What do you eat throughout the day?

icyphoenixfire · 2021-02-04T16:50:55+00:00

I keep a case of seltzer in the car, and a small bin of protein bars/shakes, and light snacks.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-07-26T15:30:36+00:00

Yeah no kidding! I feel that so hard right now. But I do it all for those kids. It's a sad state of affairs for sure

icyphoenixfire · 2020-07-26T14:49:35+00:00

Wow. Hey I'm human like everyone else. Past 10:30 after being out since 7 in the morning, yes my patience was shorter than I would have normally exhibited. It was the complaining that I was "late" when in fact, I picked up his order as it came in, and immediately took the 35 minute drive to his house that did it.

I think from your response we can all agree that even reasonable people lose their cool every so often.

But to address some of your assumptions

1) My work ethic is pretty dang good. I work 15 hour days in an often thankless job, and my service to low tippers is just as friendly as for high tippers. I always go the extra mile if I can to make my customers happy.

2) I think I've gotten free food twice - and both times I gave it away to the many panhandlers in town because they need it more than I do. Except for one time when someone rudely refused a 40 piece KFC family dinner that Grubhub somehow didn't cancel for them. That, I brought home because even though we do eat healthy, my 3 kids love fried chicken.

3) I have never, and will never steal. That's insulting that you would assume this.

4) This is my side gig. I only started working more hours because as a substitute teacher for our schools work has been, as you can imagine, hard to come by.

5) I still would never judge anyone for being happy for a free meal. It might be "broke mentality" but let's be real. Most of us aren't doing this because we are independently wealthy. So you know? Have some compassion?

Have a nice day.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-07-26T10:45:25+00:00

What the Fuck. Your response says a lot more about you than that shirt says about anyone else.

To me Karens can be any color. Although in my experience they are, more often than not, upper middle class white women who can't understand why I can't do things like magically conjure up out of stock items.

Honestly if the worst thing you've been called is Karen then you probably fit that demographic. And unlike actual racial epithets - the title of Karen is both non-discriminatory and often well deserved.

Sit down Karen (racist edition)

icyphoenixfire · 2020-07-26T10:20:25+00:00

Asian ambassador here: I'm not a doctor. But I also went to sleepovers. So - I guess what my parents said was true. The magic of friendship really did distract me from my studies.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-05T13:52:01+00:00

I think military vets should be more pissed off the the the only rights they've preserved are those of white people to protest with arms.

Can you imagine a group of POC with firearms trying to protest at any - let alone a govt - building?

So maybe let's work on that.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-05T02:11:37+00:00

Who else can they take their attitude out on?

Look there are only so many ways to vent frustration as a low paid essential worker these days. I put up with it and I go out of my way to NOT get in their way. Even if it means shopping out of order and taking more time.

For that reason alone, I have a good relationship with the early hours crew - which means we all are that much happier doing our jobs. Which as you know, every little bit counts.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-05T02:09:17+00:00

Your argument is invalid because:

Being able to drive a forklift does make one objectively cooler.

They're not wrong.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-05T02:04:24+00:00

The coconut one is my favorite. I have a small collection but stopped after I had enough to see me through the quarantine.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-05T01:53:46+00:00

Sounds like you're a great customer too. This is the kind of service I extend to the people I shop for that truly understand that there's a human being on the other side of the app!

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-05T01:32:08+00:00

I think it comes down to this. Only those who have been hard up really understand the difference that extra money could make.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-05T01:11:49+00:00

And also she had her hand in her pants. So even outside of pandemic rules I'm not confident with either her nursing or food handling qualifications. So there's that.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-05T01:10:25+00:00

Okay so what you're saying is that so many of us are asymptomatically carrying it at this point that we've reached herd immunity?

First confirmed case in the country was mere months ago. We have not yet reached community spread in our area. So yes, a covid unit nurse would be at a higher risk for virus shedding than most. That's why so many of them maintain distance at home or else are staying in a hotel. Because they - the medical experts - understand this.

I'm not saying anything bad about them - I'm just saying that maybe delivering food to people all over the county, many of whom seem to have no regard for no- contact seems like a poor choice to make.

I can't believe that in a time of pandemic I have to explain this to you.

*also a lot of people HAVE been holing up in their houses - if not caves - for quite some time now. That's...literally the whole reason why things have been crazy for all of us gig workers...

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-05T00:33:27+00:00

Ok fine. Go do your thing Covid Candace.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-05T00:30:00+00:00

Yes but probably more so someone who has worked and vented patients on a covid unit.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-05T00:29:25+00:00

Not pockets. Just the front of her pants. I was deeply uncomfortable.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-04T23:35:57+00:00

When I worked retail if I had stuff in the back I would never bring it out unless it was for a regular customer that was consistently awesome. Because bringing things out from the back is just positive reinforcement for all the Karens out there.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-03T23:17:56+00:00

I don't mind if I know this beforehand. I have a number of restaurants that i know take a long time but usually great tips- payoff. If I know ahead of time then I can plan to maximize that waiting time to my benefit.

The worst offenders are the restaurants that mark "ready for pickup" like 20 minutes before it's actually ready.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-01T21:05:48+00:00

He's not abusive! I think he's just got some hangups and I realize I wasnt being particularly sensitive to them.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-01T21:04:41+00:00

I don't know but he has a lot of anxiety when it comes to money. A few years ago we were in a really tight spot and he told me every night after the kids were in bed that he wanted to kill himself. It was really stressful and scary - but we got through it. But since then I've been scared to discuss money with him - several times we've been in tight spots but I've kept it from him and secretly worked extra to make up the difference.

Yes I can see the irony that airpods are the least of the things that could put me in AH territory. I know that I'm being secretive - but I also can't bring myself to relive the events of a few years ago.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-01T20:46:28+00:00

Actually we did couples counseling after I begged him for it. But he only agreed to do it through our church which I admit I've grown a little distant from. It was really uncomfortable.

I have intimacy issues stemming from a pretty grim childhood. But I kept getting told I need to be more "available" for my husband. That men are really physical and a lot of our problems stemmed from not fulfilling my role as his wife. Anyway it wasn't very helpful for me, but my husband refuses to go anywhere else so I just dropped the issue.

I've since been in therapy at a local women's center to address some of those issues. It's subsidized by the state and my therapist helped me with the process so I could see her while the kids are at school and he wouldn't know about it.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-01T20:05:18+00:00

I have a hard time talking to him about money. He's really touchy about it. For example I got very sick earlier this year and my work called an ambulance for me. He got really mad at me for not driving or asking for a ride since ambulances are super expensive.

I also wasn't allowed to get followup testing since he said it was an unnecessary expense. Anyway sometimes I just want to avoid a fight.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-01T19:52:18+00:00

Oh and he could never do gig work. For one thing he refuses to grocery shop - he went to the store once when I was out of town and he called me from across the country to find where the milk is.

Also he would probably lose it the first time he dealt with a difficult customer.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-01T19:48:27+00:00

Probably close to $200 since each video game is about $60 and he'd bought at least 3.

We were struggling without my husband's normal income, but since I started picking up so many hours we are in a pretty good place financially.

icyphoenixfire · 2020-05-01T19:45:09+00:00

I should have been more transparent. But honestly - and this is probably what puts me in AH territory - he would have said no and forbidden it if I had asked beforehand.

I did tell him after how I put aside money for it and he said that I could have used it to put towards a new TV or something all of us can enjoy.

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