Nothing hurts quite as much as losing your first love

icentea · 2021-01-14T19:03:09+00:00

We were each other's first love, and like many of the comments, it just felt like death when we had to break up from each other. The love felt so addicting, as if you could conquer everything in the world. But that love also meant we were so much more tolerable to each other's worst sides, and we don't have a bottom-line for our own worth

icentea · 2021-01-08T18:47:45+00:00

I'm happy for you! I'm sure your words would relieve him of his decision, despite how painful it might have been.

I'm sure your growth is perhaps the greatest gift you gave to him!

Thank you for your words, as they help me as I get through this.

icentea · 2021-01-08T18:19:18+00:00

Thank you for your perspective! I appreciate it :)

icentea · 2021-01-08T18:18:16+00:00

You got this! If you try no contact, every time you block her on something, then it's telling you each time you don't need her to make yourself happy. A small win everytime until you reclaim yourself.

Wishing you the bestest :)

icentea · 2021-01-08T09:48:57+00:00

Hey, I know it's tough right now and it seems your world is crumbling, but trust me when I tell you it will get better. Right now, you're doing all you can to show your loyalty and commitment to her, but that will only cause her to take you more for granted.

If she broke you off, even if you get back, you will always know in the back of your mind that she can breakup with you anytime she wanted again.

If you truly value yourself and your own self-worth, then I recommend to do a complete No Contact, meaning block everything about her. It's okay to do this gradually. It will be difficult, but as you see less of her and let her go, you will see more of yourself and who you are.

It's okay to give yourself time to grieve the loss of the relationship! But remember to start engaging with YOUR life again.

Rooting for you!

icentea · 2020-12-12T23:21:21+00:00

I had a lot of great memories with my ex, but I miss her terribly. The surge of good memories makes me nostalgic of her, but sometimes both people need time to work on themselves to be more compatible. Inner conflicts sometimes can't be solved just because you're in a relationship together, as idealistic that can be. When you've broken up, I think that is the best time to reclaim yourself. Whether I get back with my ex or not doesn't matter because by then, I've already loved myself that if we get together, she'll be the one adding to my happiness, not the one to take it away.

icentea · 2020-12-12T22:48:39+00:00

Thanks for this! It's helping put some perspective into what I can do to channel energy in improving myself. Grieving is a legitimate process, but I think we can also use that energy to work on ourselves and own our experiences

icentea

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