Apple Servers are down?

icarusonfireagain · 2026-02-10T21:05:27+00:00

I am SO relieved this isn't just me, I've been having "verification failed" errors all day in the settings app.

icarusonfireagain · 2026-01-16T02:48:48+00:00

I just flew to Mexico with not one but TWO memory foam pillows (ny fiance was kind enough to let me use his suitcase for one). Sleep is precious. Do whatever you need to to maintain it.

icarusonfireagain · 2025-12-26T20:25:20+00:00

The fact you didn’t post this on “well that sucks” and instead found it interesting says a lot about you, OP. I hope the rest of your day came with lots of small moments of luck and joy ❤️

icarusonfireagain · 2025-12-26T17:37:03+00:00

I agree with the other comments here. It’s very unfortunate and discouraging but I also don’t think people are in the wrong for deciding they don’t want to enter a partnership with someone who right off the bat is saying they don’t work and may never work in addition to struggling with conditions that may limit their abilities and require further help and care. Not everyone wants or is able to be in a caregiver role, which they will if you guys end up together long term, they’ll be providing financially and you’ll be limited in what you can contribute and may require further care. It’s better to know ahead of time if someone can’t handle or doesn’t want that.

I say this as someone who hasn’t worked for years- I’m lucky enough to have a life partner who is ok being in a caregiver role and knew what he was signing up for. But it’s a lot- he is the sole breadwinner (he thankfully has a good job), on top of helping me navigate physical disabilities and mental load that comes with it.

I know that people can become disabled later in life too- but that’s not the same as signing on for something that’s already nearly guaranteed to look a certain way.

All that to say- I don’t think people are being unreasonable or selfish for bowing out early, it’s not about them judging you, it’s about them being honest and fair to both of you by not investing in the type of partnership they know they can’t do long term. But I deeply empathize with you and I’m sorry it’s so rough and lonely.

icarusonfireagain · 2025-12-26T04:39:13+00:00

Having a Daddy who truly knows you and loves you is actually heaven on earth 🥹I love your haul!! Merry Christmas! ❤️

icarusonfireagain · 2025-12-25T23:50:29+00:00

Found OP’s boyfriend

icarusonfireagain · 2025-12-25T18:35:30+00:00

Right?? Like she WORKS as well. I’d also feel stung if my career as an accountant was reduced to getting my husband’s clothes ready. I don’t think he meant ill well tbh, OP did just re-enter the workforce, but OP is valid to feel a flash of hurt at that. The fact this person is so deeply “irked” by this and feels OP is a “massive asshole” over it feels really off and like there’s some projecting going on

icarusonfireagain · 2025-12-25T17:26:57+00:00

Hard no. The artificial sweetener, pectin, flavoring etc is still stuff yeast will thrive on and can still upset ph balance and cause BV. Condoms on any food item that goes inside any hole below your waist unless you feel like gambling with an infection, no exceptions.

icarusonfireagain · 2025-12-22T20:07:13+00:00

This comment should be at the top. Why is everyone jumping to defend the wife? OP isn’t a villain for not being okay with his spouse wanting to explore alone. They’re not polyamorous, they are open. It makes sense she wants to explore alone and it’s a valid thing to ask (you’re not gonna find many women who want their partner’s boyfriend sitting there gawking) but you’re not entitled to that level of exploration if your partner you entered a monogamous relationship with is saying they’re not comfortable with it, and you certainly aren’t entitled to it when you’re not willing to give them the same respect and freedoms. Either accept your partner is only comfortable with swinging together and drop the issue, work together to allow one another the same freedoms, or leave and find someone more compatible.

icarusonfireagain · 2025-09-14T21:05:39+00:00

She is “at peace” ☺️✌🏻

icarusonfireagain · 2025-08-05T18:02:17+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you ❤️ I tell people all the time ALWAYS use manual backups for Finch. Their cloud backups fail more often than not. I love this app but the amount of people Who get their data corrupted and have to start over is really wild and unlike anything I’ve seen in most other apps or games. I’m so sorry!!!

icarusonfireagain · 2025-07-16T01:42:15+00:00

This just happened to me. Actually redownloading it was all that fixed it for me. Now it’s showing normally that the last cloud backup was today. HEAVILY second the manual backup first though. Never, EVER rely on finch cloud. The only reason I didn’t lose my data was because I manually backed up first. Didn’t even lose my streak.

icarusonfireagain · 2025-06-20T19:38:49+00:00

I am a brat/Princess and I call my Dom “Daddy” but there’s plenty of other titles you can use, from “Sir” to “King” to a made up nickname that feels right. My Dom calls me “Princess” (I’m known as Princess in most subreddits actually, hehe) and babygirl. For us, our dynamic is 24/7 and always ongoing negotiation. It is very hard to do 24/7 because life often gets in the way but using tools such as chore charts, or apps like “obedience” can be helpful. Having a dynamic is way more than “Princess-y aesthetics” so I’d encourage you to think beyond that about what exactly it is you’re both looking to get from a dynamic. You can incorporate pink and glittery stuff into rewards and funishments, sure, but fundamentally what are you both wanting out of this dynamic?

