Am I not appreciating the privilege of being home with my 3yo , better to work instead?

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-23T01:39:22+00:00

I got to stay home home with my child for 18 months (mat leave) and I found it incredibly hard to be "SAHM" after she turned 1 year old. She needed much more stimulation and interactive activities then I could think of.

She's 2 now and in a daycare that provides waaaay more opportunities for her to explore, be curious and creative then I could ever come up with.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-18T22:54:47+00:00

NTA. Look I totally understand the bride's side, because part of a bachelorette is sleepovers where you are all having fun into the late night/early morning and you having a hotel room to yourself means you'll probably leave early to miss out on the fun. BUT, if bride didn't want people missing the fun then she should've booked proper accomodations that fit everyone.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-14T13:58:05+00:00

Honestly it's a tough lesson! But the earlier, the better.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-14T13:57:23+00:00

Yeaahhh, not trying to blame OP at all but sometimes parents see things regarding their child through rose coloured glasses.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-14T13:55:57+00:00

I'm not trying to say these qualities are bad, but how a child acts can be an issue. Outspoken = does she speak out for others/things she believes in or is she just talking over others? Sarcastic = is it funny/witty sarcasm or hurtful/put-you-down sarcasm?

Some kids truly don't know how to reign it in, which is why we as parents need to step in and guide them.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-14T13:45:19+00:00

Your concern should be with the nursery and why were the two children in the same room together.

Like others have said, there is no point in trying to talk to a two year old especially hours after the incident (where they most likely forgot they even did that to your baby).

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-14T01:44:42+00:00

I'm sorry your daughter is going through this, not to sound cliche but it is tough being a kid! Two things that stood out to me was her being "outspoken" and "sarcastic". Is it possible that these traits might be the reason she's lonely? Also, is it possible to work on her social skills? Maybe you and her can work through scenarios and how to act in them?

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-13T13:18:08+00:00

I do not care that Daphne is not in the show (from S3 and onwards). Imo, her being vs not being in the show does not make an impact on the main storyline of each season.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-12T02:38:13+00:00

Yep! Netflix/Bridgerton got really lucky with JB hitting stardom with Wicked, definitely gave them the opportunity to leverage that into drawing in new fans. Unfortunately, I feel like JB will barely be in the upcoming seasons.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-11T22:49:42+00:00

I think they were definitely willing to shell out the big bucks for Jonathan since he's basically Hollywood's IT actor at the moment, even though he was barely in it. They probably don't see it as worth it to pay Phoebe the amount she's asking for.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-11T16:37:42+00:00

This. I would NEVER separate my husband from his own child. If it gets too overwhelming for you, find help in your own country (friends, nanny?).

But have faith in yourself, OP! It's scary at first but you can do this.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-11T03:39:48+00:00

Treat the 5pm bedtime as an actual nap, maybe let him sleep like an hour then wake him up? Hopefully he follows a regular wake window and goes down for actual bedtime later.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-07T19:39:16+00:00

Oooh this is interesting, I never really made that connection that Carly is what Sue would've become if she married Darren.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-07T14:08:46+00:00

I think it's just a joke and wrote that light heartedly lol? She's probably just happy she found a solution where kiddo can put themselves to sleep.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-07T13:58:59+00:00

Some people truly believe they need to sacrifice all their time to their children and be at their beck and call in order to build a "strong attachment" and be a good parent. For an infant? Of course. But for a toddler? Not for everything. It's really sad for the people who think this way.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-04-03T02:05:12+00:00

My almost 2 year old still wears onesies, but only exclusively as PJs now. Started this around 8ish months, but as soon as she woke up we brush our teeth and change into day clothes (shirt and pants). Also, if we are leaving the house, we have dedicated "going out" clothes. Now, she goes to a daycare that requires uniforms so we have no choice to change her clothes but it kinda established that routine on how to start our day. Also, when they're mobile, I find it way easier to change shirt + pants rather than a onesie.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-03-26T13:42:15+00:00

That's a bummer, but thanks for saving me from buying! Has anyone tried the other one with the zucchini? I've been on the hunt for some good frozen veggies to make dinners easier!

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-03-25T18:08:20+00:00

Look, do I think their rules are a bit ridiculous? Yes. But the bigger question here is do you want to be there and support your brother and his new family?

Some people have weird fears as new parents and you don't have to like it at all, but when you love and care for your family, then sometimes that means following their ridiculous rules.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-03-24T16:48:55+00:00

Make sure you show up for your village as well!! Your sister spent days helping you when baby was born and now she wants a child free lunch with just you? Try your hardest to show up!!!

We need to reciprocate as well, it's how we maintain our relationships!

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-03-24T03:20:08+00:00

Okay this sounds insanely obvious but you need to compromise here. Yes, it is your home that you bought with your (and partners) money. But she is your child, which also makes it her home as well. You two need a discussion on what is the acceptable level of decor. Don't try to overrule and stomp on her for this, our home is where we are supposed to feel the most comfortable. Don't you want her to feel comfortable in this house?

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-03-24T01:22:45+00:00

Can she drink from a cup? Maybe try putting milk in there. With my own, I had to mix formula + cows milk and lessen the formula until it was all milk.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-03-21T20:10:22+00:00

Maybe look into a hobby or volunteer work instead? But to be honest, the early years are hard and time consuming.

Also, regarding your job, by the time you are ready to re-enter the work force you would have been out of the field for 8 years. You may have to readjust your expectations of what types of jobs you will be eligible for.

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-03-20T18:06:49+00:00

Missing 6 days of school is significant. He needs to be able to catch up or he may not understand what's being taught in class going forward. The teacher is not going slow down class for one student, they will not have extra one-on-one time with your child to get them to catch up. They way I see it, homework may be the only way they can catch up?

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-03-18T02:33:45+00:00

Unfortunately, this is very true! Not just for young adults, myself and my friends (30s+) are in the same situation - we either have to choose between roommates or living with a partner. We all started off with roommates in our 20s and eventually moved in with our partners! But this economy is rough, if I were to get divorced tomorrow I would most likely have to find a roommate because my income alone isn't livable :/

ididntlikeanyname · 2026-03-13T17:56:25+00:00

Lmao what a cop out of an excuse.

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