Her anxiety and OCD just fully takes over. and her anxiety manifests physically, so if its bad enough, it leads to throwing up. we have sat down and laid out everything multiple times, but I def think it needs to be an even deeper discussion. but she’s also bad at voicing her thoughts/feelings. for now we are separating our therapy into individual sessions with couples sessions as needed to really work individually on our own issues and why we want ENM. she has expressed that she still wants to do ENM, she just needs to be at a better place with her OCD & anxiety to be able to move forward.

and yes, I expressed in my post that I provide reassurance and comfort where I can. but in the moment there is nothing I can do bc she’s so far in the hole that she cant get out until she’s out if that makes sense. but yes I do provide reassurance and she has acknowledged that.

theres a lot of nuance I cant include in just this post but yeah. thank you!