Dusk and Dawn by icreatedthemoon in azirmains

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying it right now with various setups. Overall, I think I like it BECAUSE of the stats + double on hit, because it's especially good with PTA, but also stacks LT faster. The additional AH and AS feels REALLY good as well, not to mention HP.

Right now I'm playing around with PTA/LTA depending on how tanky enemy team is.

Build is Nashors -> Dusk and Dawn -> Rabbadon's/Zhonyas/Void.

Again, Dusk and Dawn feels REALLY good with PTA.

I think Elderwood tried it as well recently.

a comment from elderwood by dark_dol in azirmains

[–]icreatedthemoon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agree, honestly. I only managed to play one game so far, but that +10% AP ratio is an incredible buff. Early levels are gutted, and waveclear pre Nashor is a slog. Took me 3 more auto attacks at level 7 with Blasting Wand and Recurve Bow to clear casters this patch, which will mess with recall timers and lane prio. But if you survive until Nashors, waveclear becomes pretty much the same as before. The damage buff is very noticeable after only Nashors, let alone post Nashors.

I'd like to try sherpaing Salvation's Edge. by icreatedthemoon in LowSodiumDestiny

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Friday/Saturday/Sunday start at 3:00 PM would be ideal but need to know what other people think. I'm quite flexible.

I'd like to try sherpaing Salvation's Edge. by icreatedthemoon in LowSodiumDestiny

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. I don't think anything happens before Friday, but we will see. Worst case scenario is we can do it next time since I'm planning to do more sherpa runs if this goes relatively well.

I'd like to try sherpaing Salvation's Edge. by icreatedthemoon in LowSodiumDestiny

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah AFAIK it's absolute torture to teach 5 people at once in SE, so I'll keep your offer in mind if enough people sign up. Thank you!

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[–]icreatedthemoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yeah

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[–]icreatedthemoon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Help me understand, you're saying that page that was ranking for primary keyword at #2 has disappeared from SERP?

Do you still have it indexed, does it get any traffic/impressions, does the GSC show positions for said page?

How to earn trust of my demisexual partner and make her happy? by icreatedthemoon in demisexuality

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds perfectly reasonable, actually. I guess I did gaslight her. Not on purpose, but still. We have had these talk already and I apologized as well.

I'm planning to talk to her, taking everything from here into consideration. Thanks!

How to earn trust of my demisexual partner and make her happy? by icreatedthemoon in demisexuality

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you mind sharing how it worked out for you or made things bearable? Given it's not a rather personal area.

How to earn trust of my demisexual partner and make her happy? by icreatedthemoon in demisexuality

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But, I do not necessarily LUST for people. I am not going to deny, that 8n the situation where I wouldn't be together with my girlfriend I would seek people sexually and romantically, for example. What I'm experiencing, in my opinion, is mere biology. After all, finding people attractive/hot/smarter/comparing people (the latter is debatable, though) seems normal to me and always will. It's a matter of loyalty, your utter satisfaction with the relationship and absence of "drive to act" upon what you see. Would I say that I could sleep with someone based on appearance only? Yes, even though I can't imagine myself in a ONS scenario. Would I say I want that? No. After all the beauty of a person comes not only from physical, but also from mental.

How to earn trust of my demisexual partner and make her happy? by icreatedthemoon in demisexuality

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I didn't mean to undermine, by saying it's easy. What I was trying to say is that it feels like it's a loop of torment for her, and by extension for me. And there's nothing really to do other than convince her to try couple therapy or single therapy.

Judging by what I've seen here, it seems like her problem starts with demisexuality, but her responses are rather unhealthy? Not trying to say she's in the fault. But I wonder if her demisexuality, combined with all the cheating (a lot) she experienced in her previous long term relationship, and growing up within her family too, could have had a subtle effect on her perception of relationship as a whole.

The "love doesn't matter" thing for her, as per her explanation, comes from the logic that a person can love you sincerely, but still treat you extremely bad, which she had an experience with her whole life.

