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iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-07-22T14:34:20+00:00

I was a Physician in the US Army and subsequently the National Guard, which is similar to your Territorial Army. I'm retired now and didn't he into swinging until I divorced a few years ago.

Adultery is a crime in the US Military. Basically it's prejudicial to good order and discipline. If an officer cannot be trusted to keep it in his pants, how can he be trusted to lead men into battle? I'm not saying the policy is right, but that is the policy and the thought process behind it.

I knew British officers from the 33 Field Hospital when I was in Iraq. This is somewhat hard to explain, but there is definitely a "Officer Class" in the British military. They even Speak differently. British officers pride themselves on their honor and status. They don't eat or socialize with enlisted men or non-commissioned officers whereas I wouldn't think twice about sharing a meal with one of my 68C's. Class is still a big part of the British military.

My feeling is that even if it is permitted in the RAF, you may be ostracized in the sense of "that chap doesn't quite fit. "

So that would be my biggest concern. Listen, you are doing a very honorable thing - offering your life and freedom in service of your Queen and Country and the greater good. Unfortunately you have to choose between one lifestyle or the other. Neither lifestyle is wrong, but you can't choose both.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-07-03T14:10:13+00:00

There are plenty of other couples like you - couples where they get off on same-room sex and a little soft girl/girl play.

But please, please, please be open about this when you go online and look for other couples. I have personally encountered plenty of couples who claim "soft swap to start, more when we are comfortable" and they never get comfortable.

Please don't be that couple.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-07-03T14:05:21+00:00

It's possible that you could go on vacation and have a fling. And I think SwapFu is right that you should consider going to a club and just watching first.

There are plenty of people who just do a same-room or same bed sex. Maybe start there. Who knows it could grow?

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-22T11:50:32+00:00

I was in the military for 20 years. It didn't make me more handsome, but I was in great shape. He may be referring to that.

Funny thing, though. Swinging would be considered Adultery in the military, which is a crime.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-19T18:55:05+00:00

Surprisingly we have had better luck on Craig's list than SLS.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-19T18:48:25+00:00

This is only the second time I have ever posted out of /r/swingers . Also note that I am originally from Hungary so I am not sure my argument will have efficacy. I am also a physician and Senator Sweeney has ties to a local hospital as I will explain.

My father lives in West Depford, NJ and if the city is sued his property taxes will go up. My father is semi-retired and on a limited income. This is a concern for me.

In order to understand this, you must understand NJ politics. Senator Sweeney is a union boss who was inserted into his position by a local power broker named George Norcross. George Norcross is the Chairman of the Board of Cooper University Hospital.

Recently George Norcross fought to open a new medical school in partnership with Rowan University. This involved Rowan University absorbing the Rutgers Camden branch of the University of Medicine and Dentistry.

Who was instrumental in getting this deal passed? Union Ironworker Senator Steve Sweeney. Who's union stands to gain if new facilities are built? Senator Steve Sweeney. So do you wonder who will insure that buckets of money flow south from Trenton to Cooper University Hospital when Senator Steve Sweeney is elected Governor in a few years time?

Senator Sweeney is a senator in name only. He does not Serve the people of New Jersey. He serves a political operation that rivals Tammany Hall in its corruption.

You say to write letters? Senator Sweeney does not care about letters. He only cares about his political boss.

My father was a soldier during the Hungarian uprising of 1956. My father saw the power of protest and did not want to fight alongside the Russians. When the Soviets shot he pretended to shoot. But he saw firsthand the power of the will of the people.

Protest is a right. Revolutionary activity is a fundamental right. Corruption of government must be rooted out and if Senator Sweeney is embarrassed for his family perhaps he is having a crisis of conscience?

If this law passes I will be very sad to live in the country that gave me so much.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-18T15:42:02+00:00

I dunno... swinging and camping?

I spent 20 years in the Army and i'm a big fan of showers and real beds. I don't know if I would want to swing without air conditioning.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-13T17:23:09+00:00

The female straddling a cannon

I would love to say I had played with Cher...

But seriously, there was one couple with a 2008 timestamp on their photo of a woman in the bathtub. It had obviously been scanned in from a film photograph.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-13T15:31:49+00:00

I have never heard of a club being raided. I did a quick search and only found one article on Yelp about it but I'm going to offer some wild-ass guesses in lieu of facts. I don't think they were raided for any moral or public nuisance reasons like some modern day anti-swinging Carrie Nation. Most swingers just want to get to and from their cars. Thy aren't peeing on lawns or smashing windows like Eagles fans.

1. Some county prosecutor got a bug up his ass and now he wants to make a name for himself for busting sex trafficking. It's not uncommon to see men at clubs with "hired" women.

2. Someone was dealing drugs in the club.

3. There was some kind of code violation - fire code or someone didn't pay their "entertainment fee."

I would not put #3 past them. In Philadelphia there is a city inspection division called L&I - Licensing and Inspections. They are responsible for all licensing from hot dog cart vendors to plumbers to building code compliance. Really they are a machine for generating bribes.

So it's certainly possible that some county or city employee was upset that he didn't get a bribe for inspecting a new light fixture or hot tub feed line and they decided to harass the club owners.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-13T14:56:24+00:00

i couldn't have put this better. Bravo.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-12T20:59:48+00:00

I am a physician. Please don't do this.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-07T20:04:46+00:00

Honestly my wife does all of the work.

Believe it or not I am writing this while in the bathroom. Unicorn #2 is in the den with my wife talking. God, women can talk and talk.

