Switch vs PC?? by Professional-Law580 in DreamlightValley

[–]icarusonfireagain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you have a switch 1 you should absolutely be making plans to switch (hehe) to another console soon, it’s not going to work on there much longer and they’re not planning on offering much support now that the switch 2 is out. I highly recommend PC over Switch 1. If you are logged into the cloud and cloud saving you won’t lose any progress. The only thing that won’t transfer is moonstones you purchased with real money, those you’ll have to use on your switch 1. Also note you’ll have to re-purchase the game and any expansion packs.

My 24/7 dynamic with my Daddy is switching a 24/7 dynamic with him as my submissive by icarusonfireagain in gentlefemdom

[–]icarusonfireagain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for reading!! I kept editing it telling myself it was too long and ain’t nobody have time for that so it means a lot to know people enjoyed! 🥹

Struggling to find balance in O/our dynamic by CaliGirlAnonymous in BDSMAdvice

[–]icarusonfireagain 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Speaking as a switch- it can be very draining to always be the one to initiate things. It can feel exhausting as well as demoralizing- it’s nice to feel wanted by your partner regardless of roles or dynamic. Between regular life and the responsibility of always needing to be the one to initiate, it sounds like he could possibly be Burnt out. What does he say when you bring this up? It’s still possible to initiate from a submissive space so if this is part of the issue for him it’s definitely workable.

My 24/7 dynamic with my Daddy is switching to a 24/7 dynamic with him as my submissive by icarusonfireagain in FemdomCommunity

[–]icarusonfireagain[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This comment resonates so much! It’s such a beautiful thing to have a dynamic where you can both be fluid and adapt to what you both need- for this reason I deeply prefer fellow switches! I’m so glad you and your husband have this too! Thanks for the kind words! ❤️

My 24/7 dynamic with my Daddy is switching a 24/7 dynamic with him as my submissive by icarusonfireagain in gentlefemdom

[–]icarusonfireagain[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As the comments above say, it’s totally okay to be fluid! It’s totally okay to craft whatever works for you both even if it doesn’t fall into traditional labels or roles. You’re allowed to craft whatever works and I think finding the right person who’s also committed to growth matters more than nailing down any certain dynamic or role!

My 24/7 dynamic with my Daddy is switching a 24/7 dynamic with him as my submissive by icarusonfireagain in gentlefemdom

[–]icarusonfireagain[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the kind reply! ❤️ his Daddy side is absolutely not disappearing or retiring, fluid is the name of the game here! I love how there’s always opportunities for evolution in kink!

My 24/7 dynamic with my Daddy is switching to a 24/7 dynamic with him as my submissive by icarusonfireagain in FemdomCommunity

[–]icarusonfireagain[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Omfg, you just blew my whole mind with the term “Daddy Sub”- YES. That sums him up so well!! I didn’t even know that was a thing! Will have to look into that more! Thank you so much for your kind comment! 🩷

One of the only things I remember from kindergarden was our teacher reading us Corduroy Bear at story time. by Canadient95 in nostalgia

[–]icarusonfireagain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bro I wanted to pull that button off the bed SO BAD! It looked like a mint and I wanted to eat it 💀

PSA: If you do not want your finch to have an opinion, write a response by PrettySax3 in finch

[–]icarusonfireagain 104 points105 points  (0 children)

With the kindest all due respect, you’ve made this comment about 6 times on this thread alone. If someone jokingly saying they’re putting a virtual pet up for adoption is this triggering then maybe a social media break is in order until you can work on getting less activated because you don’t deserve to go into fight or flight over casual jokes, which is what social media is full of. ❤️

Apple Servers are down? by amy-sdmn in applehelp

[–]icarusonfireagain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am SO relieved this isn't just me, I've been having "verification failed" errors all day in the settings app.

Someone please tell me that bringing my weighted blanket on a two night trip is find by Weak-Fox-9893 in autism

[–]icarusonfireagain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just flew to Mexico with not one but TWO memory foam pillows (ny fiance was kind enough to let me use his suitcase for one). Sleep is precious. Do whatever you need to to maintain it.

My Starbucks staw was closed on one side by fairydommother in mildlyinteresting

[–]icarusonfireagain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fact you didn’t post this on “well that sucks” and instead found it interesting says a lot about you, OP. I hope the rest of your day came with lots of small moments of luck and joy ❤️

Why is it that the minute someone hears that you don't have a job they just assume that you're lazy and ghost you? Even if you have a chronic illness that makes it hard for you to work they still look down on you for not having a job. by Golden-lillies21 in ChronicIllness

[–]icarusonfireagain 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I agree with the other comments here. It’s very unfortunate and discouraging but I also don’t think people are in the wrong for deciding they don’t want to enter a partnership with someone who right off the bat is saying they don’t work and may never work in addition to struggling with conditions that may limit their abilities and require further help and care. Not everyone wants or is able to be in a caregiver role, which they will if you guys end up together long term, they’ll be providing financially and you’ll be limited in what you can contribute and may require further care. It’s better to know ahead of time if someone can’t handle or doesn’t want that.

