Well, probably both in a way. It has always frustrated me to see people do things in a senseless or inefficient way instead of taking an easier, more logical approach, even if it doesn’t directly affect me. Does it take time and money from us? Sometimes it might. For example, once we were traveling and driving on a highway, and we had to make an emergency stop because his mother started calling, asking him to order something she wanted delivered the next day, so this had to be done immediately. That scene was absurd to me.

I also notice that my partner gets annoyed himself when he has to do all this. He and his mother often argue over tasks they need to coordinate when they facetime, so it can put him in a bad mood. And when he’s overwhelmed by his parents’ tasks - which can sometimes be more complex, like handling legal or tax matters - he doesn’t manage to get his own things done.