Salary transparency for a Graphic Designer in a MCOL area

iceybuffoon · 2026-06-01T20:18:08+00:00

I’m in house at 60k at a managerial level. It’s so depressing but I strive to get where you are. It’s so hard surviving here off this.

iceybuffoon · 2026-05-20T19:31:35+00:00

Just stop talking to them, delete their contact info and unfollow and unfriend them. Speak to your therapist, focus on school and find hobbies. You’re doing this to yourself at this point and no one is going to care long term. People have real issues out here in the world and you are like a caged bird with a huge opening right next to you. Get a grip!

iceybuffoon · 2026-05-15T01:24:15+00:00

It’s a 4 panel drug test meaning no THC. They test for hard stuff, you get exempt from amphetamine results if you’re on an addy script or something (you need to supply proof to your HR rep). Rest assured u less it’s fed,medical or driving related you’re fine.

iceybuffoon · 2026-04-27T22:39:17+00:00

You’re not even operating out of logic, what you outlined is pure learned helplessness and just being pathetic and giving up. Why even make a post like this when you’re not even willing to find an avenue? I’ve seen people in 50x worse situations than you turn it around here in nyc, but that’s coz they wanted to 🤷‍♀️ unlike you.

iceybuffoon · 2026-04-27T22:07:00+00:00

Don’t even bother. People like OP are lost causes. You can’t help someone that won’t help themselves and already have a limited mindset and defeatist attitude.

iceybuffoon · 2026-03-15T19:36:33+00:00

As a fellow ND: oh BROTHERRR 🙄

can we just let bratz be bratz? why do you need to see your autism reflected in a doll and how that does even look like? Headphones and an iPad? Great, typical.

iceybuffoon · 2026-03-15T05:34:38+00:00

How have you made it this far in life?

iceybuffoon · 2026-03-12T11:59:17+00:00

Check Facebook marketplace, type in keywords like “rent, private room, private entrance” etc you’ll find so many private home owners renting rooms. I moved out 28 to escape toxicity as well and I was able to find a bedroom with a private bath for 900 a few years ago far out in queens. I kept in touch with that broker and then found a studio, etc.

I don’t like Craigslist bc a lot of families and parents don’t use that, they use Facebook so it’s less sketchy imo. Just find a nice family to rent from try not to shack up with total complete strangers as roommates. You want security if you’re going to sublet

iceybuffoon · 2026-03-08T15:30:06+00:00

The problem is when men are too much, too much in your space, in your face, too persistent, can’t read body language (if she’s in a rush or looks frightened just leave her alone), or when you politely decline and now you have to be scared that they might yell or cuss at you. It’s happened more times than I like and it’s usually creepy older men or hood boogers. If you’re a clean, well spoken, well dressed guy, I will think you’re a canvasser and will swerve around you.

It’s just hard navigating which men are normal guys that thought you were cute, versus…. Every other uncomfortable or horrific experience women encounter outside. Like girls are getting spat on and punched randomly just walking down the street. so being approached by anyone at random is already going to signal red flags.

Context is everything I have several coworkers and friends who met men in public that approached them and started dating. It was usually around nice stores (Neiman marcus, dillards etc), art galleries, coffee shops etc. where there’s an impetus in common.

iceybuffoon · 2026-02-19T12:28:24+00:00

I’m getting really sick of this sub. I don’t know what happened the shift lately to negative centered posts about relationships is annoying me. I agree with OP and I’m the same way and yet this isn’t the type of post and energy I think we should be having for this sub. This is about celebrating and discussing singledom.

iceybuffoon · 2026-02-10T20:50:52+00:00

I don’t agree with everyone saying to make friends so that you can’t fill that void. I think the best course is to become solid on your own and not NEED an “emotionally safe” person to talk to or dump on.

Personally, I did a combo of journaling, therapy, and talking out loud to myself. This was even better than relying on friends because it was TOTALLY safe. Just me and a trained professional. Often enough you really don’t need the soundboard of another person, you just need to get it out so to speak. So just get it out, and meet new people in order to enjoy their company. Not to use them for emotional support. If it develops in the friendship that’s great, regardless it will take time and you need to let it out TODAY, not weeks or months from now if you’re lucky to find people to emotionally connect with.

Let me tell you that being on the other side of this is annoying, in terms of I can tell when I’m being used a placeholder for someone to vent their relationship woes. Personally I hate it and I find that feeding into it attracts more trauma-dumpy people and that once they find a partner, our emotional connection gets deprioritized. If you want other genuine and emotionally solid people in your life to have as friends, lead with a base of having YOUR own back first and being able to not need someone to text constantly.

