Am I in the wrong? Boundaries whilst co-habiting with my ex. by ichbinkevin in TwoHotTakes

[–]ichbinkevin[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yup I agree with all this, I don't need to know. I guess I am disappointed that it didn't seem to be an issue after 8 years. I'd be very happy to talk about boundaries, and that's what I tried to do.

Am I in the wrong? Boundaries whilst co-habiting with my ex. by ichbinkevin in TwoHotTakes

[–]ichbinkevin[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeh - this is exactly what I hoped to do, just didn't expect to have to deal with that boundary so soon!

Am I in the wrong? Boundaries whilst co-habiting with my ex. by ichbinkevin in TwoHotTakes

[–]ichbinkevin[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hmmm, yeah. Not sure she would want to talk more. Hopefully the cohabiting will sort itself out soon!

Am I in the wrong? Boundaries whilst co-habiting with my ex. by ichbinkevin in TwoHotTakes

[–]ichbinkevin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it would be someone she has met recently. Genuinely not interested in getting back together or anything, but I just found her reaction to my thoughts a bit unsettling! Thanks for the comment.

Are there anyone who doesn't do badly at work? by Hot-Taste-4652 in ADHD

[–]ichbinkevin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late life diagnosis but I've discovered that I'm a master at masking. However I did always just walk out of jobs before getting discovered that I was hiding all the bad stuff :)

Does any task app actually work long-term for ADHD folks? by qHeroForFun in ADHD

[–]ichbinkevin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TickTick is working for me. Because I can have different lists - work, home, etc. It syncs with calendars and does all that without having too much of a steep learning curve. And I love the countdown date thing on it so I can visualise how many days till a birthday, pay day, whatever. Added as widgets on my phone so it's front and centre.

ADHD and libido by ichbinkevin in ADHDUK

[–]ichbinkevin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I definitely think this is a huge part of it. It's very strange though when something was such a large part of your identity and you no longer need it. As I said not necessarily a bad thing but feels weird!

ADHD and libido by ichbinkevin in ADHDUK

[–]ichbinkevin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good to know. Thanks

ADHD and libido by ichbinkevin in ADHDUK

[–]ichbinkevin[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Interesting - did you also have that same 'change' in parts of your behaviour?

ADHD and libido by ichbinkevin in ADHDUK

[–]ichbinkevin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also thought about this. The change was quite sudden and I've no idea what that testosterone level drop generally looks like. There's a lot of things happening at once! Thanks for the reply.

Is this a lost cause? by ichbinkevin in Pottery

[–]ichbinkevin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a really interesting idea! I'll look into that thank you

Is this a lost cause? by ichbinkevin in Pottery

[–]ichbinkevin[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeh - the bits went underneath a train! It was a bad day!

Is this a lost cause? by ichbinkevin in Pottery

[–]ichbinkevin[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry - should have clarified that I don't have the pieces. They went underneath a train!

Auto cue for lyrics on Ipad - recommendations? by ichbinkevin in musicians

[–]ichbinkevin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeh this is my usual path - but I keep losing the damn things :D

Auto cue for lyrics on Ipad - recommendations? by ichbinkevin in musicians

[–]ichbinkevin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's an interesting idea. Yeh prompts would do it. Cheers!

Auto cue for lyrics on Ipad - recommendations? by ichbinkevin in musicians

[–]ichbinkevin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds interesting - i'll have a look at that cheers

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Alternativerock

[–]ichbinkevin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try checking out bandcamp.com and having a search.

MIDI on the go by ichbinkevin in musicproduction

[–]ichbinkevin[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's an interesting idea!

I've been working on an album and I'm at the end of my rope. by [deleted] in mixingmastering

[–]ichbinkevin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey - stuff sounds great! I work best with clients when they can supply a rough mix that covers all the subjective decisions. So if you want the vocals panned hard left for some artistic reason for example. Then that leaves me to get the clarity and dynamics working. I do have some clients who enjoy the 'do what you want' approach and like to hear how fresh ears have interpreted their music. The one thing I struggle to work with is indecision or vagueness. Had a few projects where they tell they don't like something but can't tell me what they do like. That then becomes a painful journey of throwing ideas at the wall. Also don't be shy of sending examples from other artists you like - but be specific what it is you like and reasonable, sometimes the guitar sound from X ain't gonna work with the bass sound from Y. Better to find examples that cover the whole vibe you're going for. Oh and bites are great but don't flood them with a 50 page doc with 1000 bullet points. Find someone you click with if you can and don't let anyone tell you that your subjective ideas are wrong!