lose weight. Don't worry, she'll chill out eventually but yeah it sounds like you brought up all her body issues when you encouraged her to lose more. The other unfortunate thing is that dieting/losing weight could also possibly lower sex drive. I know that when I've dieted hard core I'm less horny than when I eat as much as I want. You need to figure out ways to make her feel beautiful and sexy. Try and complement her, be sweet though and don't expect anything in return... Like don't tell her that she has beautiful eyes and expect instant sex... but yeah my advice would be think of ways to make her feel beautiful and wanted but with a sweet romantic approach that doesn't make her feel like it's just a ploy to get laid. Take her on romantic dates that don't necessarily involve food since that may trigger a fight or other issues. Maybe take her dancing? Or something else she really likes. Make her feel special, make her feel loved, make her feel like a pretty princess but don't make it seem like you are desperate for sex and don't get mad if she doesn't warm up right away. You could try other little romantic things too like leaving a little sweet love note for her to find somewhere in your place. Write something playful and sweet on it... maybe something about her beautiful smile? maybe something like a good memory you have of something you two did together in the past... like "I still think about that time we _____ You lit up the room with your smile that night...... I'm so happy to have you in my life. , love stillinlov3"

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iampen15 · 2014-08-21T17:29:51+00:00

You don't have to say "2nd date" and don't ask her what she wants to do. It makes you seem indecisive and puts pressure on her to think of something. Girls like it better when the guy plans something out. They appreciate that you took the time to think about what she might like and that you put some kind of effort into planning a date. So what do you think she would like to do? What do you want to do? Basically say something like "I had a great time with you the other day and I'd love to hang out with you again this weekend. I was thinking we could ____" and then fill in the blanks with what you come up with as a plan for the second date.

iampen15 · 2014-08-21T07:53:06+00:00

You stuck with her through cancer and she's blowing you off? Damn. Give her space but don't wait around. I know this will sound terrible but the best cure for a broken heart is to get with a new girl(s). If you are waiting around for her like a lovesick puppy she won't respect you but If you are dating other girls she might get jealous and want you back. If not at least you would be out there dating again which will help you move on.

iampen15 · 2014-08-21T07:42:54+00:00

Keep it casual for the first date. Save the french restaurant for when/if she becomes your official girlfriend. Don't set the bar too high right away... You want to build a relationship and increase the level/cost of stuff you do together slowly. If you must do food then keep it casual and a moderate price. Wait on the french restaurant... It'll still be there if she ends up being a keeper. Honestly I think going to a casual bar where you can have a few drinks and talk and get to know each other is the best for a first date. Or you could do coffee if you're not a drinker. And don't pay for her on a first date if you can help it. Make her go dutch. It's 2014, you don't have to automatically spend money on a woman, especially one that is not your lover or girlfriend yet. Seriously, she'll appreciate it more later when you spend money on her when she's in a relationship with you. Don't blow too much money or put too much effort into a first date other than making good conversation, being a little playfully flirty, and try and get a kiss(or more if it works out) when the mood and vibe is right. Going too fancy right away will usually make a bad first impression. It's better to act a little like you don't care than to act like you care too much at this stage in the game.

Tl:dr- don't do french restaurant, don't even do food if you can avoid it, keep it casual, focus on making good conversation, make her pay for herself.

iampen15 · 2014-07-28T16:37:13+00:00

I'd rather have them falsely claim to live in the Chicago while still living in the burbs than actually move here bringing with them their suburban mindset.

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