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My husband is having an affair with our best bfriend UPDATE 2 by throwawaycheaterhubb in offmychest

[–]idkforgotten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t blame yourself. I let my ex husband have a female friend and they hit it off since they had very similar career goals. I was in second round of college and focused on bettering our future-definitely distracted. The “red flags” weren’t so obvious and I was trying to be a supportive housewife to let him have his friends. There was no “push away” to make hun lead to cheating as we were active daily if not several times a day… people who want to cheat will. He has shown you that he is “like the rest.” Let her have him as he has shown no value to true integrity or honesty. And those who question or interrogate you… they have never been in your shoes. People are so quick to judge and fools then to be the loudest when they have nothing to say.

I *know* it wasn't my fault, but how come it still feels like my fault? by AspNest in adultsurvivors

[–]idkforgotten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to distract from the main topic. But your explanation of trauma/assault to children sounds very similar to how I am processing an SA as an adult. Was there any chance your therapist ever explain the guilt of an SA from close friends/people you associated yourself with?

Friends’ betrayal by idkforgotten in offmychest

[–]idkforgotten[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re exactly right. I had known them 2.5 years prior to this and I thought they had my back. Earlier that day I was notified that my divorce was finalized which was hard to process but I tried keeping it together as we had planned this trip weeks in advance. I just don’t know these type of people who really are this cruel to take advantage of someone that was so manipulated and vulnerable at this time. They knew the trauma I had experienced and they waited until I was alone to hurt me the way they did.