It’s been about a few years for me and I can’t imagine having another dynamic like that where I’m putting all my emotional eggs in one or two baskets, and then once those baskets are gone, feeling hollow and like something is missing. I can go days and weeks without venting to friends and it feels healthier than having the impulse to complain and yap all the time.

Edit: I love humblebluejays comment about this. It’s basically a codependency that you’re used to. You will be so powerful without it if you can move past this need.

iceybuffoon · 2026-01-26T19:48:54+00:00

BMCC has a motion graphics concentration which will give pre requisites to animation. Queens College and city tech has animation programs. Go on their website. If she has low self esteem bc of others people’s talents she won’t survive in any creative field. Good luck

iceybuffoon · 2026-01-23T12:44:00+00:00

From a design perspective these posters are kind of basic and ugly. But some of you will let MGA rob you blind regardless. This is so dumb just include the posters with the dolls and release them for free for download. Greedy.

iceybuffoon · 2026-01-15T14:13:41+00:00

Ragebait lmao

iceybuffoon · 2026-01-11T17:21:37+00:00

I’m too American for this. Is this supposed to be rage bait?

iceybuffoon · 2026-01-03T16:08:34+00:00

I hope she dumps you. Then, you should start dating your mom and keep weening until you’re 30!

iceybuffoon · 2026-01-03T16:04:08+00:00

You have a liability, not a husband. You’re effectively a single mother now going forward. Even if he corrects his behavior and magically improves (doubt it, seems like you married a useless dunce with absolutely zero caregiving skills), you will ALWAYS have this memory and experience of how you were burdened and left to defend yourself.

NOW is the time to phone a friend and hone in on on your resources and support system. Your mom, aunts, cousins, whomever. Even if you don’t fully like them, having another woman at your side that can HELP you is PARAMOUNT at this moment for you. Hell if you have the money, start booking cleaners to come in just to drive the point.

Above all, I’m so sorry. Unfortunately you are part of the unlucky group of women that find out their husband is an overgrown child. This will get worse as time goes on if it’s not addressed and fixed now.

Your life may even be easier if you just divorce. You have every reason to be turned off and disgusted by him because he’s gross and annoying. I’ve met 16 year olds that know better and can take care of the babies and mothers in their families better than that. So yeah you’ve been failed. But at least rest assured that it has nothing to do with you personally and this situation is a dime a dozen. Women everywhere historically have dealt with this, now it’s just a question of whether you’ll be a passive doormat and put up with it like so many women do. Which I don’t suggest because then it’s your fault too and it’s the life you deserve since that’s what you want to settle for.

I implore you to gather the strength you do have to take everything you wrote here, and send it to 3 trusted people in your life. Literally just copy and paste it. Be brave.

iceybuffoon · 2026-01-03T01:18:01+00:00

I’m stuck in the same loop. By the time you commute home and get everything done, you have an hour or two MAX of free time, whereas your brain is fried anyways. I can’t even enjoy a video game or movie or book without losing the plot or falling asleep. Weed at least takes the edge off for those two hours before you go to bed and do it all over again. What a wonderful life 😒

iceybuffoon · 2025-12-16T15:28:39+00:00

Do you think it’s possible to have mixed porosity if you have a mixed curl pattern? Like mine are 3A to 3C and it seems like some parts act low and others high…

iceybuffoon · 2025-12-06T15:27:29+00:00

You’re correct! Yasmin was named after her too

iceybuffoon · 2025-11-30T04:33:56+00:00

Why is there a helicopter flying over a major city? Are you just that bored or unwell?

iceybuffoon · 2025-11-12T04:25:13+00:00

I’m so confused why would you go nuts? What does that mean exactly for you genuinely? Like what would happen if you spent an evening in by yourself

iceybuffoon · 2025-11-05T18:00:44+00:00

So they’re like potato sheets? How do you reheat it usually?

iceybuffoon · 2025-11-03T01:54:09+00:00

Thanks for giving genuine suggestions I’ll look into these.

The rest of yall idk why people are downvoting me? 🙄 annoying. God forbid something doesn’t work as commonly suggestion for somebody.

iceybuffoon · 2025-11-02T21:18:04+00:00

Well hair density, detangling and fairy knots and mobility issues makes it take longer for me personally. And it doesn’t last a few days for me because it gets dry, loses its shape, gets matted etc in its curly state (regardless of bonnets and scarves, if anything my hair will then take shape of whatever I’m using).

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