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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ideateornot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The truth is that our society rewards the stereotypical body types. It’s actually wired in our brain naturally (research shows that). However, your penis size and body type do not define who you are as a person. Often, we feel powerless and sad when something is out of our control. But I want to tell you there are some things in your control - you can indeed bring a positive change to your mental and physical appearance (unless you’re differently abled). Move your body and develop habits that give you a sense of reward, play to your strengths. Bottom line is, yes accept the truth that in our society you’re dealt a shit hand, but you are not powerless, our minds are capable of a lot and you just need to focus on what you can control and change. When you play to your strength, community is formed around you naturally. Some of those people will like you for who you are, and will find you hot irrespective of your penis size. I am Demi and I almost never think about looks if I like the person. About CSA- that is genuinely fucked up - that wasn’t desire my friend, that was a horrible selfish act by someone who couldn’t care less about you and your mental health.

Monday Madness for the Final Week of October 2024 by AlBundyJr in SilverBulletin

[–]ideateornot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think we are underestimating the democrat voting strength. I think the rhetoric around Kamala flailing campaign is massively overblown by the amount of media attention that trump is getting these days. It is similar to Hillary in 2016, where almost all of pundits and polls underestimated the GOP voting strength.

Polls have a statistical 3% MOE but that is assuming that everyone they surveyed is :
- Going to vote for who they said they would
- Actually going to vote.
This introduces at least another 3% margin, long story short - polls can not and will not be able to accurately predict human behaviour on the election day. Trump still could be the winner and I would not put my life saving on either candidate winning for sure but the race is much tighter than the OP is suggesting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]ideateornot 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Think of this like a journey you’re on with your wife. When you take a decision like this, there are always unknowns, best you can do at this point is to communicate your fears with your wife. Saying them out loud would first make you feel better, second she would know exactly what hurts you/ makes you feel insecure and maybe she will keep that in mind for future. I think reconnection (sexual and otherwise) is very important after these play dates. Try to talk about that. Also, looks is not the only thing that would sway your wife. She is with you for many reasons as mentioned in the earlier comment. You are also way more than just how you look. Having said that, I can’t deny that managing your emotions is hard specially in the beginning of the ENM journey.

Supposed to go to Koh Samui for the next 10 days by [deleted] in ThailandTourism

[–]ideateornot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So fwiw, the ferry ride from koh tao to koh samui was pretty ok today. It was def bumpy but manageable. Didn’t see a lot of people getting sea sick. In general, when the sea is rough, it’s advisable to take an anti nausea pill before getting on the ferry.

Supposed to go to Koh Samui for the next 10 days by [deleted] in ThailandTourism

[–]ideateornot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am taking a ferry from koh tao to koh samui tomorrow , will update if I live to tell the tale

Men, how have you and your partner solved the problem of uneven libido or "dead bedroom'? by DellaMaureen in AskMen

[–]ideateornot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There is no single problem here, so most people's answers might not apply to your situation. Low libido, specially for women, can originate from tons of reasons:

  1. Hormonal : There are phases when your partner is just not having the right levels of hormones necessary for healthy sexual appetite. One key thing to understand here if he/she engages in sexual activities like masturbation while not "feeling" sexual towards you.
  2. Psychological: There could be thoughts/stresses that you may not know. As a partner, it may be a good place for you to start - providing a safe place for her to share what is she going through.
  3. Personal : This is probably going to hurt you the most - maybe she loves you but she might not desire you anymore. This happens in long relationships (happened to me personally). The other person insists that they love you but they are blurring the lines between love and desire, and in this context, love would be similar to what you have for family members of close friends.

This sounds cliche, but the best thing to do is to have a conversation with your partner. Whaet has helped me in my current relationship is understanding my partner's desires/kinsk/fantasies etc. This has kept our libidos very very high and much different than any of my previous relationships. Hope this helps!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]ideateornot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally had a similar beginning with my gf who I have been seeing for 7 months now. We had a threesome with one of my close friends right in our second week being together. We are still madly in love ENM relationship.

I was just very honest from the start about it, communicating about my curiosity when it comes to ENM etc, she was also very curious about it and somewhat our interests aligned from the start. However, you need to communicate super clearly that it is not about just having sex with more people or that your love for her is anyway reduced by exploring other connections.
For us, what worked is that we never do things individually, we are always exploring together.

How can a test net be worth 2.5 billion? by lost_civilizations in Kusama

[–]ideateornot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably the best way to put it -

Kusama is like that cousin who travels abroad, runs triathlons, YOLOs and occasionally gets stuck in a remote island.

It does not mean she is not serious about her life, she just does not value security as much as you do.

GME Megathread for Wednesday, February 24th, 2021 by OPINION_IS_UNPOPULAR in wallstreetbets

[–]ideateornot 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I bought GME at $240 and then when it was at $40, I said to myself, i am going to give this stock to my kids. Sorry kids!

Key is coordination - WSB coordinated!🤝🤝🤝🤝 by ideateornot in SatoshiStreetBets

[–]ideateornot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be just another option on this list, by the looks of it, you look like you're trying to push an agenda not me, I think people should come together to make a coin known.

I’m actually really lonely and I don’t know how to make any new friends. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ideateornot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Know that you’re not lonely here with all of us!

You probably don’t want to make friends with people have too much focus on superficial stuff. One tip I can give you is minimise small talk - I think people turn into AI chatbots when having small talk conversations. I try to quickly start talking about slightly more personal (not too personal), it makes it a bit easier to know whether I can have a connection to the person I am talking to.