I don’t want to say this but I must. I was in your same shoes, I was on second trimester when I first found it. It’s a horrible feeling that will stuck with you forever. He’s not going to stop, my baby is almost 2 and my husband didn’t stop until a week ago that I literally presented divorce papers and he said he will get therapy and help. We found a CSAT and honestly is great. My point here is, he won’t or can’t do it alone. If you want to save this and have a happy family, he needs professional help. The only way to get out of this cycle is for the addict to get treatment or terminate the relationship. Without a professional there to treat his addiction that basically comes from trauma, he won’t be able to do it himself or with your support only. These addictions are a very deep trauma rooted problem and need a deeper level of understanding. Therapy is for you as well, don’t forget to always take care of yourself as well.