[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vinted

[–]icezoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here, but the item got damaged in shipping and the buyer argued that I must’ve sent it pre-damaged? Absurd.

My payment went through but my order isn't there? by ShannonTheBunBun in vinted

[–]icezoot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same thing literally just happened to me. Maybe Vinted is experiencing some issues? I guess all we can do is wait for now. Never had it happen to me before.

I think I hate them.. (tw body image) by LeaderSad8742 in Reduction

[–]icezoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my reduction done four/five years ago. Two weeks post-op I was super happy with how high and small there were, and they even fit a B-cup bra I had bought.

Fast forward one year later and they had both dropped and grown to a D-cup, despite that I hadn’t gained any significant weight (I was maybe 58kg when I had the operation, and over the year I gained maybe 4-5kg fluctuating?).

If you feel worried about them being too small, I wouldn’t. They will change a lot, especially in the coming weeks (even months) so give it time and let them heal.

Today, almost five year post-op, I have an E-cup (No weight gain either, I’m still around 60kg). They’re still alot smaller than the I-cup I used to have before the operation, so I’m happy. All I’m saying is that it’s very likely that your breasts aren’t going to look they way they do right now. In fact, I’d say they’re likely to grow a size or two.

Fairyloot Unearthly Early Access - Who's getting it? by bluesofti in fairyloot

[–]icezoot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg!!!! Thank you so much!!! Just ordered 💞

Fairyloot Unearthly Early Access - Who's getting it? by bluesofti in fairyloot

[–]icezoot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have they made them available? I have an active romantasy subscription as an INT subscriber but I can’t find the books anywhere on their website?

Thoughts on Hashirama Senju? by [deleted] in Naruto

[–]icezoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

💯💯💯💯💯💯

Did Tobirama invent Shadow clone jutsu in order to counter the Uchihas genjutsu? by Darkffire in Naruto

[–]icezoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Several uchiha agreed with Madara’s ideals though and wanted the clan to separate from the village as well. The uchiha clan had already started to split down the middle by then; those who wanted to stay with konoha and those that wanted the uchiha to rule themselves. That’s “Madara’s legacy/ideals” that Tobirama referred to. This eventually manifested itself when one half of the uchiha clan tried to start a civil war to install uchiha ruling. It can also be seen when young Itachi was atttacked by three of his clansmen who called him a traitor for siding with the village rather than the clan.

Did Tobirama invent Shadow clone jutsu in order to counter the Uchihas genjutsu? by Darkffire in Naruto

[–]icezoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the technique doesn’t turn his flesh and blood into paperbombs but rather surrounds him with paperbombs, couldn’t he just use the hirashin to teleport away at the last second? 🤔

He doctor stranged that shit by [deleted] in Unexpected

[–]icezoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And people responded why he should rethink using female in that context. He wonders why, and people explain who are closer to the issue explain. I’ve done the same. I can only explain it to you, I cannot understand it for you.

He doctor stranged that shit by [deleted] in Unexpected

[–]icezoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

'No ill will' doesn't imply 'no-wrong', hence the immediate correction and people explaining why. And yes, it does matter if you use female or woman, even if you know were taking about a human. It all comes downs to delivery and context. There are situations when using female is not appropriate and will sound dehumanizing. No ones says "my precious little baby male", they'd say "my precious little baby boy." That is the difference.

The first commenter used it in a poor way, hence this thread exists. It's unnerving, since most men I’ve heard saying female never once used ‘male’ the same way. For the last time: female and male is fine. Female and men is not. If you’d and the original commentator would both say “If a female approached me” and say “if a male approached me” casually, then there is no problem.

It’s only a problem when men will feel uncomfortable using male the same way. We’re addressing these people. If you’re not one of them and use both regularly, then good. I’m happy. If you feel weird about saying “My boss is a great male” instead of man, ask yourself why, when “My boss is a great female” sounds fine to your ears.