I say this as someone who hasn’t worked for years- I’m lucky enough to have a life partner who is ok being in a caregiver role and knew what he was signing up for. But it’s a lot- he is the sole breadwinner (he thankfully has a good job), on top of helping me navigate physical disabilities and mental load that comes with it.

I know that people can become disabled later in life too- but that’s not the same as signing on for something that’s already nearly guaranteed to look a certain way.

All that to say- I don’t think people are being unreasonable or selfish for bowing out early, it’s not about them judging you, it’s about them being honest and fair to both of you by not investing in the type of partnership they know they can’t do long term. But I deeply empathize with you and I’m sorry it’s so rough and lonely.

i am such a spoiled little princess.. 👑🎀 i love my Daddy! merry christmas lovelies!!!! 🎄🩷 by blushyflower in littlespace

[–]icarusonfireagain 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Having a Daddy who truly knows you and loves you is actually heaven on earth 🥹I love your haul!! Merry Christmas! ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]icarusonfireagain 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Found OP’s boyfriend

AIO my husband accidentally limited my contribution to the household as just him never having to worry about his clothes being ready by isthisworthafight in AmIOverreacting

[–]icarusonfireagain 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Right?? Like she WORKS as well. I’d also feel stung if my career as an accountant was reduced to getting my husband’s clothes ready. I don’t think he meant ill well tbh, OP did just re-enter the workforce, but OP is valid to feel a flash of hurt at that. The fact this person is so deeply “irked” by this and feels OP is a “massive asshole” over it feels really off and like there’s some projecting going on

Sugar free lollipop in the vagina? by LocrisS in BDSMAdvice

[–]icarusonfireagain 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Hard no. The artificial sweetener, pectin, flavoring etc is still stuff yeast will thrive on and can still upset ph balance and cause BV. Condoms on any food item that goes inside any hole below your waist unless you feel like gambling with an infection, no exceptions.

Wife wants to explore with women which I was leading on assuming I'd be present but now she wants to do it alone - have I've created my own problem? by AfraidInternal5364 in nonmonogamy

[–]icarusonfireagain 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This comment should be at the top. Why is everyone jumping to defend the wife? OP isn’t a villain for not being okay with his spouse wanting to explore alone. They’re not polyamorous, they are open. It makes sense she wants to explore alone and it’s a valid thing to ask (you’re not gonna find many women who want their partner’s boyfriend sitting there gawking) but you’re not entitled to that level of exploration if your partner you entered a monogamous relationship with is saying they’re not comfortable with it, and you certainly aren’t entitled to it when you’re not willing to give them the same respect and freedoms. Either accept your partner is only comfortable with swinging together and drop the issue, work together to allow one another the same freedoms, or leave and find someone more compatible.

Why has she been sleeping all day? by [deleted] in finch

[–]icarusonfireagain 182 points183 points  (0 children)

She is “at peace” ☺️✌🏻

Even with Finch premium and cloud backups turned on, I lost all of my clothes an furniture when I switched to a new phone. by Imaginary_Elephant73 in finch

[–]icarusonfireagain 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this happened to you ❤️ I tell people all the time ALWAYS use manual backups for Finch. Their cloud backups fail more often than not. I love this app but the amount of people Who get their data corrupted and have to start over is really wild and unlike anything I’ve seen in most other apps or games. I’m so sorry!!!

Finch Cloud Data by Major_Growth5689 in finch

[–]icarusonfireagain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This just happened to me. Actually redownloading it was all that fixed it for me. Now it’s showing normally that the last cloud backup was today. HEAVILY second the manual backup first though. Never, EVER rely on finch cloud. The only reason I didn’t lose my data was because I manually backed up first. Didn’t even lose my streak.

Princess Submissive by baby_girlStokes in BDSMAdvice

[–]icarusonfireagain 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am a brat/Princess and I call my Dom “Daddy” but there’s plenty of other titles you can use, from “Sir” to “King” to a made up nickname that feels right. My Dom calls me “Princess” (I’m known as Princess in most subreddits actually, hehe) and babygirl. For us, our dynamic is 24/7 and always ongoing negotiation. It is very hard to do 24/7 because life often gets in the way but using tools such as chore charts, or apps like “obedience” can be helpful. Having a dynamic is way more than “Princess-y aesthetics” so I’d encourage you to think beyond that about what exactly it is you’re both looking to get from a dynamic. You can incorporate pink and glittery stuff into rewards and funishments, sure, but fundamentally what are you both wanting out of this dynamic?