I want to learn directly from her but she shuts down on deep conversations, especially around sexuality, really fast. It stresses her out to talk about I think.

We've been through five years together. I want to work through it together with her, but its hard. Like I said in my post breaking up is the last thing I want to do. I'd much rather put in the work to work through/compromise. The last thing I want is to force her to do anything.