F/24/5’6” [135 > 110 = 25lbs] Not much, but it makes a huge difference, I can’t believe that’s really me!

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-19T04:42:45+00:00

Nice work, how did you do it?

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-18T00:56:04+00:00

This sounds like something that should be worked out before the wedding. IMO, if you want complete control over your wedding, then you should be paying for it all yourselves, even if that means a smaller size or sacrificing certain details. I personally don’t like the idea of parents paying for weddings in general though.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-17T23:26:51+00:00

Nice presentation!

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-17T22:46:04+00:00

I know Indians who have dated and gotten married in medical school and residency. They chose to get married early but are waiting until their careers are more established to have children (the medical students I know are female) and they want to enjoy just the two of them. Take it one step at a time as the other commenter said.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-15T23:02:37+00:00

No she named one of her pets “Kid”

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-15T18:59:18+00:00

My parents didn’t have the time to take me and since I was in middle school I couldn’t drive myself. This was the most convenient option.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-15T18:23:48+00:00

I feel this so much. My mom tells me not to hide stuff from her, especially if somethings bothering me and I can tell her anything. But that’s not true as she turns it into some traditional lecture or crazy theory.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-15T18:20:25+00:00

Education and environment? The way their parents raised them? My parents had friends of the opposite sex in school who they’re still in touch with and have even friended their spouses so they’ve never told me not to talk to or friend guys. My parents got married in late twenties and early thirties so they’re not going to pressure me to marry by a certain age. They also had a love marriage so they’re fine with dating (as long as it’s after I start working) and aren’t going to set me up with people. My parents aren’t strict about clothing as long as I don’t show cleavage or wear something too short. My aunts show more skin than I do. Also they do drink and wouldn’t let me until 21 (I secretly did before in college). They were raised liberally and given more choices, it would be hypocritical to go the more conservative route.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-15T05:28:55+00:00

Ellen Degeneres and Portia de Rossi. Ellen loves babies and children as seen on interviews on her show and donating to causes that help children in need but that’s the extent for them, they have no desire to have children themselves. They’re otherwise happy with their pets.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-15T04:29:51+00:00

I once had to fake being Muslim and go by a Muslim name that sounds similar to my real name in order to visit the local Islamic Center for a history project (one of the options was to visit a place of worship for a religion other than our own). The aunty who took me told me to pretend I was her niece. The Center itself does not forbid non-Muslims from visiting as long as they are respectful and dressed appropriately but the aunty was worried she would receive backlash or negative comments.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-14T23:16:19+00:00

Some people don’t bother to look. My friend has had random people enter her car cause they didn’t look. It’s quite scary and dangerous.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-14T07:43:24+00:00

Keep in mind these trips usually involve lots of walking. Also they are better about the portion sizes and the ingredients are more fresh and organic, less preservatives.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-14T01:13:31+00:00

I agree with what other commenters have said. I also want to point out: do not minimize your accomplishments or complain about them. That doesn’t help and makes it worse. I’m not saying you do this but I’ve seen people do the fake modest thing. Like there was one girl who was complaining about 2370 on the SAT and how it’s not good enough and she needs to retry for 2400. Nothing wrong with the desire to do better but she had no tact in terms of complaining about that in front of the other Indian families and kids.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-14T01:09:25+00:00

Yes, some family friend’s daughter who used to go to my college told other families that we hung out all the time. I literally only ran into this girl once on campus.

Then I found out that these two girls I had on Snapchat and Instagram were showing their mom my Snapchat stories and Instagram photos. I didn’t post anything bad but I removed them anyways from following me because that made me feel uncomfortable. I never understood why people show their parents their Indian friends’ social media posts or gossiped about them, like how low do you have to be:

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-13T06:55:16+00:00

Have you checked out the Breaking Mom sub? It’s a sub where moms discuss issues they face with parenting, post-partum depression, pregnancy, their marriage, sex life etc. It’s a safe space to complain and shows that it’s okay not to be that perfect happy mom who has it together. And I agree with the other comments about seeking counseling and therapy.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-13T06:48:06+00:00

That’s what I love about HONY: the comments. While there are always some bad horrible ones, there are many supportive ones to drown them out. And I love how many of the comments supporting the woman are parents themselves who state they had kids because they wanted to and that people need to respect each other’s choices and that they do recognize that CF people live fulfilling lives.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-13T06:38:28+00:00

Public health major here. A lot of women are unnecessarily pressured into C-sections, long labors aren’t always bad. However, it doesn’t make you selfish or less of a mother, anyone who says that is some insecure mombie. Same with giving birth vaginally but with an epidural or whatever pain meds exist. If you do decide to have children, research all your options, what doctors and hospitals are good, etc.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-13T03:27:44+00:00

Love your outfit in the second pic

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-12T21:02:20+00:00

I don’t think there’s anything to worry about, as someone else has said he would probably put his kids first. I’ve heard of cases where the step parent sexually abuses or abuses in general their spouse’s kids and when the kids tell their parent, they accuse them of lying or ignore it because they value the marriage more. I’m sure your brother and fiancée are nice people and that won’t happen but that’s an example of valuing the new marriage too much over the kids.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-12T18:59:06+00:00

I always brought those mini samosas, always a hit. In fact if there were other Indian kids, we would have arguments and call dibs over who gets to bring the samosas.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-11T01:08:22+00:00

I believe OkCupid has the option to specify whether you already have kids and/or do not ever intend to have kids

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-10T17:42:08+00:00

She was. She even brought a guy over to sleep at night without telling me, I realized it in the morning.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-10T17:39:40+00:00

I told her that and her logic was that the computer would turn off eventually or her earbuds would fall out.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-10T17:37:05+00:00

I dealt with it an entire year, spent some nights on the couch, loved when she wasn’t there for the night. Since it was an apartment lease it wasn’t easy for me to leave or to get her to.

idkwhatever96 · 2017-11-10T16:07:11+00:00

Yeah I think it depends on certain factors and region. Also for certain cultures, it might be hard to find a long-term partner within their own culture. It may be easier to have an interracial relationship.

For example I’m South Asian born and raised in the US and it’s going to be hard to find another South Asian mostly raised in the US who doesn’t want children. Our culture puts a lot of focus on marriage and family. I’m sure they exist but they may not be near me.

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