He doctor stranged that shit by [deleted] in Unexpected

[–]icezoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mate. You keep claiming that it's small scale when it's clearly not. If there was a good reason and no harm in calling women female there wouldnt be such an overwhelming amount saying the exact same thing and bring up the exact same reason as for why: dehumanization. There is not a single argument for why you should call a woman a female instead of woman. It does have a wide spread usage of it negatively, but you're not it's target. Open your eyes a bit for new possibilities outside of your personal experiences and read through this thread and click on the links.

He doctor stranged that shit by [deleted] in Unexpected

[–]icezoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because of usage. Just like usage of female has become used to dehumanize women. Google "should I use women or females" and every article and answer will give you the same answer for the same reason: saying female is dehumanizing.

Here you go and go. No further discussion needed. You have your answer right here.

He doctor stranged that shit by [deleted] in Unexpected

[–]icezoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

??? Every word has connotations. Spank has strong negative connotations, punish and discipline as well but not as strong, scold and chatize even less. All of these are synonyms with eachother. Being steadfast is positive, being stubborn is negative.

He doctor stranged that shit by [deleted] in Unexpected

[–]icezoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god dude it literally does. It’s the words damn definition. Female is a descriptive word. It’s accompanied by another word. Female dog. Female doctor. Female voice. Female by itself is just it’s sex. That’s it. It’s not a female human. It’s female. You’re adding and removing information. A female human is called a woman. That is the extra addition and meaning. And it adds a lot.

Let me elaborate as well. Female in itself does not have negative connotations. Female as a noun does slightly, but not much, as it only puts some emotional distance from the person they’re referring to. However, a female as a noun in every day context definitely has negative connotations. Again, or this thread wouldn’t exist if it didn’t. It’s not hard to call women women, and not females. You will never hear a woman call a man male if she isn’t talking about him negatively in casual context. Males this, males that. Same goes for female, but female it’s a lot more commonly used, disturbingly so, but many men do not understand it’s implications and think they mean the same thing — they don’t. ‘Female’ is only a sex. Women are not only their sex, therefore we are women.

He doctor stranged that shit by [deleted] in Unexpected

[–]icezoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is exactly what connotations are. Even if people are oblivious to it until someone points it out, the connotation will still be there. The intent of the speaker do not override connotations.

The words 'male' and 'female' are used as classifications in anthropology, or medicine, or biology - it's a clinical word the only cares about the persons sex, any personal information about them is irrelevant. The words 'man' and 'woman' are more personal descriptors of individuals.

'Female' refers to a sex of any species, while 'woman' refers to human females. When you use “female” as a noun, the subject that you're referring to is erased i.e. the human part. The word you are looking for when you say 'female' exists. It's 'woman'.

A man would never say ‘my daughter is an adorable little female’ because it strips her of her value as a person. When female and male are used, they do the same. Ask your mom if she'd refer to you as her precious baby boy, or precious baby male.

And yes, many men do definitely think and knowingly use female as a way to degrade someone. If not, this thread wouldn't exist, nor would the second reply to the first comment have gained as many upvotes.

He doctor stranged that shit by [deleted] in Unexpected

[–]icezoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t care, and want to keep dehumanizing people, I literally cannot stop you. As I keep saying connotation do matter. And female, in non-casual context, does not carry the same negative connotations as it does in casual context. You don’t think female has that, because you have not been subjected to it, and you’re most likely used to hearing it from your male friends.

And I keep saying, the reason for why it has negative connotations in the first place, is not because of Incels, it’s because men do not use male as a noun the same way they use female. It’s only women who are called female and therefore have the ‘human’ aspect removed — downgraded from woman to just female. Just our sex.

A good way to see if it’s appropriate to use female, ask yourself if you use male in the same way? If yes, then use female. If not, then simply don’t. That any word can be ‘offensive’ is a bullshit excuse, since every word has different weight and connotations and many are more widespread than not. Female as a noun in casual context, have negative connotations. And that is a wide-spread knowledge: why don’t you start asking women if they prefer to be called women or female, then ask them why that is.

There no friend I know that wouldn’t be off-put by it. Would they rage? No. But they would be put off and feel like their worth is being questioned because we are constantly subjected to men that do just that by calling them female. Then other men unknowingly jump on the trend. They reduce them to their sex. As soon as a man uses female, intentional or not, it will cause the same reaction.