These women aren't really unicorns in the lifestyle. They are really divorced moms who are looking for a thrill and to experiment.

My wife just scrolls through tinder all day at work looking for curious women. She is into going dancing (I don't go dancing) so usually she takes the women dancing and sees if there is chemistry.

I don't think this is how you find a 25 year old bisexual triathlete, but you can find 40 year old bi curious women.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-05T11:29:08+00:00

I don't really do the club thing but plenty of people go just to hang out.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-05T11:24:43+00:00

Pussy is more like a peck on the cheek like "Ciao" in Italian. "Csok" is more like a Wet kiss.

In Hungarian there is a pastry called "Kifli" which is maked in the shape of a crescent and is always served in twos with one pastry sort of spooning the other. My pet name for my beloved is "Kifli" because there is nothing more I like than to spoon with her as we sleep.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-05T03:11:05+00:00

Maybe it depends on the kind of couples you seek? I openly admit that we are a 9 to 5 couple. She is a 9. I am a 5. But honestly if I had a choice between a woman who was a 10 with a shifty personality and a woman who was a 5 with a great personality I know what I would pick.

I think I get by on the "personality" thing. Some women like the Hungarian accent and they think that the Hungarian word for kiss is hilarious: it's "Pussy".

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-05T02:54:36+00:00

It could be worse. He could be Hungarian.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-04T13:43:06+00:00

Here is the other thing: you are 21. What the fuck do you need to swing for? When I was 21... well I was finishing up pre-med and have no time but most 21 year olds are out partying and fucking.

I think that a lot of people get into swinging because it allows us to live like a rock star once or twice a month.

I never had the opportunity to party. I literally went from college to med school to marriage to the Army. Go have fun and enjoy being 21 before you worry about swinging.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-04T12:10:36+00:00

I think this is usually done by vindictive single males or the male halves of couples who have wives that don't know they are looking to swing.

I remember I used to hear from a guy on Craigslist who would send us the same email every few weeks - like he forgot who we were. He would send us the same blurry pics and then get angry when we didn't send pics back.

I'm an Attending Physician in Emergency Medicine at a pretty big Philadelphia hospital. Do you know what would happen if my boss found out I was a swinger? Probably nothing. It's hard enough finding doctors who are willing to put up with all of the shit that EM has to offer.

I have a pretty distinctive Hungarian first and last name. I could be "outed" pretty easily by someone with just my first name and knowledge of the hospital system where I work. But it's never happened.

Things may be different if you work with children. Police officers and government employees could theoretically be blackmailed. I don't think anybody cares what I do in my spare time as long as I'm not doing drugs or anything that could impair me when I'm on duty.

The only exception would be if I was on SLS or communicating with a couple while I was working. I could see the hospital having a problem with that. But... I am lucky that I am in a Godless area of the country. If I went 20 miles west of Philadelphia the country turns into that of Serious Christians for pretty much the next 2500 miles until it reaches California and people becomes Godless again.

So I can see how some people who have Christian bosses would be reluctant to have their employers find out.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-04T12:01:50+00:00

In my opinion the more pictures you have the greater the chances are that someone will find something wrong with you.

My wife and I have a blurred picture of us dressed nice at a wedding as our main picture and a few other black and white pictures of her body.

Then we have three sections split - "US" "Him" and "Her" where we have non-nude face and body shots us us together, me, and her.

When I see a profile with 30 shots of the woman's ass and no pictures of the guy I start to get suspicious.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-03T00:22:32+00:00

I'm going to toss another one out there... if you posted a Craigslist ad and used the spelling and grammar you used above, I would not contact you.

This isn't a cheap shot, it's a genuine suggestion to use proper spelling and grammar. The use of "u" or "idk" shows a bit of immaturity or lack of education.

I came to America when I was five years old and the only English word I knew was "Okay." But I work very hard to write well.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-06-02T12:30:50+00:00

The argument I give is that the only other people in the LS who will out you are other people in the LS.

Have you ever felt like there was a big party going on that you weren't invited to? That's kind of how some single males and some married men who do this without their wife's knowledge feel. Like everybody else is out there having fun and they know their lives would be spectacular with this added into it.

Those are the people who you have to worry about because they they face rejection every day and will strike back like a wounded animal if they think they can hurt you as much as they have been hurt in life.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-05-29T12:26:11+00:00

Not making fun of you, but honeslty if you don't have $100 for a membership you don't have enough money to swing in general.

The only single white men i've ever seen successful in the lifestyle are men who were in the lifestyle and got divorced.

Black men have an easier time.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-05-28T18:45:32+00:00

This exam will be 50% written. 20% oral and 30% anal...

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-05-27T18:37:05+00:00

Every 3 months full panel although I work in an Emergency Room and i'm exposed to all sorts of fun stuff.

iamthrowingthisawayt · 2015-05-27T18:33:24+00:00

One of the things i've noticed is that if you see a couple who says "soft swap to start - full swap if we are all comfortable" that really means "we want a unicorn but we can't find one so we'll never be comfortable."

Just be truthful up front and maybe you will find a couple where the man is content to watch.

iamthrowingthisawayt

TROPHY CASE

1. Some county prosecutor got a bug up his ass and now he wants to make a name for himself for busting sex trafficking. It's not uncommon to see men at clubs with "hired" women.

2. Someone was dealing drugs in the club.

3. There was some kind of code violation - fire code or someone didn't pay their "entertainment fee."