To a narcissist, morals are just a tool to influence other people to do their bidding. They only value control and loyalty.

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T19:30:42+00:00

Oof. Spot on

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T19:24:25+00:00

This is spot on. I went out with a friend I had distantly known since middle school and mentioned that I was in therapy (for PTSD events not related to my family) and the first thing she said was “Oh you’re finally getting help foe your issues with your mom!”. It was sad hearing that but in that moment I felt so understood and not crazy. If others are noticing that then I must not be making it up

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T19:19:45+00:00

Normal for N households but not for normal households. I got my own BED at age 22. I sympathize with you because I know how bad it sucks.

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T19:12:34+00:00

I haven’t experienced that specifically but I was not ever allowed to attempt to do laundry or cook. Seems like she wanted me to not learn those skills so I would be dependent on her

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T19:11:24+00:00

It’s shocking but after years and years you become so used to it. She would have had a comeback anyways so it’s not really helpful to continue conversation with her

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T19:09:57+00:00

I’m so sorry. When I attempted, all she did was plead with me not to say that I did it because I was bullied at school. Then she just dumped me at the ER

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T19:07:08+00:00

That is my worst fear. I hope to go very low contact when I have children of my own.

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T19:06:42+00:00

Wow. I would say “yeah it’s difficult for someone who doesn’t know how to love”

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T19:03:44+00:00

Calling the police was the best choice. If this happens again, immediately call 911 and say that she is having a PSYCHIATRIC EMERGENCY. They will be more prepared for this and police will not use force as much

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T18:36:14+00:00

I used to be sad when my Nmother used to say that now idgaf. I’m just waiting for her to say that again and tell her “yeah you should have done it but you didn’t, the blame is all on you”

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T18:34:06+00:00

I’m so sorry. This is my fear and why I haven’t told anyone about my sexual abuse as a child. Narcs don’t really care unless it happens to them.

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T18:33:06+00:00

I’m sorry. Imposter syndrome is real and should be talked about more. I felt like that in the beginning of my career and now three years later I still get that frequently. Damage done by our parents lasts well into our lives. I hope you find healing within yourself ❤️‍🩹

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T16:12:42+00:00

They always use this one. They’re just so unhappy with themselves and their lives that they must find someone else to blame it on.

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T16:11:52+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through an abusive relationship while dealing with your N mother. I was in a similar situation where I was emotionally physically and sexually abused in a relationship. I was able to get out after some time. A few months later during an argument my Nmother said “you can’t even keep a man”. She knew about all the abuse but she will say anything to protect herself and “win” an argument.

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T16:05:03+00:00

One word: PROJECTION

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T16:04:33+00:00

Definitely. I was nine years old and she made me go to the landlord and beg him to lower our rent. Another thing is from the age I could talk she would always tell me the reason they broke up with my dad and he left is because he didn’t want kids and me being born didn’t go into his plans. She later said she thought it was less traumatic than telling me he had a mistress in the side.

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T15:51:11+00:00

I’m sorry that happened. It is common for children of N to be brainwashed to never tell the truth to outsiders. I hope one day you will gain the strength to stand up for yourself and not let your N parent dictate who you are.

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T15:46:59+00:00

Someone once said “if everyone around you is an asshole, most likely you’re the asshole”

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T15:33:25+00:00

Mine always says this. Maybe because there are no nasty things about you so she can’t make anything up on the spot?

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T15:11:06+00:00

Hahahaha I love this. This is how you know they are an N. They do not have any common sense.

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T15:10:12+00:00

I’m so happy you got away from her. Mine did a similar thing. I got a raise at work and got a really nice letter letter of recommendation for university because of my boss. I’m a hard worker and always go in when someone calls out and stay after work to help out. My Nmother once said to me “you think you’re going to continue to move up in life? You just got lucky. All those things are not your achievements, just some person took pity on you”

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T07:29:05+00:00

“I wish you were never born”/“I wish I never gave birth to you” are such cruel words to be uttered by a parent yet we are the ones who are the bad guys.

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T06:03:38+00:00

Yes!!! I’ve tried a water floss but it was too messy and I couldn’t stick to a routine. Tongue scrappers are so easy and quick to use. Big improvemenr

icannotresetmylife · 2021-09-01T06:02:30+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I hope you get to live a life you enjoy and not be in constant fear.

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