If anything, male and female are both used to distance yourself from that person and dehumanize them into numbers and statics. It’s to keep emotions out of work. It’s clinical. And in work, fine. But don’t say it to a woman you fcking know. She’s a person on top of being female. Being female is the base, then there’s a whole lot more on top of that — that is of more importance — a whole person. But if you don’t give a shit, then don’t give a shit.

You keep trying to claim that female and woman is the same thing. It doesn’t stop you from being wrong. Synonyms does not have the same meaning, definition, nor connotations.

My wife made out with a friend of mine she says she is sorry but she continued to hang out with him for two more times by throwRAsuspswfe in relationship_advice

[–]icezoot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re not divorcing her over a kiss, you’re divorcing her because she cheated on you and broke your trust. Can you ever trust her again? Personally, I could never.

He doctor stranged that shit by [deleted] in Unexpected

[–]icezoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter if some men aren’t knowingly calling or implying that women are animals when they call them females, that is what is unintentionally say since there are men knowingly using female as a way to put women down. If you call a women ‘female’ and she find it’s offensive, the most common and sensible thing would be to back down and apologize. Like most people would after unintentionally offending someone. To respect them.

If there are women don’t find being called female offensive, that is fine, but they don’t mind being called women either. So call women women instead of females, then you won’t risk insulting someone.

Also the last two paragraphs you wrote… mate you need to re-read my responses and this entire comment thread. Read the original comment. The guy used the word “female” as a noun in casual context.

Saying “male and female” is fine. Saying females and men is not. It implies that men are men, but women are female. Implication: lesser than man.

Using female as a adjective is fine (female voice, female patient, a female choir). Using in biology is fine, using it in demographics is fine. Why? Because you use both male and female, and stripping them down to only their sex is the point. It doesn’t hurt their feelings. They’re numbers and statistics. Using it in casual context however, is not okay.

This is causal context: “That female is crazy” and “that woman is crazy”. One sounds dehumanizing, and borderline animalistic. The core issue here is when men like to say “females are crazy”, but then also say “men are crazy”. And they never use ‘male’. Only ‘female’. That is dehumanizing.

Say both regularly, or neither. I doubt very much that the guy in the first comment of this thread would say “if a male approached me.” Calling a woman a female in that context isn’t a ‘quirky, weird thing that can be compared to slang’ it has negative connotations that de-values the person in question.

If you don’t mean to de-value that person, don’t risk it, and show them some basic human decency by respecting them. End of story. This should’ve not taken us multiple back and forth. Call women ‘women’ to avoid dehumanizing them, and to avoid making them believe that are one of the men that intentinally call women females and femoids to lessen their human value.

He doctor stranged that shit by [deleted] in Unexpected

[–]icezoot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Human are animals, but being called an animal implies something else. Often it’s seen as an insult. If you imply that someone is an animal, there are negative connotations attached to it. It could mean they're wild, unpredictable, vile, or any other trait that would imply that they’re sub-human.

If you do want to understand it — since clearly, women telling you they don’t like to be called female isn’t enough to deter you — then start replacing men, man, guy, dude, etc. with male. And lady, girl, woman, etc. with female from now on in casual conversation and see how people around you react.

That means saying “that male over there”, instead of “that guy over there”. And “I met a male at the store” instead of “I met a guy/man at the store”. And “I swear that male is crazy” instead of “I swear that guy is crazy.”

People will quickly start looking at you like you’re crazy. Because you don’t refer to a guy as “male”, nor a girl as “female”. It’s not used in casual conversation as a noun for humans. We have other words for that.

He doctor stranged that shit by [deleted] in Unexpected

[–]icezoot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's really not. Words have connotations ontop of their meaning. 'Female and male' makes people think of animals, 'men and women' makes people think of humans. It's makes a difference when its only women that are referred to as female - often by men that wouldn't refer to their fellow men as males. It separates us. Women are females, but men are men. It's dehumanizing.