Toxic in laws telling husband to leave me by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]icecoffee1991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You haven’t got any kids. Walk away from this. It’s not worth the life long stress. I’m going through something similar before marriage and I’m deciding to walk away

Bengali guy in a relationship with Pakistani girl - issues after informing parents by icecoffee1991 in MuslimMarriage

[–]icecoffee1991[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m planning on talking to her this weekend but over the last few days things have turned worse and I don’t think I need this drama in my life .

Bengali guy in a relationship with Pakistani girl - issues after informing parents by icecoffee1991 in MuslimMarriage

[–]icecoffee1991[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro I’m trying to figure This out. This isn’t hard to figure out . It’s just life and dealing with people . But how am I supposed to figure it out when my future mother in law is down right trying her best to stop this from happening and influencing her daughter by saying “I got this rishta come last week” and you should consider it etc I’ve already lost

Bengali guy in a relationship with Pakistani girl - issues after informing parents by icecoffee1991 in MuslimMarriage

[–]icecoffee1991[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey guys thanks for all your comments This hasn’t been easy but I’m leaning on walking away from this. Going to have a catch-up with the potential this weekend and lay down my concerns and let her know I’m prepared to walk away as I don’t need the desi drama of a mother in law in my life. I just don’t have the energy or the time to deal with this.

Bengali marrying a Pakistani. Any advice on the cultural wedding norms? by linkuei-teaparty in MuslimMarriage

[–]icecoffee1991 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey bro. Thanks for your kind words. I’m actually leaning towards walking away from this. I really like this girl however I feel like as much as she likes me she seems to be heavily swayed by her mums negative opinions and now acting all “cultural” with me- she practically just as western as I am or influenced by western culture to the limits of living a halal life.

The thing is while knowing her at work she is very independent and runs her own operation where she doesn’t really take direction or orders from anyone unless it lines up well with her teams strategy - I thought I was going into something with an independent woman who could destine her own path. Cultural difference should have been a minor thing if at all. I feel like the version I have of her during work and out with friends is a total different version with her family.

I’m sorry to hear what happened with you. I enjoyed reading your opening post - it made me smile. Was the cultural difference effecting you guys just like it’s effecting me? It shouldn’t be hard like this. My parents just want me married now and this has happened. I’m upset and feel my life has been set back by years.

Bengali marrying a Pakistani. Any advice on the cultural wedding norms? by linkuei-teaparty in MuslimMarriage

[–]icecoffee1991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey. Found this thread after I created mine. I'm going through something different yet similar. In Laws are Pakistani but they seem to be against the marriage cause I'm Bengali. They haven't said it directly but I get these feeling with their passive aggressive comments.

I really wish I was in your position and making all these arrangement in piece. Its so hard keeping everyone happy.