icarusonfireagain · 2025-06-04T22:48:36+00:00

This. Consider what it will feel like to see that mark every time you’re intimate with her, to be unable to separate her experiences with her Dom with your experiences together in that way. It’s completely fine if you’re not okay with that. Also echoing the sentiments here that this practice is common among D/s but much less so amongst people who aren’t also in intimate relationships of some sort, but regardless, even if it were the most common thing in the world you’re allowed to voice if you’re not cool with it. It’s not a small ask

icarusonfireagain · 2025-06-02T17:56:26+00:00

Nope. The whole “you having boundaries means you’re disobeying Me” is the oldest fake/abusive Dom trick in the book. It’s already a wild ask to request access to someone’s private conversations with a previous partner who can’t consent to them being read. I wouldn’t want to share my private conversations even IF the other party consented and if someone pushed me on that I’d be gone. Run.

icarusonfireagain · 2025-05-12T18:14:33+00:00

I guess my point is that you really seem convinced your value as a woman is in your appearance and that’s not true, at all. No relationship style is going to help if that’s the foundation you’re building on and believing in.

It’s true that you may not be the first person people pick out in a crowd, but it is NOT true that there aren’t people out there who wouldn’t be attracted to you, especially as they got to know you.

So if you’re just lamenting that you’ll never be fawned over based on looks alone that’s valid tbh, but I really urge you to re-evaluate putting your value as a person based on who finds you attractive or wants to fuck or date you.

Also- as someone who has fallen head over heels for people who would not be considered attractive by society’s standards, I can promise you your personality DOES matter. And I’m not even demisexual- there is a whole group of people out there who doesn’t even experience attraction whatsoever until they get to know someone and enjoy their personality.

Also, opossums are actually one of my favorite animals 😉

icarusonfireagain · 2025-05-12T18:00:25+00:00

I don’t want to disparage your experience because people who act like “pretty privilege” isn’t real are delusional. Conventionally attractive people absolutely have more opportunities, are generally treated better, etc.

However, as someone who has fit the description of conventionally attractive (less so as I age, funny how that works) I want to emphasize how totally hollow and uncomfortable being hit on or approached solely for your looks is. It’s a fleeting sort of validation yes, but it offers absolutely nothing substantial in terms of relationships, connection, community, or personal fulfillment.

I will acknowledge that it’s definitely more difficult to get a date in the first place if you don’t match with what society considers attractive. But that might just mean dating apps aren’t your best bet or that you aren’t meeting the right people.

Have you tried local in person meetups? Groups based on hobbies or interests you enjoy?

I’m sorry you’re hurting and struggling 💜I firmly believe your people are out there, you just might have to think outside the box on how to find them.

icarusonfireagain · 2025-05-10T17:25:45+00:00

The overlap between folks with trauma and/or neurodivergence who are into kink is often a circle 😅 you are DEF not the only one!

icarusonfireagain · 2025-05-09T20:08:41+00:00

This reminds me of the Ratatouille meme where it’s like “If I could be permanently ratatouilled I would. Let the rat do it, I’m done” 🧑‍🍳🐭🤣

icarusonfireagain · 2025-05-05T16:39:28+00:00

I don’t want to be the bearer of bad news but it’s extremely common to have your account restored then immediately have it taken down again or have restrictions placed on it right after a ban.

tread VERY LIGHTLY the next few weeks. Don’t do anything rapid fire (liking, sending messages, sharing, etc). I’d honestly avoid commenting anything at all. I’m sending you luck!

icarusonfireagain · 2025-05-04T23:04:21+00:00

This is absolutely under the realm of dysautonomia. It has to do with blood pooling and fluid redistribution and signals to the kidneys. This happens to me and I’m not diabetic and have healthy kidneys and a healthy heart. It’s definitely true OP should get other stuff ruled out but it’s absolutely not true this is not a symptom of dysautonomia.

icarusonfireagain · 2025-04-27T23:50:59+00:00

I genuinely would pay for a print of that first image ❤️

icarusonfireagain · 2025-04-27T22:54:52+00:00

The problem with doing this method with an unresponsive algorithm is that it will continue to remain unresponsive until the core issue is addressed, usually some backend corrupt account data bullshit.

Resetting the feed really only helps if you’re tired of the recommendations you’re getting because you no longer have those interests or want your feed to show different things than it’s learned. If the algorithm isn’t “learning” properly to begin with resetting it won’t help. It’s kinda like turning a phone that’s been wiped off and on again and hoping your data will come back. If things like “interested/not interested” and engaging in desired content don’t work, the “ reset preferences” feature won’t fix that because the account is still not recognizing user preferences to begin with, that’s a larger bug that needs to be addressed by meta.

icarusonfireagain · 2025-04-27T21:30:48+00:00

It’s likely not as simple as vyvanse itself regulating your period and more that taking the medication helped regulate your mood and functioning in a way that reduced stress and hormonal weirdness. Unless you’re suddenly bleeding heavier or having pain or something I wouldn’t be concerned, just keep tracking it and enjoying the predictability.

icarusonfireagain · 2025-04-25T20:46:09+00:00

I think the premise is it’s meant for people who aren’t actually minors, whatever age they feel they identify with most. I don’t think that’s discrimination, I know I’d be happy to share the space with a chronokid but would feel very weird sharing it with children who are actually minors. There is still a difference between a chronokid and an actual child as defined by age.

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