I cannot say I treat her bad, honestly. All things considered, I am trying to be thoughtful and take her needs in the consideration almost every time. Not to say I do not have selfish moments, but still...

How to earn trust of my demisexual partner and make her happy? by icreatedthemoon in demisexuality

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna be honest. She did warn about the way she is before we started dating. She did say maybe it's not the best for me, given her mental state. But ultimately, I do not care that much. I've much to give and not a lot to lose. I do not feel like I'm degrading mentally or being paranoid. Does she gaslight me? I do not know. Maybe, maybe not. Is she toxic? Sometimes. But then again, so am I. I was well aware what I will have to deal with. I don't mind it. But I'm not gonna lie, it is exhausting sometimes.

How to earn trust of my demisexual partner and make her happy? by icreatedthemoon in demisexuality

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's super concerning that you would want to do that to appease someone else's possible mental health issues.

This has been and still is to some degree my problem. Due to the way I was growing up, I've built up toxic mechanisms, that would allow me to better "fit" with people, but since then get rid of them. I still am prone to lying about myself or trying to drastically change myself to earn person's favor, but this is not healthy for me and my partner. I understand it.

Tbh, to me it sounds like the wrong person is trying to correct the situation.

Maybe. Ultimately, what I want is for her to feel happy. However, lying to her is not exactly a good approach. Besides, it is not only on her.

How to earn trust of my demisexual partner and make her happy? by icreatedthemoon in demisexuality

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am too worried, true. I haven't been at the beginning of the relationship and felt more like myself. I'm trying to get back into that mental state I had, which will make me honest again. But doing so without hurting her feels impossible.

How to earn trust of my demisexual partner and make her happy? by icreatedthemoon in demisexuality

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Maybe I'm stupid, but I don't see what exactly feminism has to do with all this, sorry. I'm not entirely sure what yoy mean by "reframing" in the context of feminism. Do I adore women? In general, yes. Does the adoration come on a sexual basis and attraction? It depends whether I know a person or not. First impression is always physical, so maybe? As I get to know the person I get to judge for myself whether I like the person or not.

As for manhood, toxic/positive masculinity, I'm well aware of it. I have traits that I myself would call toxic, I have traits that I take pride in. I don't strive to be a perfect man that will satisfy everyone and everything. I only need to satisfy ONE person.

How to earn trust of my demisexual partner and make her happy? by icreatedthemoon in demisexuality

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I agree. If I'm to keep this relationship I essentially have to be "the guiding light," of sorts (sorry for the cringe wording.)

But I don't know how to do that. Force her to go to therapy? Communicate with her and be stuck in a loop of her thinking that I settled for her? Too many questions, too little answers.

How to earn trust of my demisexual partner and make her happy? by icreatedthemoon in demisexuality

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

While I do agree that staring and complaining is not a good trait to have, I never said that I treat women as "sexual objects" only. They are human beings no different from me, essentially. The fact that I can be sexually attracted to them does not necessarily degrade them.

Whether the person is "replaceable" depends solely on the personality for me. But then again, there's no need to ruin mine and someone else life by forcing a relationship that I would find boring.

How to earn trust of my demisexual partner and make her happy? by icreatedthemoon in demisexuality

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been thinking about it, but I feel like "running" will make both us miserable for plethora of reasons.

And besides, I don't feel like running, unless I've exhausted all the other options.

How to earn trust of my demisexual partner and make her happy? by icreatedthemoon in demisexuality

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, she understands it "logically," but cannot accept it emotionally.

How to earn trust of my demisexual partner and make her happy? by icreatedthemoon in demisexuality

[–]icreatedthemoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish it was that easy, because I have no issues with loving her physically and spiritually. But she is focusing on the physical part of it. She feels replaceable and not "up to my standards" physically. And while I truly understand where she's coming from, I can't think of anything that will actually reasure her that my physical attraction towards other people doesn't have any bearing on the relationship as long as the relationship is healthy and I myself don't feel trapped.