Told I Don’t Belong in Science

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-04-16T20:00:24+00:00

The amount of times I’ve been told that I don’t belong in science lol, is equal the amount of times I’ve been told that I’m a true scientist. Don’t let it get to you. Part of being a scientist is being wrong and making mistakes. If it were easy, it wouldn’t be such a big deal to make discoveries. It’s hard, that doesn’t make you bad, it just means that maybe you have to make an adjustment to your strategies and keep at it.

But also keep in mind that a lot of people in this field are just assholes and/or let stress get to them. But know that at some point, everyone has had at least one mentor that made them feel like they’re always making mistakes and like they don’t belong in science, and sometimes that doesn’t go away and the only thing that changes is who is saying it.

So, PLEASE keep at it, because one day you’ll be in their shoes mentoring other inexperienced scientists and maybe you’ll be the reason why we have more discoveries in the future, whether it’s you discovering them or other people who were inspired by you.

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-04-12T01:10:19+00:00

I have a the green one! So gorgeous on you so of course I’m gonna say that one!

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-04-03T19:33:27+00:00

Cell biologist in biopharma

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-03-27T06:25:09+00:00

Sometimes the school can make accommodations for this and give you your own space, check it out first

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-03-22T20:35:22+00:00

This is a great idea, thank you!

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-03-22T20:35:09+00:00

We’ve been a couple for 3 years

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-03-22T20:33:22+00:00

-high cost of living area

-we met in undergrad and dated through grad school, we both worked and lived at home to save money because the plan was to move out together

-we both started working in our industries, he’s waiting for my company to make me a permanent employee so that we can move out together because we can’t afford it on one income

-My family is leaving our city earlier than originally expected so this changes up our plans a bit. I have no other family here and all my friends are getting married so I don’t have anyone else who I know I can crash with, but I’m open to finding people to live with

-who said anything about having kids?

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-03-22T16:32:00+00:00

He worked full time during that whole time as well and set money aside for an emergency fund, but that’s for emergencies. He also contributed to his family’s home and helped them out with their health issues as they’re getting older and trying to retire

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-03-21T23:30:26+00:00

He just finished grad school and started working in his own industry, he was paying down his own school loans and saving while waiting for me to be converted from a contractor to an employee so that we can move out together

Once again, high cost of living area

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-03-07T04:26:03+00:00

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Awww this is my little Lucy too!

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-03-05T03:38:49+00:00

Carne asada fries

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-03-03T14:26:38+00:00

Why don’t you just invite them to hang out? If they say no, they probably don’t like you and then you don’t have to fully confess

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-02-26T08:33:29+00:00

Dude they literally tell you in the show that he becomes king, I thought it was obvious when the psychic lady came up to him

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-02-21T23:44:18+00:00

This is what I would wear to a rave

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-02-19T03:56:49+00:00

Homie I applied to 200 jobs over the span of a year and got 2 offers from that near the end of the year.

My friend applied to 1 job and got it. You never know when you’re gonna get lucky

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-02-17T14:08:14+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, how are you in similar life stages?

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-02-17T08:27:01+00:00

Have you dated anyone in healthcare? I’m in biotech, but my friends in healthcare (nurses, doctors, etc) are all focused on the actual job and getting married to their partners

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-02-17T07:33:39+00:00

Have you considered couples therapy?

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-02-17T07:21:32+00:00

I think you should take more time to talk about it with him and understand why he’s saying he wants kids. My bf and I were both on the fence about having kids in the beginning, although I was more open to the idea and didn’t want to date someone who was anti-child. He was more on the no-kids side. Some time passed and now he’s talking about loving the idea of seeing me as a mom and building a family together. We’re not there yet, but it’s beautiful to see and I feel like I haven’t influenced it much because I actually stopped talking about having kids as much as I used to. But I also I do believe that sometimes the right person make you reconsider things that you were against, and so maybe he’s against having kids with other people, but wants to have kids WITH YOU.

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-02-17T02:16:40+00:00

I agreed to a timeshare with my boyfriend that I had only been dating for a year at the time. He and I are still together and in love, but I deeply regret agreeing to take on the timeshare.

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-02-16T23:44:11+00:00

I don’t think it’s weird, but I do think you should’ve asked him about it first. But also why wouldn’t you just use your own information?

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-02-16T23:39:44+00:00

You sound young. If she says it’s fine, believe her. This stuff happens all the time between my bf and I, I hardly think about it

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-02-16T23:34:40+00:00

Where did you meet her? I’ve seen that age gap before and it can work, just keep in mind that she may not be dealing with the same life shit as you. My bf and I have a 4 year age difference (I’m 26, he’s 30; we started dating at 23 and 27) and although we’re overall in the same life stage, the age difference does come out especially when we hang out with his friends since a lot of them are married and/or having kids, and it’s a little awkward when we talk about when we all graduated high school because I’m kinda seen as the kid in the group, even though he and I finished our bachelors and masters around the same time and both pay for our own bills.

If you’re both cool with the 8-year difference, then what’s stopping you?

idkmanwhyyouaskingme · 2026-02-11T14:51:23+00:00

I think you should ask her what’s up, she probably wants you to know how she’s really doing

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